what happens when you move in with your SO???

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

Originally posted by: chusteczka

Originally posted by: Beachboy
I've never made it past 8 months of living together. I figure if I can live with her for a year and still want to be with her then I can go the distance with her and get married. My "one year rule" has saved me more than once.

I know someone who had a similar "one year rule". What he did not know was that his live-in girlfriend also had a "one year rule" except that she would move out if he did not propose within that one year of living together.

She moved out after 11.5 months, breaking off the relationship; while he was out looking at diamond rings and planning a proposal. She ended up marrying a man who she did not like as much and he is still single. Both of them are still sad at the end result.

Do not forget that she may also be making plans.

Wow... I guess that's where that whole communication thing comes in...

 

[DivideBYZero]

Originally posted by: JS80
you realize how lazy and dirty girls are

I like that part. I like it alot.

 

[Kadarin]

So many different points of view here, and everyone's right...

You seriously do not know someone until you've lived with them.

 

[chusteczka]

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: chusteczka

Originally posted by: Beachboy
I've never made it past 8 months of living together. I figure if I can live with her for a year and still want to be with her then I can go the distance with her and get married. My "one year rule" has saved me more than once.

I know someone who had a similar "one year rule". What he did not know was that his live-in girlfriend also had a "one year rule" except that she would move out if he did not propose within that one year of living together.

She moved out after 11.5 months, breaking off the relationship; while he was out looking at diamond rings and planning a proposal. She ended up marrying a man who she did not like as much and he is still single. Both of them are still sad at the end result.

Do not forget that she may also be making plans.

when did they find out about each other's "rules"?

I do not know that bit of information since I am not that close to this person and the sadness was evident, thereby making such a question inappropriate.

 

[dug777]

Went out with my gf for nearly three years at residental college, then been living with her for nearly 2 years now. Been awesome

I'd say our relationship is vastly stronger as a result of the time living together, than as a result of the almost three years we went out before that....

 

[chambersc]

Originally posted by: chusteczka

Originally posted by: Eghck

Originally posted by: chusteczka

Originally posted by: Beachboy
I've never made it past 8 months of living together. I figure if I can live with her for a year and still want to be with her then I can go the distance with her and get married. My "one year rule" has saved me more than once.

I know someone who had a similar "one year rule". What he did not know was that his live-in girlfriend also had a "one year rule" except that she would move out if he did not propose within that one year of living together.

She moved out after 11.5 months, breaking off the relationship; while he was out looking at diamond rings and planning a proposal. She ended up marrying a man who she did not like as much and he is still single. Both of them are still sad at the end result.

Do not forget that she may also be making plans.

when did they find out about each other's "rules"?

I do not know that bit of information since I am not that close to this person and the sadness was evident, thereby making such a question inappropriate.

They were HORRIBLY inept at maintaing a relationship if they couldn't even discuss something as vital as each others "one year" rule. They should have gotten out much sooner and your "acquaintence" is an idiot for not communicating with his supposed loved one.

 

[Lola]

We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

 

[lokiju]

Should read: What Doesn't Change?

Everything has changed for the most part.

I sleep in a bed with someone every night, cook, clean, argue, joke, watch movies and TV shows based off of what we both want to see.

Share bills, share income, share all belongings.

Pretty much everything changes really.

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

 

[Lola]

I find it sad to think that once some women move in with their husband/BF sex lessens and chores become more.

I can understand that sex might lessen over time but don't think all women are going to stop having sex and get fat and cut their hair when they move in with/get married to their man.

 

[biostud]

6 weeks for now, still running great......

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: doze
The first few months are great, sex all the time, go out and do fun stuff together, pick out stuff for the place, dinner and drinking etc... The next few months are good, the sex becomes less frequent but still 2~3 times a week, you still do stuff together but not every night, your settled in to your place, and you start hanging out with your own groups of friends together now.

After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player.

But I would gladly do it all over again b/c most of the time it's better than living alone.

edit: We dated about 5 years, lived together about 3, was engaged for 1 year and split as the wedding planning began

"After the good part has been going on for a while all of a sudden you feel like your married. The sex goes down to 3~4 times a month and you never seem to have a dollar in your wallet. You start going out with other couples and you get a curfew again like when you were 15. When you start to look around your place you realize that there is ten tons of random crap everywhere and the only things you picked out in the place are the TV, PC, and DVD player."

That is only if you are a loser and pick someone that is a loser to live with. Don't believe suckers like the above.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
Don't do it.

Sex is overrated, friends counter loneliness, and break ups / divorces cost a lot of money/hassle....enough so that you may further stay in a miserable, unproductive, sexless, lacking-in-friendship relationship...

I had sex last night. Did you?

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

 

[JackOfHearts]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus

Originally posted by: SecretShadow
Don't do it.

Sex is overrated, friends counter loneliness, and break ups / divorces cost a lot of money/hassle....enough so that you may further stay in a miserable, unproductive, sexless, lacking-in-friendship relationship...

I had sex last night. Did you?

3 times this morning. Married 2 years, and living together for 5 years....

 

[Al Neri]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

mistake numero uno.

 

[imported_Rat]

You move in with her or she moves in with you?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Don Rodriguez

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

mistake numero uno.

:roll:
AND WHY was that a mistake? We are still together today... 6 year later.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: Don Rodriguez

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
We were dating for one year when we made the choice to live together.

We got a joint bank account, bought furniture, pots, pans, etc and that was that. Sure there were times we argued and fought and threatened to leave, but we didnt and when we got married, it was a smooth transitition, aside from the fact that i got my name changed on everything.

I told my husband this and i think he agrees... if we had never lived together BEFORE getting hitched, i do not think we would have lasted more than a few months!

It was the best experience for us. we learned about each others quirks and deepest personality issues and strengths.

Now, it is five years later and we are still together.

mistake numero uno.

:roll:
AND WHY was that a mistake? We are still together today... 6 year later.

Because if it didn't work out you could have easily lost a ton of money. It was a mistake imo... just because it worked out, doesn't make it less of a mistake.. you took a gamble and won this time...

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

 

[monk3y]

Been living with her for ~2 years now. No problems, it's all about communication. If something bothers you, let her know. Letting something linger will only make the eventual blowup huge.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: JulesMaximus
I moved in with a girlfriend once...that was 16 years ago. Now we're married and have a son. YMMV

LOL that YMMV is a nice touch.

I moved in with my GF 1 month ago today. So far so good.

 

[shadow9d9]

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: shadow9d9

Originally posted by: CVSiN

Originally posted by: grrl
You have LESS sex.

fixed.. and anyone that says any different hasnt lived with a woman for long...
and your "honey do" list grows beyond comprehension...

and if you think this is bad.. wait till the day after your honeymoon LOL.. everything changes

Sorry, but again, this only applies if you are a loser.

yah come back and talk to me in 15-20 years when you are old enough to talk from experience..

also quit dating teenieboppers and date a real woman 30-40 with a career and (or) kids and let me know how much time and desire she has for sex.

Umm, I am married...

but how old.. things were alot different when i was married to a 20 year old versus a 41 year old..

 

[krunchykrome]

I might move in with my gf next year. Only things I ask are:

1. Don;t talk to me in the morning, I'm a grouch
2. Don't change the channel when either football or Seinfeld is on.
3. Don't move things arround and rearrange everything all the time.