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What does a child "owe" their parent?

alkemyst

alkemyst

No Lifer

I don't disagree that a parent does owe a child certain things in life. These do not include many of the material things in the other thread like cars, private rooms, allowance, etc.

However, what do you think a child owes their parents?

Kids are pretty self-centered today and even mean to their parents (and many times physically violent).

Back in my day (I am 37) growing up you knew not trash things, talk back when you got busted for doing something wrong, tried to do well in school, tried to get a job/scholarship, etc...

Basically tried to make your parent's happy. Today it seems the last thing on a kid's mind.

No matter how crappy a kid has it, most parents are sacrificing a fucking boatload of their lives to just make ends meet and keep their kid(s) fitting in and progressing in life.

I say this as someone without kids so it's not coming out of defense or a bias.

What's your opinions?

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from a legal perspective, it varies on location

from a social perspective, it varies on social status and location

 
Originally posted by: NoShangriLa

Children owe their parents respect just as parents should respect their children.
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Exactly.
Considering my parents helped me get to the point where I am, I try to go out of my way to help repay them for supporting me.
This doesn't always mean money, but more like doing any they ask of me, calling often (usually daily) and just in general showing them the love and respect they showed me.
 
You guys can stop posting in this thread and post in the one from yesterday.
Sorry for the repost, I will never post again without searching first.
Sincerely yours,
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My children each owe us several thousand $$$.

From "loans," car payments that we made for them, other financial help, etc. (after they became "adults.")

Do I expect to ever get paid back? Yes...WILL I ever get paid back? Time will tell...but probably not.
 
Originally posted by: Soundmanred
You guys can stop posting in this thread and post in the one from yesterday.
Sorry for the repost, I will never post again without searching first.
Sincerely yours,
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sorry that I am not on ATOT 24/7...didn't see this topic asked seriously just a typical parody one.

 
Originally posted by: BoomerD
My children each owe us several thousand $$$.

From "loans," car payments that we made for them, other financial help, etc. (after they became "adults.")

Do I expect to ever get paid back? Yes...WILL I ever get paid back? Time will tell...but probably not.
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did you state the monies you gave them were loans?

Are you looking for financial compensation or emotional? If the latter that's cool, if the former I am not sure that's normal.

I could never repay my parents financially unless everyday I put some money/time aside to fully dedicate to them over the course of at least a decade really working at it.

 
..respect. and realize the parent is providing everything from the clothes on their back to the roof over their head. And it's the parents house and house rules. When they can afford to pay for all their needs including housing..then it's their house rules.
 
Originally posted by: alkemyst
Originally posted by: BoomerD
My children each owe us several thousand $$$.

From "loans," car payments that we made for them, other financial help, etc. (after they became "adults.")

Do I expect to ever get paid back? Yes...WILL I ever get paid back? Time will tell...but probably not.
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did you state the monies you gave them were loans?

Are you looking for financial compensation or emotional? If the latter that's cool, if the former I am not sure that's normal.

I could never repay my parents financially unless everyday I put some money/time aside to fully dedicate to them over the course of at least a decade really working at it.
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If it hadn't been specified as "loans," I wouldn't have stated it as such...

We're not talking about the run-of-the mill "Dad, I need $20 to go to the movies with my friends" kind of thing...

We're talking about paying $2500 for attorney fees with the promise of being paid back, or

"I REALLY want to buy that car from you, PLEASE let me make payments!" or

"Dad, I need $2000 to go home and visit my fiancee...can you loan me the money? I PROMISE I'll pay you back!"

"Dad, my (baby-daddy) lost his job and rent is due...will you loan us the money? We'll pay you back as soon as one of us gets a job."

We've always stepped up and helped our kids out, even though we KNEW the odds of being paid back were slim to none...but then again, I don't let them forget they owe us the $$$. They need to understand that it wasn't a gift...it was a loan.
 
I don't agree that children "owe" their parents for raising them. I don't act the way that I do out of debt to my parents, but rather out of love. I also think that your idea of "owing" implies an entitlement on the side of the parent. Abusive or otherwise bad parents certainly don't deserve the same things that good, supporting parents do. I also think that what parents should give to their children, and what kids should give back largely depends on their financial situations.
 
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