what does a child "owe" their parent?

[JohnCU]

my mom sent me money every month in college, so when she needs some now i give her some, but where does it end?

 

[KevinCU]

It ends when you (the child) says it ends.

 

[imported_Lothar]

Are you two related?

 

[SacrosanctFiend]

A child owes their parent up to and including the average cost to raise a child from their birth year + 18, or approximately $340,000, whichever is greater.

 

[Tweak155]

Interesting thread reversal. That being said, I'd give my father every dime I had to help him out if I had to. Wouldn't think twice.

 

[PieIsAwesome]

Originally posted by: Tweak155
Interesting thread reversal. That being said, I'd give my father every dime I had to help him out if I had to. Wouldn't think twice.

 

[datalink7]

A great deal in my opinion, though it depends on how good they were as parents. Shitty parents don't deserve anything, or very little.

As it was I had great parents. They just broke up recently and my dad has fallen on hard times so he's living with me. Figured it was the least I could do.

 

[Tweak155]

Originally posted by: datalink7
A great deal in my opinion, though it depends on how good they were as parents. Shitty parents don't deserve anything, or very little.

As it was I had great parents. They just broke up recently and my dad has fallen on hard times so he's living with me. Figured it was the least I could do.

:thumbsup:

I've worried about that since my dad's 2nd marriage seems shaky right now. I'd do whatever I could for him though and that is because I had that comfort from him growing up - He would do whatever he had to for me and would not think twice (although I was a good kid anyway).

I hope I can be just a good of father as he was to me when I was growing up there.

 

[Modular]

Originally posted by: Lothar
Are you two related?

Or the same person?

 

[vshah]

Originally posted by: Modular

Originally posted by: Lothar
Are you two related?

Or the same person?

that means i banged JohnCU :shocked:

 

[rasczak]

money damnit.

 

[Fullmetal Chocobo]

I have a bitter family history. But family != blood. And yes, there is a debt. Parents take care of kids, then kids take care of parents.

 

[TridenT]

I don't think my parents ever expect anything from me.

So what does a child owe? Depends upon the parents.

 

[imported_Lothar]

My mom paid for some of my education, and also didn't give me the boot when I turned 18 or start charging me for rent...Unlike other parents in the other thread.

I owe it to her that she gets whatever she wants. No exceptions.
I am where I am today because of her generousity.

Anytime I do something(bought new electric range, rented a hall for $500 for an event for her, changed her car battery last week) she always wants to pay me back for them but I refuse.
I just can't accept money from her anymore especially when I make more than she does.

Oh, and I can assure you that if I was kicked out of the house by 18 and she didn't help in any way to fund my college education like most American parents seem to do, she wouldn't get shit from me.

If she tells me she needs $20,000, I'll transfer it to her account instantly.

You reap what you sow.

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: SacrosanctFiend
A child owes their parent up to and including the average cost to raise a child from their birth year + 18, or approximately $340,000, whichever is greater.

Over $18k/yr per child..?

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: SacrosanctFiend
A child owes their parent up to and including the average cost to raise a child from their birth year + 18, or approximately $340,000, whichever is greater.

Over $18k/yr per child..?

http://www.babycenter.com/cost...ising-child-calculator

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: Amused

Originally posted by: JLee

Originally posted by: SacrosanctFiend
A child owes their parent up to and including the average cost to raise a child from their birth year + 18, or approximately $340,000, whichever is greater.

Over $18k/yr per child..?

http://www.babycenter.com/cost...ising-child-calculator

My parents had five, and I can tell you they didn't make that much..

Granted, they didn't pay for college, either.

 

[JulesMaximus]

It ends when they die.

 

[AnonymouseUser]

With 18 years (of their life) remaining, they move in with you. You pay all the bills, but they get a part-time job to buy their own toys.
With 16 years remaining, they depend on you to drive them everywhere, quit their part-time job, and rely on you for all bills and toys.
With 13 years remaining, you become their legal guardian, and they depend on you more and more.
With 10 years remaining, you send them to adult day care so you can continue to work.
With 4 years remaining, you quit your job to care for them daily, and begin changing diapers as needed.

 

[Strk]

I owe my father a "go f*ck yourself" if I ever saw him. My mom? I don't know.... Financials alone, she borrows money quite frequently ($12k right now, which is annoying me because I'd like to pay off my car, but my savings would be a bit too low for comfort). I'm paying for my student loan. I bought my first car. I always bought my own computers.

 

[nanette1985]

Originally posted by: AnonymouseUser
With 18 years (of their life) remaining, they move in with you. You pay all the bills, but they get a part-time job to buy their own toys.
With 16 years remaining, they depend on you to drive them everywhere, quit their part-time job, and rely on you for all bills and toys.
With 13 years remaining, you become their legal guardian, and they depend on you more and more.
With 10 years remaining, you send them to adult day care so you can continue to work.
With 4 years remaining, you quit your job to care for them daily, and begin changing diapers as needed.

:beer:so true!

 

[compman25]

Until you're 18 you're their slave. Get to work.

 

[TridenT]

Originally posted by: princess ida

Originally posted by: AnonymouseUser
With 18 years (of their life) remaining, they move in with you. You pay all the bills, but they get a part-time job to buy their own toys.
With 16 years remaining, they depend on you to drive them everywhere, quit their part-time job, and rely on you for all bills and toys.
With 13 years remaining, you become their legal guardian, and they depend on you more and more.
With 10 years remaining, you send them to adult day care so you can continue to work.
With 4 years remaining, you quit your job to care for them daily, and begin changing diapers as needed.

:beer:so true!

So not true.. There are those parents who don't need anyone, even at old ages. They sometimes die just in their sleep and never had any issues, just old age.

 

[Bignate603]

If they brought you up well you owe them what you can give them if they need it. If they were good parents they would have done the same for you when you were living with them.

 

[TridenT]

Originally posted by: Bignate603
If they brought you up well you owe them what you can give them if they need it. If they were good parents they would have done the same for you when you were living with them.

Depends. My parents would not just give me $20,000 and ask for it later. They just wouldn't give it