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Ernieb

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Just started dating with this guy for awhile.....
tonight he just asked me the second time if I have a boyfreind
I don't know why I feel sad about him asking me this kind of question
I feel stupid....and feel that this question is not requied at all
It is so obivious that we are bf and gf. It gives me a feeling that he still doesn't believe in me
I asked him back why would him ask me such question.. he told me to clam down and just answer him
seriously. I told i have already told you the first tiime you asked me.. i said other than you i do not have any boyfreinds..
Guys.. pls tell me why would this guy im with..who i would call my boyfreind..would ask me such stupid question??
I will have to tell him tomorrow to not to ask me that kind of question again..cuz if you love somebody..
you should give trust to that person..M I RIGHT??:disgust:
 
You might not have been clear the first time he asked. You need to be crystal clear and specific in what you say. Or else us guys won't understand your feminazi speak 😉
 
don't question him back, just answer clearly. we're not very smart creatures when it comes to stuff like this. you have to make it crystal clear for him.

<rhetoric> only if all the women would do that... </rhetoric>
 
well but isn't that when the first day i have agreed to be his girl friend..and isn't that already mean
that im single and available.. you don't need to ask me such a question for two times....
Is there anything I can do to prevent this? 🙂 LOL
how could none of my ex would ask me such question?
what is wrong here?
 
yea..i dunno why would he still feeling insecure..
no boyfreind ever asked me this question before
it makes me feel like.. someone is just walking out of a store..and someone stops this person
and ask..did you steal anything? this someone says NO I DID NOT.....why did you ask?
oh no just wanted to make sure that's all..

you know it kinda hurt my feelings... 🙁
 
Don't worry about it. Just try to talk to him about it once more and make sure you're clear on it. Don't let something like that hurt your feelings, cause it certainly wasn't intended to do that.

That's definitely odd though. I bet he's just incredulous that he has you and it hasn't settled in yet. 😛
 
He's feeling shallow aboot himself. Maybe he is thinking that hisluck is too good to be true to be going out with someone like you.


While it is nice to be noticed in this way, you have to ask yourself, "if he is feeling this insecure now, will he always feel this way?"

I had a girlfriend dump me because of this (in the opposite way). She felt that I would always be looking out for someone better than her so she started dating this guy who (she felt) couldn't get any better than her. It's funny, but this was the first time I had have been dumped for someone "less" than me.

Even if doesn't dump you, he'll pound you for questions of where you've been or who you've been with if he isn't around you 24/7. He might be a nice guy, but in the end, he'll never trust you.
 
The guy is insecure and possesive. Dump him. He will only hurt you in the end. He is not mature enough to be in a relationship where that question would even be asked.
 
Hard to tell for sure, but he souinds like he could be overly possessive (and that can be a dangerous thing). Are there any signs that he is a control freak or is obsessed with the idea that you might see other men (other than that question)? I would tread very carefully. Tell him once more and if he does not seem to "get it", I'd strongly urge you to stop seeing him. If he's obsessed about it after a few dates, who knows what he'll do once your "his" property. If he's just insecure then that's a whole other matter.
 
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