BoberFett is exactly right. Women like men who listen, and care about what we have to say. My husband and I used to stay up for hours, talking into the night before we started dating. It meant so much to me that he listened, even to the things he could never comprehend.
From a veteran. I have tried everything, and I do mean everything. Here are what i consider my favorites.
Clubs - if you share a genuine interest with a girl/woman (be it Chess, sci-fi, or hiking) you have already taken the first step toward friendship
Social sports - bowling, volleyball, etc. if you have the oportunity get some of your buddies and go do these things (co-ed games of course). Have fun, and be seen as fun (don't stand around like a bum and don't ogle over the ladies). Smile if you happen to catch their eye.
Certain types of bars - Interactive dance bars (country, swing, etc.). I know what you are thinking but I met Mrs. CinderElmo at a country bar. Not a Blue-brothers good-ol-boys type of country bar, but the kind where normal people go to listen and dance to country music. You might think I am crazy, but country line dancing and country couples dancing (cha cha, two-step, barn dance, etc.) makes it ridiculously easy to ask them to dance casually and to have fun.
Personal Adds - I know people who have really found some quality women using personal adds. Granted there are a lot of losers, but it at least gives you the opportunity to screen them first.
Closing thoughts; be and act positive. I lived in a distant city with no friends and I still joined clubs, went to bars, etc. and tried to have fun. No woman will come up to you if you are sitting on your couch or even if you go out and still sulk. Self confidence, once acquired, is your most valuable weapon in finding happiness with the opposite sex. If you don't believe in yourself it will be very hard to convince anyone you are a keeper. We all have flaws, but how you project yourself can overcome almost any physical condition (acne, crooked teeth, weight, etc.). At least IMO!
Good luck, hope my thoughts help someone. If not keep trying!
Clubs - if you share a genuine interest with a girl/woman (be it Chess, sci-fi, or hiking) you have already taken the first step toward friendship
Social sports - bowling, volleyball, etc. if you have the oportunity get some of your buddies and go do these things (co-ed games of course). Have fun, and be seen as fun (don't stand around like a bum and don't ogle over the ladies). Smile if you happen to catch their eye.
Certain types of bars - Interactive dance bars (country, swing, etc.). I know what you are thinking but I met Mrs. CinderElmo at a country bar. Not a Blue-brothers good-ol-boys type of country bar, but the kind where normal people go to listen and dance to country music. You might think I am crazy, but country line dancing and country couples dancing (cha cha, two-step, barn dance, etc.) makes it ridiculously easy to ask them to dance casually and to have fun.
Personal Adds - I know people who have really found some quality women using personal adds. Granted there are a lot of losers, but it at least gives you the opportunity to screen them first.
Closing thoughts; be and act positive. I lived in a distant city with no friends and I still joined clubs, went to bars, etc. and tried to have fun. No woman will come up to you if you are sitting on your couch or even if you go out and still sulk. Self confidence, once acquired, is your most valuable weapon in finding happiness with the opposite sex. If you don't believe in yourself it will be very hard to convince anyone you are a keeper. We all have flaws, but how you project yourself can overcome almost any physical condition (acne, crooked teeth, weight, etc.). At least IMO!
Good luck, hope my thoughts help someone. If not keep trying!
Look at the eyes not the chest (not that there is anything wrong with admiring your girls body, but at least wait until you know and don't ogle any woman you see..they are people to, not meat)
The girl I love is one of my best friends...it was actually quite a shock when I realized how much I love her. I think that this sort of thing just has to happen on it's own, if you go out and search for it you won't find it. Girls (at least the ones worth having) tend to be rather different than guys. They won't be impressed becuase you have a fast car or big muscles...sure they might like it, but there will be more important things to them. You just have to relax and take it easy..be yourself and let her get to know the real you, if you're fake they won't like you. I think girls can sense when a guy is being fake or being himself.
I have lots of female friends that I hug and cuddle with and talk to about things. If it's just things like that your looking for then you're better off just having female friends
If you are looking for a real relationship it has to be with someone that will know & love you for who you are, you can't get married and spend 20 years of your life being a fake. So if you want something serious you should just relax and take what comes get to know the woman and let her get to know the real you, that's the only way a healthy relationsihp can grow.
Unfortunately the woman I love doesn't feel the same about me so my advice is probably bad
(Edit: that last word was grow..what the hell is a gorw?)
<< She is 5'5" 110 lbs, lean, wavy blond hair, blue eyes, well dressed and kept, athletic, funny,loves to cuddle and is the envy of all my friends. When we have lazy time togehter, I play Dreamcast with her all day, watch action flicks which she loves, plus talk about cars and computers(although limited to Tetris and a game called Snood). >>
Damn sounds like you've got it made. Reminds me of Katie, though she's not well dressed, it would be Playstation not dreamcast and she's actually going into computer engineering so she has some knowledge of computers *sighs* now if I could only convince her she loves me as much as I love her. lol
The girl I love is one of my best friends...it was actually quite a shock when I realized how much I love her. I think that this sort of thing just has to happen on it's own, if you go out and search for it you won't find it. Girls (at least the ones worth having) tend to be rather different than guys. They won't be impressed becuase you have a fast car or big muscles...sure they might like it, but there will be more important things to them. You just have to relax and take it easy..be yourself and let her get to know the real you, if you're fake they won't like you. I think girls can sense when a guy is being fake or being himself.
I have lots of female friends that I hug and cuddle with and talk to about things. If it's just things like that your looking for then you're better off just having female friends
If you are looking for a real relationship it has to be with someone that will know & love you for who you are, you can't get married and spend 20 years of your life being a fake. So if you want something serious you should just relax and take what comes get to know the woman and let her get to know the real you, that's the only way a healthy relationsihp can grow.Unfortunately the woman I love doesn't feel the same about me so my advice is probably bad
(Edit: that last word was grow..what the hell is a gorw?)
<< She is 5'5" 110 lbs, lean, wavy blond hair, blue eyes, well dressed and kept, athletic, funny,loves to cuddle and is the envy of all my friends. When we have lazy time togehter, I play Dreamcast with her all day, watch action flicks which she loves, plus talk about cars and computers(although limited to Tetris and a game called Snood). >>
Damn sounds like you've got it made. Reminds me of Katie, though she's not well dressed, it would be Playstation not dreamcast and she's actually going into computer engineering so she has some knowledge of computers
*sighs* now if I could only convince her she loves me as much as I love her. lol College or school in general. Meeting people at work is tough but if you're in school, you can always study or do something as an excuse. The bar scene is not the way to go.
To get em:
For us people that don't have the nads to just walk up to girls cold. I suggest friends of friends.
Build the network. Girls hang out in groups.
To keep em:
Self-confidence, sense of humor and eye contact.
Now, if I could actually follow my own advice...
For us people that don't have the nads to just walk up to girls cold. I suggest friends of friends.
Build the network. Girls hang out in groups.
To keep em:
Self-confidence, sense of humor and eye contact.
Now, if I could actually follow my own advice...
MustangSVT
Lifer
- Oct 7, 2000
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damn it windogg! why u gotta be so freakin lucky all the time?! getting PS2 and everything and a knockout girl (and she got him PS2)!! damn, was all that worth your soul?
Attend one of Frank TJ mackie's session, lol. He'll teach you how to get the women.......
(In case you don't know who Frank TJ mackie is, watch the movie Magnolia )
(In case you don't know who Frank TJ mackie is, watch the movie Magnolia )
Well you have to know your prioities. For me that is that she is a biblical Christian, who holds to the same truths I hold to. Now there are many other things like common interests, being able to reason, not governed by emotions, attractive, etc. But the number one thing for me is that she has the same religious convictions as I do. So it would be ridiculous for me to go to a club or party looking for a girl. (which I wouldn't go to anyway) It's possible that I could find one at school but unlikely. So I imagine I'll eventually have to take a tour of the US and visit all the rb churches in the country. Then from those females that are like-minded I'll have to see if there are any I find attractive, like their personality, and have common interests with.
But that's just for me. You can apply it to you. What is your priority? Okay, go to places where these kind of females are present. Then choose who to pursue from these based on your nest priorities.
And yes I am already preparing for singleness. I realise that a like-minded Christian female who I find attractive, isn't ruled by emotions, can teach, and likes outdoors probably doesn't exist.
But that's just for me. You can apply it to you. What is your priority? Okay, go to places where these kind of females are present. Then choose who to pursue from these based on your nest priorities.
And yes I am already preparing for singleness. I realise that a like-minded Christian female who I find attractive, isn't ruled by emotions, can teach, and likes outdoors probably doesn't exist.
women suck. i am 26 years old and have never had a girlfriend in my life. i am a nice, romantic guy with a good engineering career, but i can't seem to find anyone that's attracted to me. oh well. looks like it's going be lonely for a while. *sigh*
OS
Lifer
- Oct 11, 1999
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women do seem to like confidence. I had a speech class a while back and I do well at speaking clearly and with conviction in front of a group of people. I noticed that more girls in that class struck up conversations with me after my first speech in that class than what I normally see.
Go and get a job in a traditional field where it is mostly women. You don't have to make this your career path but at least you will get to meet and work with lots of women. Some of the other places mentioned above are not bad either.
fluxquantum, you are depressing me. the key now is to overclock your computer by at least 50%. Then get a custom made shirt saying i have a p3-700@1500. Then people will be like, what the hell does that mean. YOu take them to your blazing speed demon of a death machine and they'll be so impressed you'll win them over in no time.....
ok i'm a single loser...what do you do, i do not really know
ok i'm a single loser...what do you do, i do not really know
There's Something About Mary had about the best piece of advice any movie could ever give.
REMEMBER TO CLEAN THE PIPES BEFORE A DATE
You will be 10 times more appealing believe me.
REMEMBER TO CLEAN THE PIPES BEFORE A DATE
You will be 10 times more appealing believe me.
Just hang around the back hallway of the Oval Office at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave, Washington, DC.
If you would consider swinging the other way, you could also be a Congressional Page.
:Q
If you would consider swinging the other way, you could also be a Congressional Page.
:Q
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