What causes an individual to become a loner?

[skim milk]

I made the mistake early in my college year... and burned the bridge with all my friends I had... now I'm pretty much a loner. I don't seek social scenes, try to meet people, or anything of that sort. I just go to classes, come home, and do random things. I'm amazed how fast time goes by from doing nothing and not going out much.

Is it an inconfidence issue? afraid of being rejected? Maybe, I don't try to get to know people... I'm bad with first impressions. I can't connect with people right off the bat
I sometimes wonder what happened to me... in my younger years , I had lots of good friends, having the best time of my life... but after my family moved to a different state.. it was hard for me to transition and try to connect with people I didn't grow up with.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

You can start now

Meet some people around the area or in your classes

Find some ATOT'ers nearby and hang out with them

 

[thirtythree]

let's see... 6 different schools in 6 years. that may have contributed to it for me. besides that, I've always been quiet and now I often get nervous in social situations.

edit: oh, and I don't like most people

 

[opticalmace]

Be more open. Make new friends.

Invite someone you talk to in class to hang out outside of school.

Gotta make the first step, bud. :beer:

 

[skim milk]

Originally posted by: Deslocke
let's see... 6 different schools in 6 years. that may have contributed to it for me. besides that, I've always been quiet and now I often get nervous in social situations.

edit: oh, and I don't like most people

how old are you?


mu family moved around a lot too... I always made good friends with people anywhere I went... but I just with I could've stayed in one place and grow up with them.

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: fritolays

Originally posted by: Deslocke
let's see... 6 different schools in 6 years. that may have contributed to it for me. besides that, I've always been quiet and now I often get nervous in social situations.

edit: oh, and I don't like most people

how old are you?


mu family moved around a lot too... I always made good friends with people anywhere I went... but I just with I could've stayed in one place and grow up with them.

I am 17.997 years old

 

[Lager]

Grow a pair and go out and try to talk to people or cut your hair.

Seriously, I think you enjoy being a loner.

 

[Dissipate]

For me it is all about separating the wheat from the chaff. Trying to find someone who actually has half a brain, who isn't superficial. Much harder to do with a young crowd.

 

[brigden]

Ask imtim83.

 

[AreaCode707]

The perception that being a loner is bad befuddles me. Throughout most of history, with limited transportation, people lived and interacted mainly within their small communities or their families. Now that we have instant communcation and fast travel, are we supposed to connect with everyone and be constantly social?

I'm a "loner", I guess. I interact with my coworkers because I need to, and with one person on a daily basis, plus about five to ten people on a regular weekly basis. I'm quite happy with it.

 

[Wallydraigle]

People piss me off. I'd rather be by myself.

 

[AdamDuritz99]

Originally posted by: HotChic
The perception that being a loner is bad befuddles me. Throughout most of history, with limited transportation, people lived and interacted mainly within their small communities or their families. Now that we have instant communcation and fast travel, are we supposed to connect with everyone and be constantly social?

I'm a "loner", I guess. I interact with my coworkers because I need to, and with one person on a daily basis, plus about five to ten people on a regular weekly basis. I'm quite happy with it.

Sounds just like me.

peace
sean

 

[skim milk]

am I going to regret separating myself from the "in-crowds" and not trying to fit in the social scenes later in my life?

I'm 19 right now... I guess this is the age where I'm supposed to be "living it up" and picking up girls in a drunken stupor

hmmm....

 

[Amorphus]

Some would call it being pretentious, but I just know I'm better than all of them.

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: fritolays
am I going to regret separating myself from the "in-crowds" and not trying to fit in the social scenes later in my life?

I don't think I'll give a sh!t if things work out later in life. I think I could be happy only being close to one person (of course, I have little or no experience in this area so it's likely that I'm wrong).

 

[JohnCU]

I dunno, I was a loner for the first 18 years of my life. Then I met this girl and she changed me completely. I was going out everynight and having a blast.

Then, just as I was enjoying the people I had grown up with, I had to go to college 300 miles away.

When I got here, I felt so out of place because all the guys in my dorm didn't wanna do anything but party and drink and I hate both so I kinda got back in a little shell again...

Now I'm stuck here.

 

[FoBoT]

getting flamed for making stupid posts on internut forums

 

[MartyMcFly3]

My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

i have desire for sex, just not from a complete stranger.

 

[thirtythree]

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

i have desire for sex, just not from a complete stranger.

oh, we can fix that...

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

i have desire for sex, just not from a complete stranger.

oh, we can fix that...

::butthead::
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh no......
::/butthead::

 

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

i have desire for sex, just not from a complete stranger.

:heart::gift::wine::lips:

 

[DeRusto]

i happen to be a 'loner' as well..never having stayed in the same place for longer than 4 years more often much less than 4 years. i always have a small group of close friends wherever i am but i dont really go out much and 'meet people' eh, im fine with it

 

[MartyMcFly3]

Originally posted by: FallenHero

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3

Originally posted by: Deslocke

Originally posted by: MartyMcFly3
My main deal is everyone's obsession of going out, getting drunk and sleeping with a random girl they know for only an hour....

i mean meeting new people is cool and all but, think about how many other guys that girl said yes to....

perhaps you should consider asexuality. no more worries!

i have desire for sex, just not from a complete stranger.

:heart::gift::wine::lips:

well since you put it that way......