Volunteer for one of the groups going to New Orleans, help out, gut/build houses. Basically you will realize a whole lot more if you give back to people less fortunate. I wish I could, but right now my job and traveling is taking up a whole lot of time. But, when I have time I can guarantee I will be volunteering to help the people who were flooded in NE Ohio.
Jeff7
Lifer
- Jan 4, 2001
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This sounds very familiar. I did find some things that at least mildly interested me, or at least kept me busy. And these things required money, so I got a job. I worked nightshift at Walmart. Big fun, you know? But it wasn't overly difficult work, and it did bring in some money. At no time did I consider it a possible career option - that thought just sickened me, and ultimately is what drove me back to college, this time for mechanical engineering.
I wish I could give a happier, cheerier story, but I will say that I feel like I'm still where I was before I started the ME program. I still lack motivation and confidence. I feel no future for myself. That thing - where do you see yourself in X years? I have no answer. I have no plans. I've never seen myself as having a future, so I never really created one for myself.
((I'm sorry if this is drifting into Myspace land, and I apologize.))
Now my time is mainly consumed by projects at home. Tomorrow a backhoe is being delivered, and I'll get a chance to play with this new toy. There is some land grading to do, a section of ground is to be dug out for a small concrete walkway, some of the foundation must be exposed to repair a crack, and some old tree stumps must be dug out of the yard. I am in fact rather looking forward to this, though I don't know why. I don't like being outside at all, much less when the temperature is far from room temperature.
I'd say "get a social life" if you don't have one, but I have yet to take that advice. See previous paragraphs for information on lack of motivation and confidence. I just don't feel a need or motivation to spend time around people and maintain close relationships. I figure that I should wish to be with other people most of the time, but that feeling just isn't there. So I figure it's best that I don't develop close friendships, because I would probably be a lousy friend.
But maybe you're in a better position for that. Friends can be a good source of motivation.
I wish I could give a happier, cheerier story, but I will say that I feel like I'm still where I was before I started the ME program. I still lack motivation and confidence. I feel no future for myself. That thing - where do you see yourself in X years? I have no answer. I have no plans. I've never seen myself as having a future, so I never really created one for myself.
((I'm sorry if this is drifting into Myspace land, and I apologize.))
Now my time is mainly consumed by projects at home. Tomorrow a backhoe is being delivered, and I'll get a chance to play with this new toy. There is some land grading to do, a section of ground is to be dug out for a small concrete walkway, some of the foundation must be exposed to repair a crack, and some old tree stumps must be dug out of the yard. I am in fact rather looking forward to this, though I don't know why. I don't like being outside at all, much less when the temperature is far from room temperature.
I'd say "get a social life" if you don't have one, but I have yet to take that advice. See previous paragraphs for information on lack of motivation and confidence. I just don't feel a need or motivation to spend time around people and maintain close relationships. I figure that I should wish to be with other people most of the time, but that feeling just isn't there. So I figure it's best that I don't develop close friendships, because I would probably be a lousy friend.
But maybe you're in a better position for that. Friends can be a good source of motivation.
- Dec 29, 2002
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I always end up regretting making threads when i'm in a bad mood or am sleep deprived (double whammy yesterday), but, mostly good replies, much like my last thread, so it makes me regret it less. So thanks for the helpful replies. I guess it boils down to Money, i need to make lots of money and THEN (on the long shot that actually happens) i can start thinking about what i want to do with my life, because hopefully i will have enough money to live the way i want...however that is. I don't even know if that's it though, first of all, there's almost no way i'm going to make a lot of money. Secondly, just because i would have money, that doesn't mean i would know what to do with my life. I could try different things, but like i said, i'm not really interested in doing anything, heh. I know that sounds weird. There probably is something i would be interested in doing but i just have no idea what it would be.
I don't see your point...if you have one
- This monitor is pretty nice, but it's breaking down. I bought it as a referb (not knowingly) off ebay about a year ago, got screwed on the deal, but the monitor has served me well. Was under $300 so i can't complain much i guess. Love my headphones and amp, phones are also breaking down, will probably just get another pair of these phones, since they mesh so well with my amp, but i digress...not really on topic
I don't see your point...if you have one
- This monitor is pretty nice, but it's breaking down. I bought it as a referb (not knowingly) off ebay about a year ago, got screwed on the deal, but the monitor has served me well. Was under $300 so i can't complain much i guess. Love my headphones and amp, phones are also breaking down, will probably just get another pair of these phones, since they mesh so well with my amp, but i digress...not really on topic Honestly, suck it up, go back to school, study, do well, work hard and you will be rewarded.
I used to be like you. Luckily I changed when I was in college (I was able to get by with a 3.6 gpa in high school with almost no effort, not so in college...) and honestly I still find myself forcing myself to read/learn/etc. Most important thing is to have a reason to succeed. Mine is simple: I want to be better than everybody else. Money is just a bonus.
The sad reality is you probably won't go back to school and will remain as you are. Again, just in an attempt to help, I urge you to go back to school.
I used to be like you. Luckily I changed when I was in college (I was able to get by with a 3.6 gpa in high school with almost no effort, not so in college...) and honestly I still find myself forcing myself to read/learn/etc. Most important thing is to have a reason to succeed. Mine is simple: I want to be better than everybody else. Money is just a bonus.
The sad reality is you probably won't go back to school and will remain as you are. Again, just in an attempt to help, I urge you to go back to school.
This thread really is pointless. The OP will not take any of our advices, and he will probably never change until he is completely broke, at which point he will either give up life or start working at lowly wages.
ViviTheMage
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SamurAchzar
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You don't like everything? Very well then, let logic decide. Go and enroll yourself to some engineering degree, or something else that might give you a solid foundation for getting on with life.
Take it seriously, it will give you energies. For some people, myself included, lack of things to do results in depression and even greater lack of motivation. You have to break this circle.
So push and prod yourself, I'm sure focusing on something would help you greatly.
Take it seriously, it will give you energies. For some people, myself included, lack of things to do results in depression and even greater lack of motivation. You have to break this circle.
So push and prod yourself, I'm sure focusing on something would help you greatly.
I think at your age it is quite common to lack motivation and feel intimidated at the prospect of having to get a job and support yourself. You are leaving the school years behind and venturing into totally unfamiliar territory. I didn't really enjoy high school and felt uncomfortable in college the closer I got to graduation. If you are in college you need to find a job (when you graduate) with some possibilities, or at least one that gives you experience to get decent paying job. I've seen people put off getting a "real" job and work an $8/hr. unskilled gig. It gets old and the longer you put off getting a "real" job the harder it gets to find a company that will hire you. If a company is interviewing two people, one with relevant experience and the other that worked at Walmart for the past 3 year, guess who they're going to hire? If you sit home all day doing nothing, it isn't hard to see why you might be unhappy. Most jobs these days aren't easy but they at least give you a purpose and a sense of accomplishment. And unless your parents are willing to support you forever than you'll eventually have to get a job anyways.
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Hate to get emo here but all joking aside, i do consider suicide an option if i can't find anything I'm interested in doing with my life. I really don't see my life going anywhere. I'm lucky to have such a great family though, they will keep me from going off the deep end, they have so far. Plus ending my own life would really devastate them (even though i wouldn't see it as a big loss), i can't do that to them. Kinda sad i consider suicide an option i know, it's been on my mind for a long time now. I'm just a young smart guy. I'm not goth or anything like that. I really shouldn't have suicide as an option (albeit an unlikely option), but, like i said, i can't see anything good come of my life. I'm in a good mood when posting this by the way, so it's not the 'just having a bad day' talk. Don't get worried there (not like anyone would) i'm not saying i'm suicidal or anything.
DainBramaged
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I have motivation because I am decisive and I know what I want in and out of life. I am open minded and I like to try new things. A weak person is one who doesn't know what he or she wants. If you want to start simple, start by figuring out what you don't in life.
Didn't you post another thread like this that basically stated you didn't want to do anything at all? Didn't want to get a job, didn't want to go to school, didn't want to play video games anymore (because you're bored), didn't want to even wake up. You sound like a real winner, most likely going to win the "I get my parents money when they die" lottery.
Get your lazy dope smoking ass up and do something. Yea life sucks but you have to deal with it just like everyone else, you lazy ungrateful waste of air. At least get a job... no wait, you don't like working even though you've never actually done it. :roll:
You have one thing right, you're young, but so incredibly far from smart it's not even funny.
Get your lazy dope smoking ass up and do something. Yea life sucks but you have to deal with it just like everyone else, you lazy ungrateful waste of air. At least get a job... no wait, you don't like working even though you've never actually done it. :roll:
life only sucks for those who cant accept that everything wont go their way or that not everyone will agree with them
AbAbber2k
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I was going to write something of consequence, but since I read this I've pretty much come to the realization that you're just a pathetic piece of sh1t looking for a free ride. Wallowing in self pity doesn't bring home the bacon. LOTS of people work sh1t jobs to pay the bills while they work towards their goals. It took me FOUR YEARS post-highschool to figure out what I wanted to do. Now I'm 4 months away from graduating with my BS and I've got a pretty good idea of where my life is heading. You're not just going to be handed your fvcking dream job on a silver platter. Do you have hobbies? Write a fvcking list of the things you enjoy and then relate each and every one to a job, or go to a fvcking job fair and just investigate anything remotely interesting. But then again, a whiney little bitch like you would probably rather just mope about than do anything constructive.
Originally posted by: jacktackle
I'll keep it short and spare you my life story. What am i supposed to do when my life isn't currently going anywhere, there's nothing i'm interested in doing with my life (not just career wise but in general), and i hate my life right now?
I made a similar thread not too long ago, but this is semi-different.
stfu you emo....
CRAAAAWLIN IIIIIIIIIIIINNNNN MMMMMMYYYYYYYY SSSSSSSKKKKKKKIIIIINNNNNNNNN!!!!!!
drinkmorejava
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yes, but he would want to do it in order to save his ass from the drill sergeant. After basic, if he's not straightened out, nothing will help
Seriously though, if you don't have a clue what to do, I would consider it.
Jeff7
Lifer
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Sounds kind of like my reasoning too. It's always just sort of been one of those final option kinds of things, but I've never made any attempts. I guess it has to do with lack of confidence, and the fact that I hate the thought of anything painful. Gun, knife - no way. I hate noise and sharp things. Poison? No thank you. So while I understand that rendering a person dead is really quite a simplistic thing, it's not for everyone.
And yes, there's the fact that the few people I do have in my life (my family) would be horribly upset by suicide. If there was just a good quick way to say, "Get over it!" then I'd go that route, but there isn't. Social bonds are just too strong it seems.
This stuff all sounds like a depression. That can just rob you of any motivation to do anything. I wish I could remember where it was, I saw a quote recently about depression. It's not just feeling sad, it's a state where you are unable to envision a time when you could ever experience joy again. You're just stuck there. You don't seek help for it because it seems utterly futile because you know there's no hope for you. You don't seek it for fear of embarassment, or for fear that no one will understand it, and with Sampson's arrogant reply as evidence, it is true that some people just have no concept of this mindset, and so have nothing to compare it to. So they just would wind up making the problem worse.
Talking about suicidal feelings can be similar. I imagine that a fair number of people never seriously consider suidice any time in their lives. They are trained that it's a bad thing and that no one should do it, so it never even crosses their minds as something to even ponder. To them, the fact that someone seriously considers it an option is just alien, and that can make them get quite emotional about it. It's like someone telling you that they are in fact capable of turning common objects into gold, but only when alone. It just sounds so absurd to you that you will ridicule them for being crazy, only thoughts of suicide aren't fantasy. But the reaction can be similar.
I wish I could provide good direction for what to do. I'm going to college mainly because the thought of working my life at Walmart was starting to push me more to consider the suicide option. It just was a sad place, full of people with shattered dreams. Very depressing, very crappy work, customers belittle you.....just not something I wanted to live with. College provided a way out. And yes, it was scary, terrifying in fact. Leaving home, travelling far away, being with new people, it was just nearly paralyzing fear. But I had seen the alternative. I've now finished 1 year, and I'm going back for a second. I can't say it's "fun", but then I can't say that about much of anything either. I don't "have fun" really.
College is something I do because I hope that it will keep me out of the bottom levels of society, and enable me to live by myself, without having to constantly worry about having enough money. That's part of why I chose engineering. In part, because I'm just good at fixing mechanical things and working with machines. And in part because engineers can make quite a good amount of money.
So I've hung a carrot for myself at the end of college, and I'm heading toward that. I just hope it doesn't turn out to be rotten, and I find myself there at the end, graduated, still with no sense of direction, or with no motivation. But at least I'll have given it a try.
There are times in everyone life that they feel down and most people just keep going till they find/accept the meaning of life.
Seek counseling, take better care of your personal hygiene, join a club/team sport, volunteers at places that you enjoy, move to a new town, or travel.
pontifex
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- Dec 5, 2000
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Originally posted by: jacktackle
I always end up regretting making threads when i'm in a bad mood or am sleep deprived (double whammy yesterday), but, mostly good replies, much like my last thread, so it makes me regret it less. So thanks for the helpful replies. I guess it boils down to Money, i need to make lots of money and THEN (on the long shot that actually happens) i can start thinking about what i want to do with my life, because hopefully i will have enough money to live the way i want...however that is. I don't even know if that's it though, first of all, there's almost no way i'm going to make a lot of money. Secondly, just because i would have money, that doesn't mean i would know what to do with my life. I could try different things, but like i said, i'm not really interested in doing anything, heh. I know that sounds weird. There probably is something i would be interested in doing but i just have no idea what it would be.
I don't see your point...if you have one
so where do you get the money to buy $150 headphones when you don't have a job? do your parents buy everything for you or what? you just sound like a spoiled rich kid.
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