Weight Gain During Relationships Poll/Question

[eakers]

Do you think that a person has an obligation to their signifcant other to remain at a healthy weight through their relationship?

Please keep in mind that this isn't just for appearance sake but it could also include reasons regarding being healthy enough to have/raise children and being healthy enough to enjoy activities together etc.

** This poll can also apply to people who lose to an unhealthy weight.

edit: added more poll questions

 

[JoLLyRoGer]

Yeppers. Wife and I both agree on this and we work together to keep each other in check. Turns out that we make good workout buddies that keep each other motivated!

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: JoLLyRoGer
Yeppers. Wife and I both agree on this and we work together to keep each other in check. Turns out that we make good workout buddies that keep each other motivated!

Totally agree....... now I just need to find Aquawoman

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[desy]

I reley less on the word weight, but more on the word healthy.
If you just dating then no , none of this applies because getting out is super simple. You don't like how the other handles their health which is a long term compatability issue then leave. If you are in a commited relationship then yes I expect the significant other to maintain healthy for me and our children.
In the past I have expected girlfriends to quit smoking, if they didn't I was out. I also have chosen not to even start dating women who were smoking no matter how 'attracted' I was.

 

[eakers]

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: JoLLyRoGer
Yeppers. Wife and I both agree on this and we work together to keep each other in check. Turns out that we make good workout buddies that keep each other motivated!

Totally agree....... now I just need to find Aquawoman

Cheers,
Aquaman

hey there mr. "I got permabanned"

 

[torpid]

I have an obligation to MYSELF, not to you.

It is fair for YOU to ask ME to lose weight, if you are concerned about my health.

I would not break up with someone unless it was a grotesque amount of weight involved or they seemed to be on a self-destructive path mentally.

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: eakers

Originally posted by: Aquaman

Originally posted by: JoLLyRoGer
Yeppers. Wife and I both agree on this and we work together to keep each other in check. Turns out that we make good workout buddies that keep each other motivated!

Totally agree....... now I just need to find Aquawoman

Cheers,
Aquaman

hey there mr. "I got permabanned"

that power of Aquaman

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[lozina]

Yes to all

it's a shame weight does not follow the rule "easy come easy go"

 

[SP33Demon]

Both should try to stay healthy to maintain good sex, yes.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: SP33Demon
Both should try to stay healthy to maintain good sex, yes.

But if the SO got fat and I really liked her I'd still be with her :thumbsup:. I'd of course try and help her lose weight but if she didn't I'd still be with her. I wouldn't go out with a fat girl to start with though...strange ahey?

Koing

 

[flxnimprtmscl]

Yes Yes and Yes.

 

[JS80]

sex = workout?

 

[Gooberlx2]

Yes to all three. The fact is that when sexual attraction goes out the window, then you're gonna not "just" look when you see other attractive women at work, clubs, wherever. You're gonna more or less have little crushes and fantasies. It'll start eating at you, and then you'll find yourself either really violating someone's feelings, or ending it.

Also, when someone is gaining a lot of weight (enough for you to take notice, lose attraction and consider breaking up), there's usually someone else wrong/going on. I'd certainly say try getting him/her to lose it, and work out whatever problems are causing it, before just tossing the relationship.

If my GF were to gain a lot of weight, I'd say something, work with her to lose it, and try to figure out what's going on.

 

[SpanishFry]

ATOT has spoken. no future fatties!

 

[bennylong]

Does anyone date fat chicks? I see a lot of fat chicks with boyfriend so there must be people willing to date fat chicks

 

[Bulk Beef]

What you really need is a poll to see what amount of weight gain is acceptable.

 

[5150Joker]

Yes to all.

 

[5150Joker]

Originally posted by: bennylong
Does anyone date fat chicks? I see a lot of fat chicks with boyfriend so there must be people willing to date fat chicks

I bet you're one of them.

 

[Zeeky Boogy Doog]

There is no obligation to the other person in a dating relationship to stay at a healthy weight, if you don't like it, just break it off, though in a marriage I would say there is probably some obligation.

Yes, you can tell a person to lose weight. I wouldn't suggest walking up to your girlfriend and saying, "Hey honey, you're fat" but you get the idea.

Depending on how the weight was gained and what was being done about the problem would determine wether or not I would break up with a girl because of her weight. If she was just letting herself go and didn't want to do anyhthing about it, then yes, if my wife just had a child and gained weight from that, then no, of course not.

 

[Thraxen]

Originally posted by: bennylong
Does anyone date fat chicks? I see a lot of fat chicks with boyfriend so there must be people willing to date fat chicks

While there are exceptions, its been my experience that couples are generally in similar shapes physically (i.e. fat chicks with fat guys).

 

[BChico]

Does this only apply to girlfriend/boyfriends or are people also considering this poll for people who are married?

 

[TheNinja]

yes
yes
no

 

[Mill]

Some weight gain is ok obviously. But enough to impact health or fertility? Fvck no. I'm not the skinniest person in the world, but that's insane.

 

[eits]

Originally posted by: torpid
I have an obligation to MYSELF, not to you.

It is fair for YOU to ask ME to lose weight, if you are concerned about my health.

I would not break up with someone unless it was a grotesque amount of weight involved or they seemed to be on a self-destructive path mentally.

agreed.

i have an obligation to myself to stay in shape. i can either do it for myself or for her, but i'm not obligated to do it for her.

yeah, it's fair for us to ask each other to lose weight. it's a health and sex issue, which are important to a relationship.

no, i wouldn't break up with a girl if she gained weight. i'll just ask her to lose weight. if she says no and it puts a strain on our relationship, then i'm sending her fat ass curbworthy.

 

[T9D]

Women always seem to pack on weight when they get in a relationship.

My last girlfriend was very in shape. Had a perfect body. She probably put on like 5 - 8 pounds in the first month or so. That's not bad but it was starting show. We were only together like a month I cant' imagine if we were together longer. After 15 pounds it gets scary and I'd be worried. Another Gf of mine had a totally tight body and then put on about 10 pounds in 8 months. Again no big deal they were still very attractive. But they were on their way.

I really dont want to know what they would have looked like after 5 years of marriage or so. I've seen some horriblely nasty looking wives who used to be attractive. Man that would be depressing. They all seem to just not give a crap and pack on the pounds after they get into a relationship and especially after marriage.

I'll be reasonable and I dont want to sound shallow but I'm not staying married to some fat chick. I just couldn't handle it. I need to find them attractive. And they need to stay healthy. I about want to gag when I see women do that waddle thing.