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Wedding Reception Etiquette Q

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Asharus

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Is it considered a sin to cut in to dance w/ my girlfriend during the first dance at the reception?

She was part of the wedding party, I was not. I cut in to dance with her during the 1st dance. The next time I saw the guy was at a New Year's Eve party, and he seemed upset about it. I laughed and said that it was exactly what I thought of when I saw him as well.
 
A sin? Yes... you better get to a confessional fast! 😀

Considering I didn't even dance during the first dance at my brother's wedding, where I was the best man and my "date" was a closet lesbian... I'd say that dude should be happy he was out there at all 😀
 
The only oops I've ever seen that would worry me is a guy trying to make out with the bride during the money dance! (He was wwaaaaayyyyy drunk, and got his arse kicked by the guys in the party.)
 
He's just upset that you cut into his attempt to press his woody up against your woman.

It's generally frowned upon but understood - unless it's specified that "wedding party members may fetch significant others" beforehand.

And that bride makeout story is hilarious. :beer:😀:beer: = 😕:Q

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: Jzero
Was it the dance for members of the wedding party? I'd be annoyed.
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It is always rude to cut in on the first dance any two have. Was it that obvious your g/f wanted him though until you ruined her fun? She could have easily told the guy after the 1st dance she needed to go find you.

If they were entering a third song/dance then if you want you may 'cut' in.

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I waited a minute or two before cutting in. I didn't think it was rude at the time, then again I had a few drinks already and alcohol circulates to my brain pretty quickly.

It was really funny when that guy mentioned it out of nowhere a couple of days ago at the New Years Eve party. He was like "Can you believe this asshole cut in on me during the 1st dance? You know what though? I didn't care!" But he obviously does because he was still thinking about it.

I couldn't talk back because everytime I tried to say something, my girlfriend would cover my mouth. I was able to eventually say "That's funny cuz that's exactly what I thought about when I saw you walk in."

During our ride home, I asked my girl if it was really a big deal, and she said that it wasn't. She thought it was sweet. I would think if it was a big deal, it would be a big deal to the Bride and Groom. I told her to ask her folks, and that I would ask the message boards, LOL. Thanks for clarifying it, I'll make sure I don't do it again.

Heh, I remember cutting in on her Dad too in that wedding. What's my fvcking problem?
 
I think it was alright to do what you did--but that is just me.

My woman and I are pretty confident together and we won't dance with others at formal events unless it is a friend that her or I both know fairly decently and trust or a relative or something of that sort.

If that is not part of the "right way" then so be it.

Then again we're kind of conservative 😛
 
laugh, cutting in on the dad. that's awesome.

i would have been really pissed if someone had cut in on my bridesmaid during the first dance, cause she was really cute, and I earned the right by having to stand up through the whole ceremony.
 
Originally posted by: PipBoy
Originally posted by: Asharus
Heh, I remember cutting in on her Dad too in that wedding. What's my fvcking problem?
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you have no manners?
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At that point I was really under the influence. Plus I don't even like to dance. I really don't know what the hell was up with me that day!
 
On second thought I think it may have been okay for him to dance with your girl if he had came to your table and asked for your approval.
Not that you "own" your woman in the material sense. More like a "do you mind if I dance with her?" sort of deal.
But that is just being courteous and polite.
 
Originally posted by: DWW
On second thought I think it may have been okay for him to dance with your girl if he had came to your table and asked for your approval.
Not that you "own" your woman in the material sense. More like a "do you mind if I dance with her?" sort of deal.
But that is just being courteous and polite.
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Do you actually have a girlfriend?
Have you ever been to a wedding reception?

The bridesmaids are paired up with groomsmen to walk down the aisle. They also dance together during the one dance and usually get a photo taken as well. It is not a requirement to include both parts of a couple in the wedding party, and oftentimes the significant others do not even get to sit with their partners since the members of the wedding party usually sit at the head table.

He doesn't need to ask anyone's approval - he is supposed to dance with her during that dance. If anyone has a problem with that, then they should not participate in the wedding (or the relationship, as the case may be).

It's a formal full of family and friends. What do you think could possibly happen? Nobody is going to make a move on your girlfriend right in front of you and their family and friends! It's one freaking song! 3 minutes!

I went to a wedding and b/c my then-gf (now fiancee) was in Thailand so I was going "stag." I was asked to dance with a bridesmaid who had no "partner" in the wedding so that she wouldn't feel weird not having anyone to dance with during this song.

Like I was going to try and cop a feel on this girl on the dance floor in front of my gf's close friends, parents, brother, sisters? You would have to be an idiot.
 
LOL I'm not insecure. Perhaps during the first year or two in the relationship, but not 7 years later. Actually, I'll admit that I was insecure early in the relationship. Perhaps because I feel like I'm very lucky to be with her...

Another funny tidbit:

The bride in that wedding was my girlfriend's best friend in high school. The bride had a huge crush on me back then and was very obsessive. I had no interest in here and I was pursuing my current girlfriend. After I was successful, they started not talking to each other for years. I don't think the groom has any idea about this. Should I bring that up at the next party? LOL
 
Originally posted by: Jzero
Originally posted by: DWW
On second thought I think it may have been okay for him to dance with your girl if he had came to your table and asked for your approval.
Not that you "own" your woman in the material sense. More like a "do you mind if I dance with her?" sort of deal.
But that is just being courteous and polite.
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Do you actually have a girlfriend?
Have you ever been to a wedding reception?

The bridesmaids are paired up with groomsmen to walk down the aisle. They also dance together during the one dance and usually get a photo taken as well. It is not a requirement to include both parts of a couple in the wedding party, and oftentimes the significant others do not even get to sit with their partners since the members of the wedding party usually sit at the head table.

He doesn't need to ask anyone's approval - he is supposed to dance with her during that dance. If anyone has a problem with that, then they should not participate in the wedding (or the relationship, as the case may be).

It's a formal full of family and friends. What do you think could possibly happen? Nobody is going to make a move on your girlfriend right in front of you and their family and friends! It's one freaking song! 3 minutes!

I went to a wedding and b/c my then-gf (now fiancee) was in Thailand so I was going "stag." I was asked to dance with a bridesmaid who had no "partner" in the wedding so that she wouldn't feel weird not having anyone to dance with during this song.

Like I was going to try and cop a feel on this girl on the dance floor in front of my gf's close friends, parents, brother, sisters? You would have to be an idiot.
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Who said anything about him trying to cop a feel? The guy is a huge loser and I was definitely not worried. I seriously don't know what made me do it, in fact I hate dancing, yet I cut in to dance with her TWICE that day! We just went to a holiday party a week or two ago, and I didn't dance with her ONCE, yet she was on the dance floor all night, until the last song! She even danced with the "stag" at our table several times...
 
Who said anything about him trying to cop a feel? The guy is a huge loser and I was definitely not worried. I seriously don't know what made me do it, in fact I hate dancing, yet I cut in to dance with her TWICE that day! We just went to a holiday party a week or two ago, and I didn't dance with her ONCE, yet she was on the dance floor all night, until the last song! She even danced with the "stag" at our table several times...
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Nah I was specifically responding to DWW who thinks it's improper or that the groomsman should come to his table and ask him before he dances with her. The copping a feel comment is more to say "What are you worried about?"

You were obviously just being drunk and belligerent. No wedding is complete without at least one 😀
 
wow i think you need to lay off the booze.

not to mention brushing up on your manners wouldn't hurt any either.
 
Originally posted by: waggy
wow i think you need to lay off the booze.

not to mention brushing up on your manners wouldn't hurt any either.
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Thanks for the tip, I agree w/ ya on both counts.
 
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