ways to say "im sorry" to a girl after u messed up UPDATE: CRAZY DRUNK PHONE CALL

[MrDingleDangle]

well i am in that situation every guy gets into every once in a while...did something stupid that really hurt my g/f or i guess i should say ex-g/f ...now trying to make up for it...

already did the flowers thing
taking her out isnt an option since shes not talking to me
probably gonna do the choclate thing...

what i did i dont think was that bad, but im not a girl and shes mad upset about it...its been half a week and the only talking has been yelling at me or coming to pick up her stuff from my apartment



edit:
also had a note with the flowers and an e-card (i know its dumb, but unlike an email i can tell if shes read it) explaining how bad i feel for hurting her

UPDATE AT END OF THREAD

 

[tantos]

what did u do? If we knew how much sh*t you were in maybe we can help.

 

[glen]

Write her a poem, and make her laugh.

 

[gopunk]

if she is not talking to you, that's a good sign. hehe good... well not good, but... you know at least you still have a chance because she still has feelings for you. it is better than if she had no feelings for you and talked you, but like she would to a casual acquaintance.

buy her a pathetic looking teddy with an i'm sorry card

btw, what did you do?

 

[MrDingleDangle]

i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...this was around 3am...i talked to my girl around 12 and again around 2:45 and told her id call to check in on her studying..in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle
i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

are the people from overseas all females?

 

[MrDingleDangle]

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle
i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

are the people from overseas all females?

yeah

 

[gopunk]

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle
i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

are the people from overseas all females?

yeah

you = idiot



i think she will get over it, but you should still apologize a lot, so she will feel like you care... also it gives her an excuse to take you back. sometimes girls don't want to admit they were being irrational (assuming you didn't cheat on her.... ) so they wait for an opportunity to make it look like the guy earned them back. well, at least in my experience, i'm sure some girls don't do that.

btw she might not be letting you talk to her, but i bet she is still checking her email to see if you wrote her or waiting for a phone call.

 

[Mani]

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle
i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

are the people from overseas all females?

yeah

How didn't you see this coming?

Anyways, if she isn't talking to you, send her a letter or e-mail and word your apology well. Flowers and chocolate only go so far.

 

[GoingUp]

You do realize that Luvly will be in here shortly to crucify you all don't you?

:::: takes cover ::::

 

[KK]

yeah, in the letter just put that you want to father her children. See how that goes. Let us know.

KK

 

[MrDingleDangle]

Originally posted by: Mani

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle

Originally posted by: gopunk

Originally posted by: MrDingleDangle
i have a common female friend with her, and thats it just a friend neither of us like each other in that way, but we have a lot of similar tastes in music and such...anyway this friend had people from overseas visiting so she invited us out...my girl couldnt go cause she had a midterm, i went...-fight 1...
after going to a bar (i drove only had a couple beers over the night)...i dropped them off and they invited me up for a beer and we decided to chill in their hot tub overlooking Los Angeles...in doing so i was half an hour late calling the girl...i told her what happened and all hell has broken loose.

and she hasnt talked to me since...we had been dating for 6 months

are the people from overseas all females?

yeah

How didn't you see this coming?

Anyways, if she isn't talking to you, send her a letter or e-mail and word your apology well. Flowers and chocolate only go so far.

well im a very non-jealous type so i always let her do whatever she wants with guys, even let her chill in a hottub on a cruise with guys buying her drinks and i dont care at all as long as she comes home to me...amoung other things as long as she doesnt hook up with them

for some reason i stupidly thought it might work both way...well now i remember why i stopped trying to understand women and just always be careful

 

[ChrisIsBored]

Just a word of advice... don't try the slashing of the wrists thing. It never works out.


Kidnapping puppy's is sometimes a no-no too... but kittens are fair game. :Q

 

[weezergirl]

so nothing happened in the hot tub?

 

[MrDingleDangle]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
so nothing happened in the hot tub?

nope just had 2 or 3 beers then got up to go...thats when i saw 6 missed calls on my phone and it started ringing...

 

[Kadarin]

"already did the flowers thing"
"probably gonna do the choclate thing..."
"also had a note with the flowers and an e-card"

Would any of that crap have worked on you if you found out the next day that she'd spent most of the night with some guys in a hot tub overlooking Los Angeles?

 

[optimistic]

You can't buy your way out of this. You give her something from the heart. Make it, write it, sing it. Whatever just make it personal, and somewhat embarrassing.

 

[amnesiac]

If she's ready to drop you over something as trivial as that, man, be glad you got out of it when you did. Pick up your goddamned stuff and get the hell away from her.
I mean, it's one thing to get peeved at you for doing that, heck, if my g/f was in a similar situation, yeah, truthfully, I'd get mildly irritated -- for all of 15 minutes! But to yell at you for a week over it? Sheesh. Talk about trust issues.
And especially since you've been together 6 months? You should know each other inside and out by now, and if you didn't know she'd reack this way or she doesn't think you're trustworthy enough to handle yourself, I'm sorry but you two just need to work things out or face the truth that you're not meant for each other.

 

[nd]

I say drop her. Just my opinion, but she doesn't seem like the type of person I'd like to be with. Even if you resolve this situation, it's gonna be something else next month.

At least you learned a valuable lesson here: Honesty doesn't pay. You wouldn't be in this situation if you simply lied about the reason you didn't call.

And what's up with you having to call her at scheduled times? You put up with that? Don't be pathetic.

It's 3:30am, and as I write this post, I can't even figure out if I'm serious or not.

 

[ThisIsMatt]

You guys are slipping....










Pics?





She shouldn't be so upset unless you did more than you're letting on..

 

[TNTrulez]

St@b her.

 

[Kerouactivist]

Explain the situation, it always has worked for me, it may not turn out for the best initially but, it will in the long run

 

[kt]

Originally posted by: TNTrulez
St@b her.

I second that.

 

[dabuddha]

that was pretty stupid... you should not have been there in the first place. its a question of it being inappropriate. but that could just be a sign of me getting old.
it might not be that she doesn't trust you... she might not trust the other girls

 

[stonecold3169]

This might not be what everyone else says, but here is my advice.

Stop appologizing. The more you appologize, the more she's going to think that you have something to appologize FOR. In my experiance, she needs time to get it through her head that she over reacted and that nothing was going on. Every time you do something for her you're probably hurting her more.

On the other hand, just because you aren't appologizing doesn't mean I'm telling you to ditch her... no way in hell. Things have a way of working themselves out for the best. Tell her that you really care about her, and that you're sorry you hurt her, and that you are going to give her some space to decide what she needs to do. Her not wanting to talk to you likely means she's afraid she'd run back to you in a heartbeat. Let her feel strong for a few days, and let the decision be truly hers. I think you'll be suprised how it works out.