Was I being a jackass?

[michaels]

OK my dad just called me up and asked if I could find a wiring schematic off the net for a 1955 Ford. I was like who has that, he said "my dad." I said he actually asked you to have me do something for him? he said yes". I told my dad I wasn't doing ****** for him and to tell him that.

Backstory, I don't consider this man a grandpa and do not call him that. My whole life I have lived 45 minutes from this man and he used to come eat at a place right down the road from where I grew up almost monthly, and he NEVER stopped to see me. He has never called me, came to visit, nothing. That's fine and his loss, but it pisses me off this POS has the nerve to try and hit me up with a favor.

 

[cKGunslinger]

Good news everybody! Schools start back next week!

 

[MX2]

Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Good news everybody! Schools start back next week!

:thumbsup: and LOL

 

[jagec]

I can't believe it...my whole life my grandson lived 45 minutes away from me and he NEVER invited me over. I kept eating at this restaurant near where he lived, hoping he'd see me and come say hi, but nothing. Finally this weekend I needed a big favor done...I needed to get a wiring schematic so that I could fix my car (I can't afford to send it to a shop). I was hoping that it could be a project for me and my grandson to work on--a nice little classical restoration--but just in case he wasn't into that, I asked my son about it. He said he's pass on the word, but now I hear my grandson wants nothing to do with me...why is that? I'm just a lonely old man who really loves his grandson...

 

[michaels]

lol

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: jagec
I can't believe it...my whole life my grandson lived 45 minutes away from me and he NEVER invited me over. I kept eating at this restaurant near where he lived, hoping he'd see me and come say hi, but nothing. Finally this weekend I needed a big favor done...I needed to get a wiring schematic so that I could fix my car (I can't afford to send it to a shop). I was hoping that it could be a project for me and my grandson to work on--a nice little classical restoration--but just in case he wasn't into that, I asked my son about it. He said he's pass on the word, but now I hear my grandson wants nothing to do with me...why is that? I'm just a lonely old man who really loves his grandson...

dude, you are supposed to make a completely different thread about it.

Unless you weren't aiming for a parody

 

[jordanz]

He's never been in your life before, and you both have never made attempts, he doesn't need to be in your life now.

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: jagec
I can't believe it...my whole life my grandson lived 45 minutes away from me and he NEVER invited me over. I kept eating at this restaurant near where he lived, hoping he'd see me and come say hi, but nothing. Finally this weekend I needed a big favor done...I needed to get a wiring schematic so that I could fix my car (I can't afford to send it to a shop). I was hoping that it could be a project for me and my grandson to work on--a nice little classical restoration--but just in case he wasn't into that, I asked my son about it. He said he's pass on the word, but now I hear my grandson wants nothing to do with me...why is that? I'm just a lonely old man who really loves his grandson...

dude, you are supposed to make a completely different thread about it.

Unless you weren't aiming for a parody

Well, I'm HOPING that the OP will see that there are two sides to every story, and understand that his grandpa's actions may not have been malicious at all. I'm hoping that he'll learn that everyone is different and expresses themselves differently, and in the future will give people the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst.

I guess parody threads *sort of* do that, but I'm aiming for a bit less humor and a bit more serious thought.

I don't think I'll get it, of course.

 

[michaels]

That's what I think.

 

[michaels]

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: jagec
I can't believe it...my whole life my grandson lived 45 minutes away from me and he NEVER invited me over. I kept eating at this restaurant near where he lived, hoping he'd see me and come say hi, but nothing. Finally this weekend I needed a big favor done...I needed to get a wiring schematic so that I could fix my car (I can't afford to send it to a shop). I was hoping that it could be a project for me and my grandson to work on--a nice little classical restoration--but just in case he wasn't into that, I asked my son about it. He said he's pass on the word, but now I hear my grandson wants nothing to do with me...why is that? I'm just a lonely old man who really loves his grandson...

dude, you are supposed to make a completely different thread about it.

Unless you weren't aiming for a parody

Well, I'm HOPING that the OP will see that there are two sides to every story, and understand that his grandpa's actions may not have been malicious at all. I'm hoping that he'll learn that everyone is different and expresses themselves differently, and in the future will give people the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst.

I guess parody threads *sort of* do that, but I'm aiming for a bit less humor and a bit more serious thought.

I don't think I'll get it, of course.

he has a part in some of my cousin's life and all of his wife's kids/grandkids.

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: jagec

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze

Originally posted by: jagec
I can't believe it...my whole life my grandson lived 45 minutes away from me and he NEVER invited me over. I kept eating at this restaurant near where he lived, hoping he'd see me and come say hi, but nothing. Finally this weekend I needed a big favor done...I needed to get a wiring schematic so that I could fix my car (I can't afford to send it to a shop). I was hoping that it could be a project for me and my grandson to work on--a nice little classical restoration--but just in case he wasn't into that, I asked my son about it. He said he's pass on the word, but now I hear my grandson wants nothing to do with me...why is that? I'm just a lonely old man who really loves his grandson...

dude, you are supposed to make a completely different thread about it.

Unless you weren't aiming for a parody

Well, I'm HOPING that the OP will see that there are two sides to every story, and understand that his grandpa's actions may not have been malicious at all. I'm hoping that he'll learn that everyone is different and expresses themselves differently, and in the future will give people the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst.

I guess parody threads *sort of* do that, but I'm aiming for a bit less humor and a bit more serious thought.

I don't think I'll get it, of course.

he has a part in some of my cousin's life and all of his wife's kids/grandkids.

I guess we can never know the full story in one posting.

Any paricular reason you know of that he's not taken an interest in your life?

 

[moshquerade]

if you have to ask. . .

 

[Reckoner]

Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

 

[michaels]

Well he dumped his kids off with his mom and she raised them, he was pretty much a deadbeat.

 

[michaels]

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

 

[Reckoner]

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

You shouldn't let someone else's shortcomings dictate how you treat them. Take the high road. Kill 'em with kindness. Too much hate these days...

 

[jordanz]

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

For real, only thing this man has is the title for "grandpa." That aside, a random person asks your father for a favor to tell you to retrieve a schematic for a 50 year old car,.. you do it right quick?

 

[michaels]

I don't hate him. The thing is he is like a stranger.

 

[Reckoner]

Originally posted by: jordanz

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

For real, only thing this man has is the title for "grandpa." That aside, a random person asks your father for a favor to tell you to retrieve a schematic for a 50 year old car,.. you do it right quick?

I would search around for a bit, what's the worst that can happen? I don't find it? At least I made the effort.

 

[doze]

Nah you weren't being a jackass just being truthful. I probably wouldn't help either in that situation except for telling them to go to Auto Zone and buy a repair manual.

 

[jordanz]

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats

Originally posted by: jordanz

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

For real, only thing this man has is the title for "grandpa." That aside, a random person asks your father for a favor to tell you to retrieve a schematic for a 50 year old car,.. you do it right quick?

I would search around for a bit, what's the worst that can happen? I don't find it? At least I made the effort.

And then what's that? Time wasted. And they move on to another venue, just like they would have given you said "No" to begin with.

 

[MrDudeMan]

you are the same person you accuse him of being. you have also made no effort and right now was your chance but you chose to be bitter instead. someone had to be the first step and he may have been doing that, or maybe he wasnt, but either way you made sure it didnt work. you are being immature and stubburn so this is just as much your fault as it is his.

 

[jordanz]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
you are the same person you accuse him of being. you have also made no effort and right now was your chance but you chose to be bitter instead. someone had to be the first step and he may have been doing that, or maybe he wasnt, but either way you made sure it didnt work. you are being immature and stubburn so this is just as much your fault as it is his.

I don't see it immature to indirectly say "f_ck you" to someone.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: jordanz

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats

Originally posted by: jordanz

Originally posted by: michaels

Originally posted by: PaulNEPats
Stop being an ass michaels, and help him.

Why? He has money, he can go to a dealership or mechanic.

For real, only thing this man has is the title for "grandpa." That aside, a random person asks your father for a favor to tell you to retrieve a schematic for a 50 year old car,.. you do it right quick?

I would search around for a bit, what's the worst that can happen? I don't find it? At least I made the effort.

And then what's that? Time wasted. And they move on to another venue, just like they would have given you said "No" to begin with.

time wasted sure, but its the effort that counts. you obviously have a sense of entitlement and that explains it all. you are a perfect example of what is wrong with the current younger generation. you let the chance to do the right thing slip out of your fingers because you are bitter and expect returns on all effort made toward anyone. it truely is sad.

 

[michaels]

My parents used to go over there when I was a kid on occasion, he just general didn't have interest. That's fine, but don't ask me for favors.