- May 24, 2000
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Once again, I'm going to help out the fellow geek with the age old problem of..."what do i talk to a girl about on a date".
As we all know, geeks arent' that great at conversing with the opposite sex. Dates, if they are able to get one, are filled with uncomfortable silences or else just plain boring the average girl who has no computer knowledge whatsoever.
Before I start I need to make some disclaimers since everytime I make one of these posts half the people get mad at me!
Disclaimer #1: Yes I know that some girls DO like to talk about computers and games. Geez, I'm an EE major! But as for generalizing, most girls don't know about that stuff and don't care. But if you are in the presence of a fellow female geek, then do talk about computers and games. it's a match made in heaven. you don't need my advice!
Disclaimer #2: Everything else I say and all advice given in this thread as well as my previous threads are ALL tongue in cheek, with a hint of truth. I am not liable for whatever happens if you follow what I say. I make NO guarantees!
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On with the advice...
The general idea here is the best way to not bore a girl is to not spend the whole time talking about yourself. it should be an even exchange of information 50/50 up to 70/30 in favor of the girl. Appear engaged and amused. It's good to laugh at her jokes, it will make her feel more comfortable! But please, dont' bombard her with questions one after another..then it becomes an interview...it is good to talk about yourself too.
General topics to talk about with any girl whom you have just met and want to get to know better:
Where she grew up, what her life was like growing up, her family (brothers? sisters? what her parents are like?), school life or work life if she is done with school, future plans, where she has lived in the past, places she has visited, what she likes to do for fun, favorites (books, movies, cities, animals, food, ETC), music tastes, political views, sports, cars, interests, pets, cars, current news. Please note that some of these topics aren't meant for every girl...some girls are bored by sports..or don't really care about politics. I'm sure you'll know which topics to stay away from depending on the girl.
DATE SCENARIOS:
For situations where you are going out to eat: talk about favorite restaurants, if their food tastes good, have you been to this restaurant before, what's good on the menu, ask them for recommendations if they have been there before, comment on past experiences in the restaurant (that is if anything funny/weird happened), do you cook?, talk about bad attempts at cooking (opens a whole new door of funny things just waiting to be said), or brag about how you are such a great cook! and generally anything from above.
For situations after a movie: funny scenes from the movie, general opinion of said movie, gossip you heard about any of the stars in the movies, other movies of actors in said movie, recommendations of good movies, other movies that are out (have u seen? do you want to see..maybe lead to another date!), how outrageous movie food price is, good trailers, upcoming movies you want to see (may lead to another date), and generally anything from above.
Throughout all dates, while talking...certain topics will come up that should trigger something in your past that was funny! you should mention it (as long as it's not the WEIRD/funny type). It's always good to make a girl laugh. But don't try to make her laugh the whole way through, then it just gets old. For example, while talking about brothers and sisters..you can be like "when we were little..my brother pulled this horrible prank on me..." don't be afraid to embarass yourself. as long as you can laugh at yourself too. if it makes the girl laugh, it's worth it.
While talking to her if you find out she has some interest that corresponds with an interest of yours..pursue it! you guys like the same book? talk about other books you read....authors you like...etc. music is also a wide category that can be pursued...concerts...instruments you play yourself (girls like musicians! )...etc.
Last but not least, this is kind of funny but sometimes I talk about things I've read through AT. AT is a wonderful source of daily news and thought provoking discussions. You can mention "today i read an article about the NY lotto being 9-1-1..." ....conversation ensues...
or bring up a deep discussion on religion or abortion (although this will probably be better saved for a later date after you get to know her better ). There are some great threads in ATOT that would be good conversation starters especially if you are running out of things to talk about.
Anyways, the easiest way is to find something you both have in common. It's easy to talk about something if you are passionate about it. Well this should get you through the first date at least!
anybody else have tips?
(yes, i sat here and typed this whole thing up. it's my 2nd to last day at work and i have nothing to do!!) hehe.
As we all know, geeks arent' that great at conversing with the opposite sex. Dates, if they are able to get one, are filled with uncomfortable silences or else just plain boring the average girl who has no computer knowledge whatsoever.
Before I start I need to make some disclaimers since everytime I make one of these posts half the people get mad at me!
Disclaimer #1: Yes I know that some girls DO like to talk about computers and games. Geez, I'm an EE major! But as for generalizing, most girls don't know about that stuff and don't care. But if you are in the presence of a fellow female geek, then do talk about computers and games. it's a match made in heaven. you don't need my advice!
Disclaimer #2: Everything else I say and all advice given in this thread as well as my previous threads are ALL tongue in cheek, with a hint of truth. I am not liable for whatever happens if you follow what I say. I make NO guarantees!
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
On with the advice...
The general idea here is the best way to not bore a girl is to not spend the whole time talking about yourself. it should be an even exchange of information 50/50 up to 70/30 in favor of the girl. Appear engaged and amused. It's good to laugh at her jokes, it will make her feel more comfortable! But please, dont' bombard her with questions one after another..then it becomes an interview...it is good to talk about yourself too.
General topics to talk about with any girl whom you have just met and want to get to know better:
Where she grew up, what her life was like growing up, her family (brothers? sisters? what her parents are like?), school life or work life if she is done with school, future plans, where she has lived in the past, places she has visited, what she likes to do for fun, favorites (books, movies, cities, animals, food, ETC), music tastes, political views, sports, cars, interests, pets, cars, current news. Please note that some of these topics aren't meant for every girl...some girls are bored by sports..or don't really care about politics. I'm sure you'll know which topics to stay away from depending on the girl.
DATE SCENARIOS:
For situations where you are going out to eat: talk about favorite restaurants, if their food tastes good, have you been to this restaurant before, what's good on the menu, ask them for recommendations if they have been there before, comment on past experiences in the restaurant (that is if anything funny/weird happened), do you cook?, talk about bad attempts at cooking (opens a whole new door of funny things just waiting to be said), or brag about how you are such a great cook! and generally anything from above.
For situations after a movie: funny scenes from the movie, general opinion of said movie, gossip you heard about any of the stars in the movies, other movies of actors in said movie, recommendations of good movies, other movies that are out (have u seen? do you want to see..maybe lead to another date!), how outrageous movie food price is, good trailers, upcoming movies you want to see (may lead to another date), and generally anything from above.
Throughout all dates, while talking...certain topics will come up that should trigger something in your past that was funny! you should mention it (as long as it's not the WEIRD/funny type). It's always good to make a girl laugh. But don't try to make her laugh the whole way through, then it just gets old. For example, while talking about brothers and sisters..you can be like "when we were little..my brother pulled this horrible prank on me..." don't be afraid to embarass yourself. as long as you can laugh at yourself too. if it makes the girl laugh, it's worth it.
While talking to her if you find out she has some interest that corresponds with an interest of yours..pursue it! you guys like the same book? talk about other books you read....authors you like...etc. music is also a wide category that can be pursued...concerts...instruments you play yourself (girls like musicians! )...etc.
Last but not least, this is kind of funny but sometimes I talk about things I've read through AT. AT is a wonderful source of daily news and thought provoking discussions. You can mention "today i read an article about the NY lotto being 9-1-1..." ....conversation ensues...
or bring up a deep discussion on religion or abortion (although this will probably be better saved for a later date after you get to know her better ). There are some great threads in ATOT that would be good conversation starters especially if you are running out of things to talk about.
Anyways, the easiest way is to find something you both have in common. It's easy to talk about something if you are passionate about it. Well this should get you through the first date at least!
anybody else have tips?
(yes, i sat here and typed this whole thing up. it's my 2nd to last day at work and i have nothing to do!!) hehe.