victim of unrequitted
- Thread starter Ruroni
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This is the only kind of love I have known... except I was never brave enough to let the girl know.
Don't be her friend unless you can truely be her friend. Unless this friendship has purpose, distance yourself and see what happens. Odds are you won't be able to do it.
If she isn't the one then she isn't the one. When you meet the one, you will easily forget about her.
Captante
Lifer
- Oct 20, 2003
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Sorry man ... your on the friend-ladder! 
Best bet is to cut her off & suck it up because once your rellegated to that side of the ladder theres just about no hope for you! (and pretty soon she'll start doing an outlaw-biker!)
http://www.laddertheory.com/
Best bet is to cut her off & suck it up because once your rellegated to that side of the ladder theres just about no hope for you! (and pretty soon she'll start doing an outlaw-biker!)
http://www.laddertheory.com/
This sounds sort of familiar... my gf and I started off with kind of a weird relationship with me liking her and her liking me as a friend, and her liking this other guy, and him not really liking her, but hooking up with her periodically which raised false hopes in her, which then crushed my hopes, which had been rising... and so on. Long story short, we're engaged now.
I stuck with it, and now we're very happy together, but there were times in the beginning when I almost broke it off with her. I even wrote out an email, detailing my reasons, but I never sent it, because I'd had a huge crush on this girl for years, and now I was so close to making it work, and I really wanted it to. The first time I told her I loved her, she didn't really say anything back, kind of like in the Seinfeld episode ("Huge matzah ball"), but eventually, I won her over.
My advice to you would be just to let it play out, and it will eventually resolve itself. I know from personal experience how hard that can be, and how agonizingly painful it is at times, but I also know that the rewards can be incredible.
I think dirtboy is right, though, if you can't truly be her friend, then don't be her friend. But by God, be the best damn friend you can be, and maybe you can eventually convince her that *she* loves *you*. If you are always there for her, and always willing to listen, to talk and to care, then you'll basically be putting the ball in her court, and it will be up to her to decide. Think of it as playing defense, I realize it sounds more like playing offense, but if you think about it, it's not, you've made your move, it's her turn.
Good luck, Ruroni.
I stuck with it, and now we're very happy together, but there were times in the beginning when I almost broke it off with her. I even wrote out an email, detailing my reasons, but I never sent it, because I'd had a huge crush on this girl for years, and now I was so close to making it work, and I really wanted it to. The first time I told her I loved her, she didn't really say anything back, kind of like in the Seinfeld episode ("Huge matzah ball"), but eventually, I won her over.
My advice to you would be just to let it play out, and it will eventually resolve itself. I know from personal experience how hard that can be, and how agonizingly painful it is at times, but I also know that the rewards can be incredible.
I think dirtboy is right, though, if you can't truly be her friend, then don't be her friend. But by God, be the best damn friend you can be, and maybe you can eventually convince her that *she* loves *you*. If you are always there for her, and always willing to listen, to talk and to care, then you'll basically be putting the ball in her court, and it will be up to her to decide. Think of it as playing defense, I realize it sounds more like playing offense, but if you think about it, it's not, you've made your move, it's her turn.
Good luck, Ruroni.
This is simple. You have feelings for her, she does not share those feelings for you. Now that she knows about your feelings she also knows that by being friends with you she can abuse you and get you to do things for her normal guys would not unless they were getting some action. You have entered the "friend to be abused" zone. Get the hell out now.
Feel for you, but you need to get over it. The worst "love" is this unrequited/obssesive kind of crush, because frankly it isn't love.
Also sorry, but I could barely understand your MSN conversation, especially the last third or so.
To be honest, if you show you are over it and looking at other girls, she may change her mind (but don't do it with that intent otherwise it wouldn't work).
Also sorry, but I could barely understand your MSN conversation, especially the last third or so.
To be honest, if you show you are over it and looking at other girls, she may change her mind (but don't do it with that intent otherwise it wouldn't work).
1sikbITCH
Diamond Member
- Jan 3, 2001
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Haha the friend zone!
Only one thing left for you now. Show up at her house at about 3am drunk out of your mind, whiskey bottle in hand, and start screaming at her house for her to take her stupid friendship and shove it, as you proudly pee all over her mother's flowerbed. When her father flings open the door, shotgun in hand, say "I've come for your daughter, Chuck!" and puke all over his shoes right before passing out on the porch.
Next day she'll either be bailing you out of jail or blocking your chat ID. Either way you'll have escaped from the friend zone.
Only one thing left for you now. Show up at her house at about 3am drunk out of your mind, whiskey bottle in hand, and start screaming at her house for her to take her stupid friendship and shove it, as you proudly pee all over her mother's flowerbed. When her father flings open the door, shotgun in hand, say "I've come for your daughter, Chuck!" and puke all over his shoes right before passing out on the porch.
Next day she'll either be bailing you out of jail or blocking your chat ID. Either way you'll have escaped from the friend zone.
troglodytis
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- Nov 29, 2000
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what you need to do it is POST THE PICS!
then point her toward this thread. she will either love it or hate it. either way, your problem will be solved.
then point her toward this thread. she will either love it or hate it. either way, your problem will be solved.
The only way to solve this riddle is to ask the OP for a pic of himself and then of the girl and we'll then tell you what's going on.
troglodytis
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0roo0roo
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Originally posted by: Captante
Sorry man ... your on the friend-ladder!
Best bet is to cut her off & suck it up because once your rellegated to that side of the ladder theres just about no hope for you! (and pretty soon she'll start doing an outlaw-biker!)
http://www.laddertheory.com/
lol
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