Venting / Advice Needed

[NakaNaka]

Ugh. I just had the worst conversation with my gf. She's very upset because her mother is such a bad person and she puts her down so much. On top of that, we're having some problems. She was so frustrating tonight beyodn belief and I know that is time for me to move on (because it wasn't just this night). I made her feel even worse and cry a lot, and I think we both know it was inevitable and she asked me if we wanted to break up and i said no, I couldn't do it while she was so upset. Then I just said something stupid and it wasn't even that bad it was just like asking a little reassurance about us and asking if she could just make me feel a little bit better (because I was pretty upset too) and she got so upset and said she was leaving wether she hung up or I let her go (because I have a rule about getting off the phone upset). I said i was sorry as soon as I said and it and she said it didnt make her feel any better, its bull. God I just want to end this, but I fel so horrible, especially now.

 

[PowerEngineer]

Sorry things aren't going well for you and your girl friend. I sympathize with your desire to not add to her current unhappiness by ending your relationship right now, but you may have to ask yourself how likely it is that there'll be a good time to let her know this anytime soon. It sounds to me like keeping up the pretense is hard on you emotionally. And if you think she already realizes it's over (and you find yourself doing things that make "her feel even worse and cry a lot), maybe hanging on longer isn't really good for her either.

And a general observation: it takes time and experience to handle these emotional relationships well, and most everyone looking back on their teenage years will remember several ocassions where they botched it and hurt their boy/girl friend's feelings. So, don't be too hard on yourself. Live and learn.

Good Luck!

 

[NakaNaka]

Thanks for the words, they definitly mean a lot to me.

Very good advice