Utah - high school girl wins state championship - 2nd&3rd place parents accuse her of being trans

[kitkat22]

That has nothing to do with their actual gender, but sexual orientation. And yes, it appears at a very early age. Little boy next door was clearly effeminate at age 3. The three playmates, all withing 6 months of each other, were this boy, my daughter, and a little girl next door. When they played house, he wanted to be the mother. At age 5 he spent more time fixing and styling his hair more than the girls. At age 8 or 9, dressed in drag while playing dress up. He's now living the good life as a kept man as he found a wealthy sugar daddy.

His dad, was as pure backwoods redneck as you could find, owned and ran an auto junkyard.

As I mentioned in my statement, my comments were just anecdotal and hopefully provided some additional context. They weren't intended to necessarily imply sex/gender.

As I have been looking to understand the current "fad" there are some patterns/observations emerging that I hope helps individuals understand better. If you read the WPATH guidelines, they are very direct with how children/teenagers are treated. They very clearly state for many kids, gender dysphoria is part of puberty and is clearly a phase. Here are some other observations.

1) There is a high percentage of autistic children who identify as transgender
2) Children who are sexually or verbally abused can often identify as transgender - I personally have seen several "female assigned at birth" identify as male because their home is unstable or there is a violent relative in the home.
3) Curiosity - many consider puberty a time of experimentation
4) Fear of puberty - many kids are not prepared sufficiently to experience the rapid changes of puberty
5) Avoiding the female stereotype - some girls/women simply don't want to be identified as a sex object or the stereotypical pink.
6) They are transgender

These are just some I was able to think of. I am sure there are more but the point is we as clinicians/providers take that into consideration and don't just throw puberty blockers or hormones at every kid that comes through the door. In actuality, there is no provider who does follow WPATH who should be even attempting medications until they are starting or shortly after puberty.

Gender dysphoria sucks. I was able to describe some of the feeling in a couple of examples. They aren't perfect, but hopefully helps.

Imagine walking through life with headphones on. For those with gender dysphoria, there is a constant static. Just like a TV that has no station. For some, the static is louder. For others, it is quieter. The volume can change as well. We try to find various coping mechanisms to overwhelm the noise. Some to drugs. Some to suicide. For me, it was overworking. Eventually, the noise gets to you.

When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, I would dare to venture most of you have no problems with that. For me, I purposely avoided looking in the mirror because I could not see myself as male. It wasn't until recently, I could actually start appreciating who I am.

So, what does this mean for transgender individuals in sports. It's trying to belong and be a part of a community. I'm part of our church's womens organization and I am welcomed with open arms. These kids who truly are transgender want a way to be themselves. I am also willing to bet most aren't there to be number one. That would make you stand out and most of us want to just blend in.

Maybe that helps someone understand better.

 

[brycejones]

I am not going to CTFD about religious nut jobs thinking it is ok to perform gender checks on athletes that are not feminine enough.

Whoosh

 

[Meghan54]

Odd how conservatives have huge problems with gay men yet seem to have no problems with gay women...or have problems with trans men and not trans women. Always wondered why.....

 

[Moonbeam]

Odd how conservatives have huge problems with gay men yet seem to have no problems with gay women...or have problems with trans men and not trans women. Always wondered why.....

Not my experience. I was just fine with a lesbian being gay and it wasn't a problem but it became a titanic one the minute I realized that my masculine charms weren't enough to seduce her as I had so vividly imagined. Turns out there was definitely something very fucked up about her and I was really tempted there for a bit to swear somebody should have put her out of her misery. But what's the point, you soon figure out they're all like that, something wrong with their heads. There's just no other explanation. I got it all as a man and I can last for hours. I can even walk on my knuckles.