updated, WHO SHOULD PAY ??

[Bluga]

When you go out with your girlfriend / boyfriend, who pays the bill?

Do you go dutch (split) or alternate ?

What is expected by men / women?

Which one is polite?

 

[ArkAoss]

used to dutch, but as it gets slightly serious, I'd treat. and not just for food

 

[shiznut123]

what does dutch mean?

 

[helloedchen]

we alternate...thats the best and safest way.

 

[LOWDRAG]

my wife pays with the bank card,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,?
hmmmmmmm,,,,,,,thats my direct deposit check that goes into that account.
:frown:

 

[Frenchie]

shiznut123: You pay for yous, she pays for hers.

Usually I pay or we alternate.

 

[Pastore]

alternate back and forth sometimes, but most i do

 

[UNKNOWNDUDE]

IF you are mature and asking a girl out, you have to pay! that's kind of moral law

 

[ArkAoss]

especially if you decide the restraunt, if she don't like it. . . of course, if i picked she'll like it. i have a good friend who works at a nice restraunt, one of these days, ill go down their, and he said he's gonna rig things up, knowing him i should worry. .

 

[Bignate603]

I pay first few times during the relationship then split once we get to know each other a little better.

 

[beer]

I second Bignate. For the first few dates its always gentlemanly to pay in full; as it gets more serious you can go dutch or alternate.

 

[Bluga]

more thoughts?

 

[shopbruin]

in the beginning he paid for everything.

after he bought his car and before i left for school we started going dutch.

lately it depends on what we do. i'm only home whenever i'm off from school so he's more... willing to pay for both of us. if we see a movie and food i pay for movie and he'll pay for food. if its only dinner i've been chipping in for the tip, so on.

 

[Whitedog]

The ole "the Guy pays"... is Crap!

I taught my GF a lesson in that.. Our first date, I "asked her" out, so I payed for everything. It was pretty expensive too (to me), 2 concert tickets $80, dinner $40. Then several weeks went by and we just hung out, then she asks me "Why haven't you taken me out on a date again?" I replied simply, "When are you taking me out?" Wow did that floor her! But, she got the picture...

We've been going out for almost 2 years now, and we both just pay whatever whenever... sometimes I treat, sometiems she treats...

Bottom line, It's a two-way street. You can have someone treat you to a date all the time and not expect to treat them... It should be within ratio of both your incomes... in other words, if you both make the same cash, you both should pay equal. If you make more, you should pay a little more...

 

[Whitedog]

I think the habbit of Guys always paying came from back when women didn't work, they rasised the family and the man brought home the cash, so naturally it was always the man that payed for everything.

These days it's different. Women make a living just the same as the man does, so therefore should foot the bill equally.

 

[Bluga]

Sometimes the dinning fee and everything is very expensive. I'm only a student and don't get a lot of money. I sometimes question the idea that guys should pay since if someone really loves you she/he should not let you pay all the time.

 

[Bluga]

updated.

 

[sweetrobin]

Whoever did the asking should pay in the begining .. then after that its give and take ... In our relatioship we pool the money and then we just pay from that ... he makes more than I do ... so he ends up paying more but we try to do it as fairly as possible

 

[DAM]

actually ive always paid, never really felt right letting the girl pay.



thats just me.



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