Update: Man, my sister ran away from home today!

[Ryan]

Man, all of a sudden my family went from perfect to dysfunctional!!!!!!!!! My sister has ALWAYS been very rebellious throughtout her life, and my family had always had some behavioral problems with her. She is EASILY influenced by her friends, more than the average teenager is. I have know that she has done some occasional pot smoking since 2 years ago. Well, lately, she started getting in on drugs heavily, and my parents though she was acting weird (I kind of hinted that she might be on something) and got her drug tested. When the results came back, they were positive for marijuana, and ecstacy. Even after we got the results, she denied ever using them. Well, my parents have had her on lockdown at our house, and she started some drug therapy program. Then, yesterday she blurted out to me that she was still smoking marijuana, and I just got so pissed off that I told this to my parents. Today my parents questioned her about it, and she said that she didn't know what I was talking about. Then, she told my parents to "shut the f#ck up and back out of her life", and my mom slapped her in the face. My sister then got pissed off and said that she was gonna run away, and my mom told her to go ahead a do it. Well, she did......

I don't know what to do. Should I look for her? Or should I just wait to see if she'll come back home?

BTW - she's 16.

Update: Day two, and she's not home yet. I posted at the bottom of the thread.

 

[Sluggo]

I feel for you, my parents went through this same crap with my younger sister, a few years back, she was a little bitch to them.

Wish I could tell you the answer to your question, but every person is different, most people grow out of that stage though.

 

[Anubis]

if i was you i would call her friends find out where she was make sure she wasentlivin on teh street. dont force her to come home right away let her chill at a friends place for a cople of days to let her calm down. then go and talk with here peacefully. this same sortta thing happed with my friends sister and they eventually worked things out. hope the same goes for you im sorry to hear about this.

 

[Ryan]

I don't think it's a stage - if so, 5 years is a pretty long stage...

We live with my mom and my stepfather (since we were both little kids), and my mom is gonna send her to go and live with my dad and stepmother in Texas as soon as she comes home.......

 

[bigrash]

man I feel for you.

My younger sister ran away about 3 years ago (she was 18 then). She's married now and wouldn't wanna come back. She broke my parent's heart though when she left and my parents haven't been the same.
Luckily, my sister never did drugs. I don't know what to tell you, but she's only 16 so try to find out who she mind be living with. It's very dangerous out there for a young girl specially if she does drugs.

Good luck to you man. I feel your pain

 

[ScoobMaster]

<--------runs upstairs and looks lovingly at 11-month old son and wife sleeping peacfully in bed & hopes and prays he never has to deal with this situation as a father.



I feel for you. As a new father (but I'm not that young - 32) the thought of my baby boy growing up and going through peer pressure and experimenting with drugs scares the willies out of me. I hope I do a good enough job raising him and teaching him.

 

[Ryan]

<< <--------runs upstairs and looks lovingly at 11-month old son and wife sleeping peacfully in bed & hopes and prays he never has to deal with this situation as a father. I feel for you. As a new father (but I'm not that young - 32) the thought of my baby boy growing up and going through peer pressure and experimenting with drugs scares the willies out of me. I hope I do a good enough job raising him and teaching him. >>



She makes me wonder. We are only a year apart - yet I'm fine. We were raised in christian homes, with loving families. I just don't understand what would lead her to start doing such irrational things. I know she's young, but she has been making that same mistakes for many years in a row.

 

[Anubis]

just because you were both raised in teh same household dosent mean you will be the same. people do thigs that they want to regardless of how they were raised. i was raised in a good home went to DARE classes and such. that didnt stop me from smokin weed or drinkin underage and such. sh!t half my friends now have felony drug charges on there records for sellin weed and acid and such. and they were all raised in goo dhomes and went to chirch every sunday. just goes to show you that people do what they want. and people make mistakes ive made my fair share of them. mistakes have to be made so you can learn from them. this is quite possiable one of thoes times for your sister

 

[gopunk]

i feel for you as well.

has anybody else noticed the trend? older sibling is relatively normal, younger sibling is just insane? i have noticed this with nearly all of the multiple child households i have known.

 

[Heisenberg]

<< i feel for you as well.

has anybody else noticed the trend? older sibling is relatively normal, younger sibling is just insane? i have noticed this with nearly all of the multiple child households i have known. >>



I really haven't noticed that. I have an older sister and we're both relatively normal (well, I'm as normal as an AT'er gets). I have several friends that are the younger child and they're normal. Maybe I just got lucky.

rbloedow - sorry to hear that. Hope things work out well.

 

[datalink7]

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<< <--------runs upstairs and looks lovingly at 11-month old son and wife sleeping peacfully in bed & hopes and prays he never has to deal with this situation as a father. I feel for you. As a new father (but I'm not that young - 32) the thought of my baby boy growing up and going through peer pressure and experimenting with drugs scares the willies out of me. I hope I do a good enough job raising him and teaching him. >>



She makes me wonder. We are only a year apart - yet I'm fine. We were raised in christian homes, with loving families. I just don't understand what would lead her to start doing such irrational things. I know she's young, but she has been making that same mistakes for many years in a row. >>



Weird... me and my sister were exactly the same way. We are only a year apart. She took a lot of drugs starting at around 14-15... my parents found out (when she was about 16) and put her on lockdown and sent her to drug therapy. The only difference is that she never ended up running away (though she threatened a couple of times). She has pretty much grown out of her bitchy rebelious stage (18 now), though she was in it for a long time (since about 12-13 she started being rude to my parents). And now she is more responsible about doing drugs and alcohol. I know she hasn't stopped completely, but she pretty much does it only once in a while now and no more hard drugs.

I don't know exactly what advise to offer. For me and my sister, I just tried to be understanding of her viewpoint and be there for her if she needed me. But I would also give my view on things as well. For instance... I forget exactly what happened but my sister and my dad got into a big arguement. Later on, she asked me "why didn't you back me up or say anything? I know you agreed with me and disagreed with him!" I told her "That might be the case, but it is his [and our moms] household and even if what the request is ridiculous we still owe them the respect that they deserve as our parents and should obey what rules they dictate."

 

[LongCoolMother]

im sorry man, i really feel for your parents especially, your mother must have been heartbroken. i guess there isnt a whole lot you could do, but the best thing you probably know already is to just be a good child and try to make everything for your parents more smooth until thngs get better. good luck

 

[Que-TiP]

My younger brother is a rebelious degenerate too. They'll grow out of it. But she's not a little kid anymore, so its best for them to just let her figure it out. Ow yeah, when she's 18 she gets kicked out. Life is the best teacher of lessons.

 

[Grommet5]

I think you should go and give your a mom a hug, since she's probably heart broken that her little baby has run off.

yeah i definetely think you should look for your sis. Ever seen the movie traffic, the chick in the movie runs off from a drug rehab facility because she's an addict, and she becomes a whore to support her habbit.

 

[Moonbeam]

"... and I just got so pissed off that I told this to my parents."

"All of a sudden my family went from perfect to dysfunctional."

Things to ponder.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

"Then, she told my parents to "shut the f#ck up and back out of her life", and my mom slapped her in the face."

"We were raised in christian homes, with loving families."

Something else to ponder.

 

[Kadarin]

<< "Then, she told my parents to "shut the f#ck up and back out of her life", and my mom slapped her in the face."

"We were raised in christian homes, with loving families."

Something else to ponder. >>



Ah yes.. good, Christian families..

(perhaps more "Christian" in label and affectation, as opposed to honest value?)

 

[AzNmAnJLH]

wth? the first post should be the second post? i'm lost

 

[Fjive]

:Q

 

[Electric Amish]

Is her room bigger than yours? Maybe you could move in.

amish

 

[Hammer]

I would let her come back on her own. To go after her would appear weak and only encourage her in the future. If she has to come back with her tail between her legs, its less likely to happen again.

 

[Pepsei]

dang, what a no good brat.... let her rot outside.

she forgot who's responisble for her being....she'll need to be taught a lesson how hard it is to be in the real world...

 

[kt]

<< I would let her come back on her own. To go after her would appear weak and only encourage her in the future. If she has to come back with her tail between her legs, its less likely to happen again. >>


You're right. Exact same thing happened with my little cousin. She ran away and her parents went after her. After that she ran away about 6 more times. Fortunately, she eventually grew out of that rebellious stage and is now a straight A's student.

 

[bozack]

I agree with the others, don't go after her. But then again if she is in with the wrong crowd there is a good chance she might start doing some heavier drugs while she is away, and that would not be good

 

[Freejack2]

After reading this, I think if we ever have kids we are going to buy a home out in the middle of nowhere. Nice quiet country schools, no hassles, no worries.