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Uncle died this morning.

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Damn Dirty Ape

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Just wanted to vocalize this (as it were). Mom's brother in his 70's died expectedly early this morning. He lived about 2hrs from us but I remember when I was younger he and my aunt would come and visit us quite a bit.

He was among other things an Air Force office that served in Saudi Arabia, a High School Biology teacher and a traveling salesman for the Transcontinental Bolt Company. After retirement he went to selling some brand of shoes and substiute taught. He never sat around. He had 2 loving stepchildren from his wife's first marriage which failed rather quickly, but was unable to have children of his own.

He also endured several years of hospitilization and rehab due to being stricken with polio at a very young age (I think 10 or so). He also sold the GRIT newspaper around his hometown before this happened.

As they got a bit older the visits slowed down of course, then about 11 years ago my aunt died (liver problems, some form of hepatitis from a blood transfusion many years back) and he started letting himself go.

He pretty much wished on a daily basis that he could be with his one and only true love in his life and the last number of years he really has not been a very happy person. Sold the larger house, bought a small little cottage/house type place (cute), and never entertained any of the local widows that would bring him food, baked goods, etc.

He wanted his wife. Then about 7 years ago my Dad passed who was a good friend of his and he told us then, 'I'm losing everyone in my life, aren't I?' We tried to invite him to get-togethers we would have here and about 2 years ago he fell going to McDonalds one morning and developed what they feel was dementia. His stepdaughter placed him in a care facility where she was location manager so he got good care.

He was doing good yesterday and last night and apparently was found already gone this morning.

Well, I'm not sure how well my Mom is going to take this, her other brother passed about 3 years ago but they lived several states away; she was very close to this one. In fact she had just sent him a birthday card a few weeks ago.

I guess he's catching up on things with his wife and my Dad I hope.

Not quite sure how to feel on this weekend of rebirth and resurrection.
 
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My condolences Ape. It sounds like it was the best outcome. When it's time to go, it's time to go. It sounds like it was in his best interests, if not the people who loved him to leave.
 
Sorry to hear that Ape. I lost my BIL to cancer yesterday 🙁

Both of their struggles are over now.

Gonna be a long week.
 
I'm sorry for you loss - and this is the time to remember and cherish all those good times you and the rest of your family had with him around.
 
I'm in a smiler situation now with an uncle. About two hours away but no aunt to take care of him. part of me doesnt care and blame him for being foolish and not taking care of himself, but we all have memories attached to people in our family, so its hard.

RIP.
 
thanks all, just losing someone that's always been there.. never experienced a loss like this so close to a holiday. None of us are really sure how to act/feel. I called his stepdaughter this evening and we talked for quite a while, made me feel a bit better but still..

My Mom is kind of torn between knowing he's better off now, new body, renewed life, etc, and losing her baby brother.

Services are Tuesday so maybe tomorrow we're going to go to church and see what might come from that for us. Normally we don't but might be a good idea for all of us.

thanks again for your kind words.

Happy Easter to those who celebrate it.
 
Thank you all. Looks like I'm asked to be a pallbearer and of course I'll do it. I remember when I was very small my uncle was larger than life it seemed. As much a superman almost as my Dad.
 
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