ugh... "friend" problems (longish post)

[Modeps]

alright, these guys i know from my college days and i were all planning on getting together to go see a sporting event. It turned into a major thing and like everyone i know who likes sports wanted to go... (not everyone, but quite a few people) so i ended up ordering 13 tickets for the event, all on my debit card so i wouldnt bother putting off the credit card bill. each ticket came to about 37.50. Now, after I had recieved the tickets in the mail, I emailed everyone that told me that they wanted to go and told them the tickets came and please get in contact with me about how they would get me the money and where i should send the tickets.

That helped me get rid of all but 4 of the tickets, of which none of the 3 people who wanted them responded to the email. So after a month of waiting, I sent a second email, this time to only the people who didnt respond after the first email... this returned two replys... one friend who i talk to all the time, sent me the money for his two tickets and i mailed the tickets right to him...

another response came from only one of the remaining two: "Dear Sir, I do not know what you are talking about, please do not send me any more of your mails" (i could tell this was a joking email, of which i responded "jerk." Within a week i got an IM from the same guy telling me he would pay me at the event... i was fine with it, no doubt, seeing he was my roomate for 2 of my 4 years in college.

this is where the communication stopped between us. Any IM to him, or the other non-replier resulted in either ignoring me, or the awesome "closing-of-the-AIM".
eg:
(to the non-replier)
me: hey man
xxxxx signed off at 5:43pm

or
(to the one-time-replier)
me: i need to get your address so i can send you your tickets
--wait---
me: hello
--wait---
me: are you there?


that type of thing. so im getting pretty ripped... both of these guys would always return my IMs immediately. So i got the impression that they both decided they didnt want to come, after they had already told me they would back about 1.5 mnths ago. so finally, right when the one-time-replier came on, i messaged him for the last time... asking him for the addres... of which no reply came AGAIN (note: it wasnt just once that the aforementioned occurances occured, it was quite a few times)... so i was sick of being ignored and just let run my anger and frustration at him... ultimately recieving no IM response yet again.

the next day, i recieve 2 emails, both are from my "friends" who are pretty angry at me for what i said to the one the night before. saying things like " i dont know what your problem is..." and "if i was so worried about it, why didnt i call them about it?" (that would have been fine if I had either of their numbers, both were lost about 6 months ago when i forgot to back them up and reformatted my drive) finally "we planned to pay for them at the game all along"

the kind person i am, wrote a lengthy email to them telling them that i apoligize for going off and how the situation looked to me after not hearing from them, being ignored, etc. at the base of which i told them that i sent the tickets and it was fine that they pay me at the game... however, i was told by one of them that he would pay me, not by the other. how the hell am i supposed to know that he was going to pay at the game? am i psychic? or should i realized that these two guys are realy one in the same person, just two different bodies (constantly joked about at school because they always did everything together, but i am finding out that it wasnt really a joke)... SOOOooo...

I get no response yet again in my emails... I get no response still from my IMs... nothing. im really getting fed up with the fact that they cant take 2 seconds and drop me a note about whats going on with them and what their plans were. is it really too much to ask from some people that i spent 4 years of my life with? so, the event is next saturday (the 31st) and to this day, no responses from either of them....

what am i to think? im just a bit upset right now...blah
:disgust:

 

[VoodooExtreme]

That was loooong post

I say, screw them. Write a final mail to them where you say that u sell them if they don't reply to this mail.
And if they don't respond to that then try and sell the tickets to someone else.

Good luck

 

[Modeps]

i would, however being the trusting person i am, i already mailed them the tix in hopes that they would really pay me at the game... blah. im too trusting... NO MORE:frown:

 

[loogie]

Sell the tickets to someone else and leave the blokes hanging. Don't let people take advantage of you like that.

 

[luv2chill]

Intake77

Hate to say it but you should have confirmed with them by phone before even buying the tickets (I know... doesn't do you much good now).

So are you at the point where you don't expect them to show up to the game/pay you for the tickets? Or is it that you know you'll get paid but are just pissed that they won't write you a reply back?

Why don't you get their phone numbers from your other friends and give them a call. E-mail is a lot easier to ignore than a phone call (once they pick up the phone, anyway). Maybe there's a decent explanation??

It will probably all work out. But I guess you learned a lesson! Unless it was my best friend or family, I'd want the money first. Easier for everyone that way.

Good luck to you, and enjoy the game. What sporting event is it?

l2c

 

[Modeps]

welp, i confirmed via instant messanger that they both wanted to go. so that is almost like the phone. and yes, i learned that even with good friends, you cant be too sure about anything. I guess they have made the turn to the "bad friends" area.

i dont know, im more pissed that they dont respond to me. I really dont care about the money too much, its the principal of it.

and um... heh. its the xfl. we bought tickets before it started... and even though its not the best football ever, it should be fun to get with my other friends and have some beers at a football game

 

[luv2chill]

Hell yeah... enjoy it... probably a once in a lifetime opportunity seeing as the XFL's ratings are in the toilet.

Good luck to ya. Guys can be flaky sometimes--that's for sure.

l2c

 

[Modeps]

WTF is this? I just IM'd this guy telling him Tribes2 comes out next week, and he is all talkative now... ARGH!!! MEN are CRAP! heh, i like having women friends more than guy friends, they are fickle but less fickle.... (im a guy)


ARGH!