I don't agree with Nehalem, but I think a point he was making to the "what gays do doesn't affect you" crowd is this:
Why does it bother
you if a person marries a dog or a toaster to the point of not allwoing it? You have to come with a better argument than that or the slippery-slope applies, IMO.
I also think those who say that what homosexuals do at home is nobody's business is making a illogical argument because the amount of people coming out
publicly is making it our business.
I mean, if you make known who you're sleeping with don't be shocked when people rip you for it.
Happens to celebrities all the time!
Speaking as part of the "what gays do doesn't affect you" crowd, I think the slippery slope argument is perfectly valid, but the thing to do is to recognize that slopes are inherently slippery and then move cautiously to where we need to be. Even allowing the extremely unlike possibility that allowing gay marriage might one day lead to people marrying dogs or toasters, that's no reason to deny gay people the right to marry; it's a reason to oppose people marrying dogs or toasters
if and when it ever comes up. There's a much better chance in my opinion that allowing gay marriage will motivate us to allow multiple partner marriage, but again, whether we do or do not should be judged on its own merits. If we as a society decide that multiple partner marriage should not be legal, we are under no obligation to embrace it merely because we embraced gay marriage. If we refuse to evolve because of what might happen, we'll simply stagnate.
As far as gay celebrities coming out and getting in our faces, that's a function of its trendiness and of its relative lack of significant penalties as well as the remaining penalties for being gay. Once the remaining stigma and penalties have vanished there will no particular sympathy to be had and no reason for celebrities to do so, so it will not be so big a deal. We saw the same things with blacks; once they had achieved equal rights, most simply returned to living their lives just like everyone else. We'll see the same thing with gay people; once they have achieved truly equal rights, most will simply return to living their lives just like the rest of us. Oppression breeds noise - as it should.
Already things are changing. When Ellen Degeneres came out, she made a huge deal about it, using her excellent sitcom to bemoan her oppression (and killing a good show in the process.) Fast forward to Jim Parsons, similarly of sufficient fame and marketability to come out without significant penalties. He does not make a big deal at all, just says this is who I am when someone brings it up. As the need to make a big deal about it fades away, people stop making a big deal about it. The best way to stop people from whining about discrimination is to stop discriminating.
People want the courts out of their lives if they aren't doing anything to hurt anyone. We should all be on board with this.
Agreed, and well said.
Won't someone please think of the toasters!

Umm, the sexy, sexy toasters . . .