- Apr 3, 2001
I'm not her, I can say that of the trans people I know locally, a sample size of 6 of us had predominantly dated women who weren't straight, even prior to coming out. Only one of them was married when she came out, and she's still happily married to her wife. I've heard tales of couples where the supportive spouse is "only gay for their spouse". Obviously it doesn't always work out, some switch to an open wedding, and lots of times, it ends up in a divorce.Apologies if this is invasive, but the thread said to ask and I’m curious 😛 How did your wife handle this? It seems like it would be difficult for her to change her sexual preference, unless she was already interested in women as well.
I met my current partner just a few months after I'd started identifying as genderqueer (that was my starting point, it's kind of a vague term, so it was comfortable), I told her that the first time we met, and she had always considered herself straight. She was initially hesitant about my transition, but has thus far been very happy with the results. She also did some reflection, and thought about how before she'd never gone out with a girl, and had never even kissed a girl--well, except for that one time. And that other time. And that other girl She was raised conservative Christian, so that had some impact on the matter (since being gay was obviously bad, and she didn't want to be bad). We've been together almost 9 years now, and plan to have a Big Gay Wedding in a couple years.