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today or tomorrow...

rh71

rh71

No Lifer
Some may remember a few months back about me posting my grandmother had fluid in her lungs and what that meant... then we found out she has nth stage (last) lung cancer (non-smoker). Well she was doing ok a few months since then... but recently she's been bed-ridden and in-and-out of the hospital because of difficulty breathing. She was admitted to the hospital yesterday (planned) and after an injection to try to boost her appetite, her blood pressure dropped to the 70s. While I was there last night visiting, her kidneys failed... no urine coming out even though she claimed (in a very low and tired voice) that she had to go. As I left, I tried to say a goodbye (for the night) but she didn't wake. She was still breathing but too tired to even acknowledge.

I just got a call and they say she's definitely in renal failure, and her central nervous system (as far as I understood it) is shutting down... hence the non-responses. We've already signed a DNR. We're all going back later in the day to see her in the final hours. It's simply heartbreaking seeing someone fall apart over the course of time like this. My fiancee and I are to wed in Sept. and we were hoping she would make it to that (it's been years in the planning stage and I feel we now waited too long). I think she was hoping to make it to this event too... as I am the oldest in the family and it'd be her first for my generation.

I have mixed emotions right now. I know she will at least no longer suffer and she's already 80-something. I feel the most heartbroken for her husband who's the most loving and caring man I know - it brings tears to my eyes to think about his time coming without her. Her 3 children were also in tears last night... and their families including me. This is the worst part of life...
 
Originally posted by: Atomicus
My sympathy goes out to you and those around your family. In all seriousness, is she saved?
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Not sure what you mean.

EDIT>>> Oh. We're not religious... and she's buddhist if anything... I don't know what they do in times like these, but religion is the last thing on our minds right now... guess it doesn't mean much to them (I never cared for it).
 
Sorry to hear of your grandmother. Try to think of the good life that she has lived, that helps me the most during trying times.

I hope your thread isnt fixin' to get jacked by the religion police.
 
🙁

At least she will be at peace and not hurting....AND she lived a wonderful life with what seems to be a wonderful family to be proud of! 🙂
 
In all seriousness, is she saved?
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In all seriousness, you just didn't ask that question?! I don't know if she's able to recite a little prayer asking for Jesus to come into her heart. Give me a break. I think there's more to being "saved" than that. But this isn't the thread to do that.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against sharing religious beliefs. In times like these I think there's a lot of opportunity to share some feelings you have that might help those in distress. I would encourage sending a PM, instead.

It's terrible that your grandmother has to go. Watching somehow go slowly is heartbreaking...and I know it creates a sense of helplessness. If I were you, I would think about naming your daughter (when/if you get to have one 😀) after your grandmother.
 
i can somewhat relate to you. when my grandpa passed away, i felt more sorry for my grandma..thinking how is she going to go on without him. i still regret not being able to be by his side on his last few hours 🙁

dont feel ashamed to cry. thats one mistake i made. i'd try to hide my tears in front of people (even my parents).

i do like to think back to my fond memories of my grandpa though. gets me nostalgic.
 
Originally posted by: Atomicus
In all seriousness, is she saved?
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I really don't think this is an appropriate question at this time. Because people's belief's vary so widely, there is much potential to cause hurt in saying such a thing at the wrong time.


My condolences. I know it's hard to lose a family member. 🙁
 
Originally posted by: Atomicus
My sympathy goes out to you and those around your family. In all seriousness, is she saved?
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I'm sorry, but asking whether she is saved or not is just pure FLAMEBAIT!

I am christian, but I have half a mind NOT to say this to people
 
Nothing a person can say will make it any better, it is best to just cherish the great times you had together. So sorry

waitman
 
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for her



RIP grandma



my condolences rh71, remember the good times.




goodluck with the wedding
 
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