To everyone who thinks posting questions about relationships here is pathetic...

[Orsorum]

Phew, sorry 'bout the long title.

I'm just curious why everyone lamblasts people who post asking for advice about relationships. It seems to me that this is one of the best ways to get free, truthful, anonymous advice about situations that you may be too shy or embarrassed to mention to someone in real life.

Any ideas?

 

[notfred]

It's not that people hate giving relationship advice, it's just that so many times it's the same questions over and over. Things like "I like this girl but I can't ask her out for some dumb reason, what should I do?"
Followed by 50 replies like "don't be a pussy, just ask her".
And you know the guy pussed out anyway and didn't ask her out.

 

[gopunk]

yea it basically comes down to two answers:

if it's about a girl they're not with: ask her out
if it's about their girlfriend: dump her

 

[Geekbabe]

I wouldn't go so far as to say it's "pathetic" asking for advice being a normal human thing and all. I will say though that it is misguided.
This board has a really high percentage of really young people. What kind of advice can you possibly hope to get from posters of threads like "Which way do you wipe?"

 

[Orsorum]

<< I wouldn't go so far as to say it's "pathetic" asking for advice being a normal human thing and all. I will say though that it is misguided.
This board has a really high percentage of really young people. What kind of advice can you possibly hope to get from posters of threads like "Which way do you wipe?" >>



lol Baff, you never cease to provide good humor (not just the ice cream bar, either ). I still find it interesting, because there are some older people on this board (well, relatively older), and they can still provide some perspective and guidance... it's not always easy to seek an older person for guidance in real life.

 

[Moonbeam]

Everything, for me always comes back to self hate. Relationship problems happen because two people who hate themselves and can't give real love, also can't believe they are loved, or think that if they are than there is something wrong with the fool that loves them. What we basically have are vacuum cleaners sucking off vacuum cleaners. After you get burned in a few relationships you get even more calous. You dump quick so you won't get dumped, or you become cynical about relationships in general. Every new thread about relationship then has the potential to open old wounds, remind you of when you could be hurt when you were young and naive. We hate ourselves because we can be hurt and so we learn to hate being open and sensitive and naive. We put down what we hate so we can't feal our own pain. We adopt a superior attitude to others troubles so we can maintain the illusion we haven't burried the pain they express. We are all the same, just at different phases of psychosis.

 

[Geekbabe]

<< Everything, for me always comes back to self hate. Relationship problems happen because two people who hate themselves and can't give real love, also can't believe they are loved, or think that if they are than there is something wrong with the fool that loves them. What we basically have are vacuum cleaners sucking off vacuum cleaners. After you get burned in a few relationships you get even more calous. You dump quick so you won't get dumped, or you become cynical about relationships in general. Every new thread about relationship then has the potential to open old wounds, remind you of when you could be hurt when you were young and naive. We hate ourselves because we can be hurt and so we learn to hate being open and sensitive and naive. We put down what we hate so we can't feal our own pain. We adopt a superior attitude to others troubles so we can maintain the illusion we haven't burried the pain they express. We are all the same, just at different phases of psychosis. >>




Wow, deeper than I can manage to get at this hour of the day (or at any orher time most likely

Very nice Moonbeam




<---off to make the coffee

 

[amnesiac]

<< Everything, for me always comes back to self hate. Relationship problems happen because two people who hate themselves and can't give real love, also can't believe they are loved, or think that if they are than there is something wrong with the fool that loves them. What we basically have are vacuum cleaners sucking off vacuum cleaners. After you get burned in a few relationships you get even more calous. You dump quick so you won't get dumped, or you become cynical about relationships in general. Every new thread about relationship then has the potential to open old wounds, remind you of when you could be hurt when you were young and naive. We hate ourselves because we can be hurt and so we learn to hate being open and sensitive and naive. We put down what we hate so we can't feal our own pain. We adopt a superior attitude to others troubles so we can maintain the illusion we haven't burried the pain they express. We are all the same, just at different phases of psychosis. >>



That's very true about many relationships.
It just bothers me when people have such a problem dealing with their own lack of self-worth that they have to automatically apply it to everyone who DOESN'T fall into this cycle.

 

[jjones]

<< Everything, for me always comes back to self hate. Relationship problems happen because two people who hate themselves and can't give real love, also can't believe they are loved, or think that if they are than there is something wrong with the fool that loves them. What we basically have are vacuum cleaners sucking off vacuum cleaners. After you get burned in a few relationships you get even more calous. You dump quick so you won't get dumped, or you become cynical about relationships in general. Every new thread about relationship then has the potential to open old wounds, remind you of when you could be hurt when you were young and naive. We hate ourselves because we can be hurt and so we learn to hate being open and sensitive and naive. We put down what we hate so we can't feal our own pain. We adopt a superior attitude to others troubles so we can maintain the illusion we haven't burried the pain they express. We are all the same, just at different phases of psychosis. >>


Jeez, Moonbeam, quit hating yourself already; there's enough people around to take care of that for you. How about some of us do love ourselves; love ourselves enough to not get stuck in a nowhere relationship. Love ourselves enough to take chances with the pain of relationships and the possibliity to get hurt. Love ourselves enough to risk what life can serve up and pursue our hearts anyway. It's not about hate; you can't enjoy life hating yourself. It's about love; the best of life is seen through the eyes of love.

This has been a public service announcement.

 

[jjones]

BTW, Moonbeam, it's kind of like the "Is the glass half empty or is the glass half full?" kind of thing. If you get rid of the things in life that you "hate" about yourself, you'll leave an empty void. If you improve and augment the things you love about yourself then you'll naturally be replacing those things you "hate" with fulfillment and beauty. Thus filling up the glass of life.

 

[Moonbeam]

Hehe, jjohnd and amnesiac 2.0, I was responding to the question 'why do people lambast people who post a discussion of their relationships'. Technically, the question should be whether or not my diagnosis explains that phenomenon. Without commenting on the accuracy of whether or not I hate myself, it seems to be to be an error in logic to assume that a doctor has to have every disease he treats. In the case of 'this man is dead' that assumption would of necessarily not be true.

 

[Pepsei]

<< yea it basically comes down to two answers:

if it's about a girl they're not with: ask her out
if it's about their girlfriend: dump her

>>



forgot to mention if there's a pic, you'll get tons of reply about how fugly she is.

 

[Pepsei]

<< I wouldn't go so far as to say it's "pathetic" asking for advice being a normal human thing and all. I will say though that it is misguided.
This board has a really high percentage of really young people. What kind of advice can you possibly hope to get from posters of threads like "Which way do you wipe?" >>


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