To any of you with younger siblings:

[DaiShan]

So I have a younger sister (14), and I was wondering if it was a normal occurrence for them to actively try to get you into trouble. Anyways the other day she comes into my room and tells me (not asks mind you) that I am going to go pick her friend up and take them to the mall, I wasn't doing anything important and I felt like a drive anyways so I asked her if she had asked our parents, she said yes, so I said sure. I take her over to her friends house, and pull in the driveway, it was narrow and down a hill so I decide to turn around so I wouldn't have to back down the driveway well unbeknowngst to me there was a shower stall door laying on the ground that I could not see due to their high grass, I backed over it and I didn't think it had done any damage, but apparently it had cut my tire. Back to the story, we get to the mall and I give her my cell phone because I know my dad would go ballistic if he couldn't get in touch with her, and of course I would be held responsible. when she is getting out of the car with her friends, she asks for $50. I said 50 bucks? Are you insane? I don't have that kind of cash on me. To which she replied that I could easily get it by going to an ATM in the mall. I told her that it wasn't going to happen, it takes me 10 hours of work to earn that much money, why should I let her have it, I know I would never see that money again. Not like it matters anyways, she has a credit card which my parents pay off for her. Anyways on the way home I start to notice that my car isn't driving like it normally does, so I get out and sure enough the tire is flat. Not wanting to do any more damage I PUSH it to a gas station to use a payphone to call AAA I get my car towed to a tire place which said they cannot repair the tire that I need a new one, so I said ok, give me a new one (it cost $64 BTW) I have them put a new one on and I charge it to my CC. Now to me $64 is a lot of money, so I have to think of a way to make some extra cash and quick. I get home, and my parents are having some of their friends over for dinner, they ask me where my sister is and I told them she was at the mall, they go nuts on me because they didn't know (my sister had lied to me about telling them) I told them about my tire and that she had my phone, so they call it and guess what it is off. So I have to go and pick her up from the mall, bear in mind that I hate malls, but I go in and look for her for 15 minutes, I finally find her and she says she doesn't want to leave yet, I told her that our parents said she had to come home NOW and she cops an atittude because I "ratted her out" even though she lied to me and said they knew. Anyways, after dinner my parents said they would pay one of us $5 to clean the kitchen, I normally do it anyways, and I am thinking, $5 could help pay off my tire. So I do the work, get paid, and my sister finds out that I got $5 for it and got really mad saying that she needed the money more than I do and that I should have let her do it even though she said she didn't want to earlier. Then yesterday she was in a pissy mood all day, my dad asks her what is wrong, and she tells him that I owe her $5 since she loaned it to me, even produces a false IOU! he calls me into the office, and tells my sister to tell him again what happened, she said that I owe her $5 and that I had told her she wasn't going to college and I was going to keep her college money for myself! My dad goes off the handle when he hears this, doesn't even give me a chance to refute, so today I have to cut down some small trees he wants taken down by hand, and plant some bushes (involves diggin in hard clay) and I had to pay my sister $5. All because I wouldn't give her $50 the other day? Please. I am wondering if my sister is in fact Satan, or if something like this has happened to you guys?

 

[StageLeft]

Sometimes they love to get you into trouble. Nothing that a quick beating won't help when your parents are away though. Just make sure you do it AT LEAST 30 min before any one parent gets home. My younger brother used to have a remarkable talent in that he could be brought to tears by getting beat on from my older brother and I and he could keep crying for incredibly long periods of time. Often my parents would get home during this period and we'd get in sh*t!

 

[virusag11]

Your problem is that your sister doesn't love you or fear you. Pick one or the other and run with it.

My parents let us, my siblings and I, fight it out regularly. Eventually the situation would escalate and we would either solve the problem or get bats and knives.

 

[kami]

Normal teenage behavior (my sister included), but I'd also say (no offense) that your parents are morons for giving a 14 y/o a credit card and paying it off for her. I must've sent in like a dozen damn applications before I finally got my OWN CC at age 19 and I sure as hell appreciate it and what it stands for a lot more.

 

[exp]

Your problem is that your sister doesn't love you or fear you. Pick one or the other and run with it.

I recommend the "fear" route myself...it worked on my younger sister.

 

[kami]

BTW your sister probably still does love you. I know my sis was this bad and it seemed like she hated me, then when it came for me to move away for college she actually cried the day I left (insert "awwwwwwwww's"). No matter how evil they get, one day they will most likely be one of your best friends and you guys will laugh at the stupid stuff that went on back in the day.

 

[bizmark]

what the hell is wrong with your parents? Why would they give her a credit card and pay it off for her, and not pay off yours or at least pay for the tire you ruined while trying to help your sister?

 

[DaiShan]

Originally posted by: bizmark
what the hell is wrong with your parents? Why would they give her a credit card and pay it off for her, and not pay off yours or at least pay for the tire you ruined while trying to help your sister?

I don't know why she needs a $1000 card, but I want to pay off my bills, I learn to be independent, and build good credit while I live with them and I don't have to worry about real bills. As for the tire Sh1t happens, and will probably happen when I don't have them to back me up, so I might as well learn to pay it off now, oh and I have decided to go the fear route, I do know where she sleeps after all...muahhahah.

 

[exp]

I have decided to go the fear route, I do know where she sleeps after all...muahhahah.

Hehe...excellent choice. Remember that an effective strategy based on fear and intimidation should not concentrate solely on your sister. Be sure to spread the "love" to her friends as well (in my case this was accomplished by repeatedly threatening to kill them). That way they will constantly be telling your sister what a crazy SOB you are and it will reinforce the idea...it never hurts to have peer pressure working on your side.