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fustercluck

fustercluck

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Please help me ATOT, solver of all of my life's problems. I hate to post about my life because it's lame, but maybe, just maybe someone can give me the help i need to get my life jump started. I'll try to keep it short, but I've been up a long long time right now, so it might not even be coherent.

I'm 20 years old, male, living in Tucson, AZ. I haven't been in school for 4 or 5 years, also I've (arguably) never had a job. I mention arguably because I've done much work for a family owned business in the past, but since it never consumed much of my time on a weekly basis, i don't think i would consider it a job, more like just doing chores here and there to keep my parents happy. Probably got some worthwhile experience though. So I've been doing pretty much nothing for the past 4-5 years. Lots and lots of computer time as you might of guessed, lots of video games. I've done many other things though, not like i'm always locked up in the house. Just that I've been doing nothing of much importance.

It's hard to try and move forward with my life though, not that I've really tried. I'm not going to go back to school anywhere, there are no jobs/career paths that i have any interest in. I don't even want a job, what i do want though, is money, and lots of it. I want to be able to retire in my 20s. I certainly don't want to waste my life working at a job i don't like, earning $8 an hour if i'm lucky. Yes, I realize i'm wasting my life now too. So I don't know what i'm going to do. Having this horrible sleeping disorder doesn't help things. If i were to get a job, even one i happened to like, this sleeping disorder i have would make it very hard to get to work on time on many occasions. I would hate trying to work somewhere all day having not been able to sleep the previous night, no matter where i worked.

Getting a job doesn't seem like the answer I'm looking for. Getting a job would be something different for me to try, but why would the rest of my life be any different? I couldn't move into my own place making $8 an hour, couldn't get my own car or anything (i don't drive anyways though, another piece in the 'loser' puzzle). So i need money, but not willing to work anywhere where i will be unhappy, and i'm not interested in any type of job. I will not go back to school either, dropping out of school is something i don't regret, even being where i am now.

My life isn't bad, most people would consider it a great life. I live with great family whom i love a lot, living the slacker lifestyle, using the computer very often and playing video games. Hanging out with friends a couple times a week. It all sounds good, but it's really boring as hell, especially after i've been doing it for 4+ years. I want to DO something, i want a life that i can be happy with. This is something i just cannot find a good answer to, no matter how much i think about my future. Things look grim for me. Shiz, i gotta go to sleep, I'm going to regret posting this when i wake up :disgust: - Try not to degrade me too much while I'm down.

cliffs:
I'm not happy with my life and want to do something else
There's nothing career-wise I'm interested in doing
I want millions of dollars (not asking for donations)
posting this was probably a bad idea, unless people give me some good advice and don't just yell at me. I feel like this is a thread i'm going to reply a lot to.
 
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SirChadwick

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I don't even want a job, what i do want though, is money, and lots of it. I want to be able to retire in my 20s.
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Are you kidding me???? WIN THE LOTTERY THEN! FTW!

oh, and good luck.
 
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maximus maximus

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You need to get "at least" 3 jobs and work your ass off, buddy.

People who have time on their hands worry about a lot of unnecessary things. Get loads of work, so that you are occupied full time. You are bound to be much happier then.
 
Ika

Ika

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Originally posted by: n30
Who's sig is it that has that quote about getting rich quick and how there's no way to actually do it aside from being lucky?
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IIRC, DaShen.
 
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aswedc

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Oct 25, 2000
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So basically what you just said is you want lots of money but you don't want to work for it. Yeah, you'll retire in your 20's alright :roll:
 
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Modular

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Originally posted by: jacktackle
I'm not going to go back to school anywhere, there are no jobs/career paths that i have any interest in. I don't even want a job, what i do want though, is money, and lots of it. I want to be able to retire in my 20s.
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Not going to happen without school. (Not going to happen with school either though, but at least you can make a living for yourself).


Originally posted by: jacktackle
Lots and lots of computer time as you might of guessed, lots of video games.
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Sounds like you found what you would be interested in for a career path.


Originally posted by: jacktackle
Getting a job doesn't seem like the answer I'm looking for.
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Getting a job isn't the answer right now. School is. Without school you have nothing.

Originally posted by: jacktackle
Getting a job would be something different for me to try, but why would the rest of my life be any different? I couldn't move into my own place making $8 an hour, couldn't get my own car or anything (i don't drive anyways though, another piece in the 'loser' puzzle).
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After you complete school getting a job WILL change your life. You will become an autonomous individual and not a parasite in your parents household. What are you going to do when they are gone? The world will not support you. Now is the time to change your life. It will be too late tomorrow.


Originally posted by: jacktackle
My life isn't bad, most people would consider it a great life.
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Yes it is and no they wouldn't. And here's why:

Originally posted by: jacktackle
It all sounds good, but it's really boring as hell ... I want to DO something, i want a life that i can be happy with.
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Most people understand this. That's why the complete school and go out and get jobs. From there, life unfolds: family, friends, entertainment all fall into place.


Originally posted by: jacktackle
This is something i just cannot find a good answer to, no matter how much i think about my future. Things look grim for me.
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Of course, because you aren't doing anything to make them better.



So, why is it that you don't feel empowered to go out and become the man that you have been enabled to be?

I'm sure you have a good family, and all the opportunity in the world...have you ever gone and talked to anyone. You are likely suffering from severe depression and anxiety. You really need proffessional help, which is beyond the scope of this forum.

My prayers are with you.
 
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yosuke188

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You want money, but you don't want to get a job or go back to school. Hmmmm. Maybe you have a hidden talent that you haven't discovered. Maybe you are a good artist, writer, singer, poker player, or something. It sounds like you want to work for yourself, so those would be the only options. Or invent something and patent it, and you become a millionaire!
 
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duragezic

Lifer
Oct 11, 1999
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Are you fvcking serious?

You haven't worked for a damn thing all your life and your parents still support you (and clearly your hobbies like an expensive computer, games etc)??

Do you really think your "dreams" of not working, not going to school, but having lots of money is gonna happen within the next 10 years? People that don't have to do jack but have money are either in a wealthy family or very lucky. This is a very tiny % of people.

I would suggest just getting a damn job or going to school. You don't always get to do things that you want. I do crap all the time that I dont want to do but thats life. If you go to college or get a job at least you start to develop new relationships and start a path that may lead to any number of good things. Just sitting around all day mooching off the 'rents is pretty pathetic unless you are incapable of working.


As someone else said, when you start working and going to school, you are too busy to care about stupid little things. You do things you may not like at the moment to better yourself later.

If your parents cut you off, you would be FORCED to work, and I think that would change your whole outlook. That would actually probably be a good thing for you. A slap in the face and wake up, if you will.
 
nakedfrog

nakedfrog

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Apr 3, 2001
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Sounds like you need to suck it up, buckle down, and get up off your ass and do something. Most people with jobs don't want to be working. As I've heard people say, "It's not called going to fun, it's called going to work." Many 20-somethings have notions of retiring before they're 30. I'm gonna guess that approximately 0.2% of them accomplish that goal. But you sure as hell aren't going to retire early by not working and living with your parents.
 
pontifex

pontifex

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Dec 5, 2000
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wow, just wow...
you're 20, you dropped out of school at 15 or 16, so you don't even have a HS diploma. you don't want to work or even get any kind of job at all, but you want to be rich?

your parents must not either give a sh!t about you or they're completely clueless.

i mowed lawns and did odd jobs liek that from the time i was about 12 to about 15. i saved all that money and eventually bought my 1st car with it when i was 16. at 15, i started my 1st part time job, paid for my own car insurance and pretty much everything else i wanted except for food. had to pay for most of my own clothes and school supplies.

my parents would have killed me if i dropped out of school or didn't get a job. btw, i thought you couldn't drop out of HS without having a job, or does that differ by state?
they definitely wouldn't put up with me living at home like that without having a job.

sounds like you have the life already. you don't have to pay anything, your parents do that. you don't have to go to work.

nobody wants to work but they have to to survive or get the things they want. what kid becomes old enough to drive and doesn't want his own car?

maybe you should see a doctor because you're obviously fvcked up in the head.

you have nothing to complain about
 
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Alienwho

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If you can't/refuse to go to school...join the military, seriously. It will give you discipline, direction, you'll see a bit of the world and your eyes will be opened a bit. You'll also be doing something so you'll feel satisfied.
 
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gopunk

Lifer
Jul 7, 2001
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you don't get a $8/hr job for the money, you get it for the experience so you can progress in your career to a job that you do want
 
Kyanzes

Kyanzes

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Aug 26, 2005
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Well, what you need is a slap across the face from your father. It's long due.
 
D1gger

D1gger

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Oct 3, 2004
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I have had a job since I was 16, and have worked hard to get what I have today. My first job was minimum wage, but you have to start somewhere and I am now in the top 10% of earners annually. If I play my cards right, I will be able to retire comforatably in about 7 years. That will mean I have worked for almost 40 years to get there.

I wish you luck in your goal of retiring in your 20's, but I don't see it happening unless you win the lottery. What I do see is that your family is not helping you by letting you slide for the last 4 years, and they should have kicked your ass out of the house long ago. The only way for you to make progress is to actually put some effort into it.
 
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IceBergSLiM

Lifer
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the only legitamate chance you have at retiring in your 20's if if you start your own business. Just for the record most millionaires failed 10 times before they succeeded at a business idea that made them millions. So start now.
 
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