This makes me absolutely want to throw up... Your thoughts and prayers needed.

JoLLyRoGer · Mar 2, 2004

My fiancee for has recently been experiencing numbness and weakness in her left side. It's been going on for about 2 weeks now (this also happened about 8 months ago) so after some prodding I convinced her she needed to go the the ER. After a CT scan and an interview the in-house doc suspects it may be MS (Multiple Sclerosis). Of course a CT scan can't determine this and the prognosis is purely speculation, but the more I've researched MS and the more we've compared symtoms she's currently exhibiting coupled with her medical history and repeat occurances in the past, everything seems to support this idea.

She goes Thurs. for an appointment with her regular doctor who will most likely do another interview and refer her to a neurologist who will order an MRI and possible a spinal tap to confirm/deny MS however. In the mean time I've been going nuts trying to cope with even the idea that the woman I love so dearly may have this chronic debilitating disease that will eventually destroy her quality of life. Of course I can't express any of this to her so that's why I'm spewing it out in ATOT. Hopefully it's nothing (despite what evidence suggests), but in the mean time I've got to find a way to stop this from consuming my own thoughts. My last two days at work have been nothing but surfing through page after page after page of information about MS and the more I learn about the the dimmer things look if she has this.

Right now all I can do is pray, hope, cross my fingers, love and support her.
Please God, let this all blow over as nothing...

Thanks for listening,
Adam.

arcenite · Mar 2, 2004

My hopes and prayers are with you and your fiancee.

Bill

anxi80 · Mar 2, 2004

im sorry to hear that. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your fiancee. lets all hope for the best.

bradruth · Mar 2, 2004

I wish you and your fiancee the best of luck.

MomAndSkoorbaby · Mar 2, 2004

You got it! Thoughts and prayers are on their way....

conjur · Mar 2, 2004

Hang in there and be by her side in heart and mind.

Sure hope it turns out it's something easily treatable.

Daishiki · Mar 2, 2004

you both will be in my thoughts and prayers

Mr N8 · Mar 2, 2004

Sorry to hear that.

BlueWeasel · Mar 2, 2004

I know it's extremely hard for both of you. Good luck to you both and here's hoping it goes well on Thursday.

fastz28 · Mar 2, 2004

What's her first name?

Flyermax2k3 · Mar 2, 2004

I wish you the best of luck and may G-d bless you and your fiancee. Some times life throws a curveball at you and all you can do is hope for the best...

Jzero · Mar 2, 2004

I think there's nothing more tragic than a disease in which the body destroys itself. I had a friend die from complications caused by lupus last year. She was 22.

One piece of advice I can give is this: The Internet is the hypochondriac's worst enemy. You have this wealth of knowledge and you can read about all the horrible things that are going to happen.

Don't do that.

Instead of focusing on the worst case, focus on the best case. People with AIDS like to say they are "living with" AIDS, not "dying from" it. Some people get MS bad. Some people don't have it as bad.

Hope for the best!

I hope everything works out for you.

Nitemare · Mar 2, 2004

Hope it turns out to be nothing or something easily treatable.

<---- Crosses fingers

spidey07 · Mar 2, 2004

best of luck.

throughts and prayers administered. Love given.

JoLLyRoGer · Mar 2, 2004

Originally posted by: fastz28
What's her first name?

Her first name is Angela.

Thank you everyone for the support. Like one person mentioned, I think I'm just going to leave the internet alone and wait until we know something for sure before I get worked up like the sky is falling. I've got to stop here because right now I'm allowing this idea to consume me and that's not going to be healthy for either of us.

(Sighs, takes a deep breath and walks away from the computer...)

Rufio · Mar 2, 2004

I wish you and Angela the best.

I hope everything turns out alright.

My uncle has been diagonsed last week w/liver cancer, and he just went under the knife yesterday. We are eagerly waiting results. Trust me, don't start counting your chickens before they hatch. It will only make you worry more.

spidey07 · Mar 2, 2004

deep breaths, relax, get something from the doc if you have to.

mandala · Mar 2, 2004

I'm sorry to hear about Angela.

A very good family friend was diagnosed with MS a couple years ago. Looking back, it's obvious that she had been suffering from it for years. During that time, however, shortly before she was diagnosed, she had gone back to school to get her degree, developed some amazing skills as an artist and seamstress (even making wedding dresses for her daughters and daughter-in-law), and took a trip to China with her mother. She did some wonderful things that she has said she would have been too afraid to try, had she known that she had MS. So, I guess I would say that even if it turns out that Angela has MS, there are still great things to do and try and experience in her life!

dquan97 · Mar 2, 2004

Originally posted by: aRCeNiTe
My hopes and prayers are with you and your fiancee.

Me too

Eli · Mar 2, 2004

Oh man, I can't imagine.

I wish you and your wife all the best.

ajpa123 · Mar 2, 2004

Hey Adam,
You sound like a very loving person and sounds like you her deeply. Whatever happens, she lucked out, because you sound like you can handle whatever obstacles are thrown your way. :beer: Don't let her see you get emotional or negative, or it will grow in her too. Just love her. Be strong and she will grow stronger and lead a healthy life.
She might get cranky until she finds out just give her room and as much love as you can

AJ.

JoLLyRoGer · Mar 3, 2004

Well, it's a new day today. Angela and I had an at length talk last night both expressing some of our concerns. I think it was beneficial for both of us. We both agreed to toss out the "what if" mode of thought and just go with what we know right now and right now we don't know anything for certain, so it makes no sense to get fired up over anything. Perhaps we'll know more after Thursday.

Yesterday she went almost until bedtime with everything feeling normal. I asked about her left side numbness this morning and she said it was gone, but she did have some mild nausia and it felt like her left side just didn't want to cooperate. She described it as telling her left side to do something but it didn't respond right away (some delay). I don't know. Either way, nothing will ever come between us. For now and until we know for sure what's going on. I've resolved myself to staying away from the internet and re-focusing on my job. Well... I've got to get to work now.

Thanks again everyone for your support. I really does help.
Adam..

Mar 3, 2004

All you can hope for at this point is the best. My thoughts are certainly toward a positive outcome for this, no matter what the diagnosis. Good luck Adam, you've got a lot of friends here to cheer you up if you're feeling down.

Red Dawn · Mar 3, 2004

Well there is hope on the horizon for diseases like this coming from Stem Cell research.

Analog · Mar 3, 2004

I'm with you. Hope things work out.

This makes me absolutely want to throw up... Your thoughts and prayers needed.

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