This is just a bit much to deal with at the moment...

[Phuz]

It's been a rocky road thus far, but the last 72 hours have just dropped a nice sized rock in the middle of the path.

In this time period, I've been informed that my parents are splitting up.
I've also just now been notified that I've been rejected from the University I've always dreamt of getting into.. for graphics and design, adversiting, ect.
The program for the University is unique to North America so please don't tell me that there are other schools that could be just as good...

This destroys the very little motivation and self determination that I already have.. I know I should continue on with the last month of school, but I really can't care to complete my last two OAC classes.. since that was the only school I applied to.. (2 programs at this school, and didn't follow through with the 3rd for other reasons).

I also have a math class that I'm borderlining, and I just can't put in that extra effort..staying after school and trying really hard to get it done.
How I feel may wear off in a month, but I don't have time. I have finals within 30 days.. and frankly, I don't care.

I don't know what to do. I'm not stupid enough to.. do something stupid, so don't think that.. I just .. am depressed - as I have been for months.
I don't know what to do with myself.. where am I supposed to go? If I don't get my math I can't apply to college and so on..


I just want to know how to make myself look up.. how I can find the care to continue on with my academics..

Booo.. I always thought it was silly to post this kind of personal stuff on a BBS.. but here I am doing it.

 

[Evadman]

wish ya luck in whatever you decide to do.

 

[Siddhartha]

Reapply to the program next year.

 

[Harvey]

I'm really sorry to hear about your folks splitting. That's a hard one to deal with, especially if you didn't see it coming.

As far as school goes, try to keep your head into passing and completing your current courses. If you're overloaded, see if you can drop the ones that are giving you the most trouble.

There's more than one way into most schools, even one that is unique, as you describe. You may be able to re-apply after a year or two at another school. Courses for the first year or two at most universities cover the same, or at least similar, ground. Check with your preferred school to see if you can transfer from another school with decent grades and the right courses.

Best of luck in both your schooling and your personal life.

 

[luv2chill]

Hi,

Sorry about all that... when it rains it pours.

The best advice I can give you is that (despite what you may think) the door is not closed. If you are that determined to get into that school in that program, then swallow your pride and do a year at community college (everyone has gen ed stuff they could get out of the way at a cc). Do well in your college classes and re-apply. Universities care a lot more about what your grades are in college-level classes than in HS classes. It sounds like you're a bight kid--so if you're doing poorly it's probably a matter of motivation (and you're not alone in that--it's common during senior year). If you show the admissions committee that you're determined enough you stand a very high chance of being accepted (assuming that you're otherwise qualified).

Too often people just give up after trying once. If this is that big of a dream for you, then you owe it to yourself to give it another shot, or two, or three. Do whatever it takes to get in. See if you can schedule an appt with someone in the admissions dept. to see what you could work on that would make you a more competitive candidate for next year. Tell them how determined you are--they just might remember you when looking through next year's applicants.

But you should remember that even if you don't ever get in, there are always options. You may not find that exact program at another school, but I'm sure there are schools that offer similar courses of study. And you just may find that if you go to another school, you'll end up just as happy (or even happier) than at the school you so wanted to get into.

Case in point: Growing up in the San Francisco Bay Area, my dream (one of them anyway) was to go to Stanford. I was a pretty good student in HS, not at the very top of my class but no slouch either. I put so much effort into that one application... I always knew in the back of my head that I might be rejected, but I wouldn't let myself consider it. I did apply to several other schools, just in case. One of them was the University of Kansas (my sister had moved there a year earlier, and through visiting I found that I really liked the school and city etc.).

The day of reckoning came. I'll never forget seeing that "small" Stanford envelope in the mail... I was crushed. Even though only one person I knew (out of ten applicants) got into Stanford, I still felt like I was the most undesirable person ever. For a while I was thinking about just going to juco for a year and trying Stanford again the next year. But then I realized that my dream of attending Stanford wasn't all that important to me after all. I got into UC Davis, UCLA, UC Berkeley, Santa Clara U, and Kansas. Guess where I went? Yep, KU. It just felt "right" for some reason. Sure, it has very little prestige, especially when compared to Stanford and the UCs. But it ended up being absolutely great. I had a blast, I learned a TON, got a great education, and got excellent grades to boot. I wouldn't change a thing. Now I'm faced with the possibility of going to Stanford for grad school... I stand a much better chance of getting in now and still have a chance to realize my dream of going to Stanford.

The point of this long, drawn-out post is that even though it may not seem like it now, things do have a way of working themselves out in the long run. You just need to pick yourself off the ground and keep going.

Best of luck to you man.

l2c

 

[Muadib]

Keep your head up man. Things may suck for you now, but you can't just give up. Take a few days to get over the pain, and clear your head.

 

[Red Dawn]

Everything works out in the end, especially when you are as young as you are.

As for your folks splitting up, pay attention, there might be some valuable lessons to be learned that can help you down the road when you and your future wife split up.

 

[kru]

...or keep you and your future wife from splitting up.

(what can i say? i'm an optimist...)

 

[her209]

Go out and get laid... it will make you feel better.

 

[spanky]

hang i there good fella

 

[Phuz]

Thanks people. I have some new thoughts to work with now.

I guess i can reapply next year as a mature student, as well, I think I?ll try to get into a college in the mean time. Toronto has some very prestigious colleges worth checking out. I can always transfer later if I still really wish to go.

I didn't really consider my options as well as I should have.

I'm writing a letter to the University I got rejected from, just to understand why... It is an odd situation.. 50 out of 1100 people got in.. but for some reason I passed the academic requirements and somewhere in-between there and my portfolio I was thrown out, but they reported my portfolio was reviewed by the committee (I was very surprised at this).

I just told them I'd like to know what I can do to be a more competitive student in next years admission.


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