Originally posted by: Steeplerot
I am just going from life experience here. I have YET to get close to someone from that kind of past and not have to hear a horrible story about what these twisted self-contridicting types do to their own becasue of their inner demons. Just calling a spade a spade you know?
When people grow up with guilt and contridictions from what I have seen it makes for a pretty ugly family situation behind closed doors. (there are ALWAYS exceptions to the rule but I have not seen one yet when you really get close to someone)
One of the first thing I look for when I start a realationship with someone is to listen for signs if they had a overbearing family who tried to control them.(religious is a big red alarm) I am sick of the baggage accompanied with such a person -it does real harm to their soul as a individual IMO and if you ever had kids with them you'd have to worry about them passing on the disfunction to another helpless generation.
you are young, no?
you should meet more people.
it is also possible that you attract a certain type of person to get involved in your life, who outwardly exhibit subtle signs of abuse...which may attract you as well.
i seem to remember you being young, so i could be mistaken. but hell, when i was in high school everyone i knew met your criteria. in college and beyond, not so much.
now did i start hanging out with different sorts of people?
sure. but i still know a lot of people i knew in high school and i think people just get over themselves and dont consider their life as much a misery as they did in high school.
