Thinking about my life... *LONG*

[TrueBlueLS]

I've been really thinking about my life lately and the direction it's going/going to. I'm in community college right now and working almost full time to pay for the car I have. I totally hate my job and am in the process of trying to find something that I feel suits me better. School on the same hand isn't exactly going the best for me. I just have this hard time trying to put aside time for everything in class.

I applied for a new job to try and get myself happy with where I'm working, what I'm doing, and what I'm being paid. As of this point right now, I'm waiting for the test results to come back sometime this week. The job that I had applied and tested for is one of those jobs that once you get your 90 days in, you really have to screw up to get fired. It's with the city working for the water and sewer department. I figured why not get paid $37,000 a year, take classes at night, and figure out what I want to do with my life from there.

This past weekend I went up to Gaylord, MI with a good friend of mine from high school. There has been a girl from Northern Michigan University that he's been talking to and decided finally to meet up with at a halfway point. He asked me to go along with him for the drive and that he had already made arrangements for this girl to bring a friend for me. Talking online, Sue (the girl I was being hooked up with) and I really clicked. We had really looked forward to this weekend for about 3 weeks and when it got here, we made the best out of the short time we had.

Now we move onto the schooling thing. I originally planned to go away to college while I was in high school. I was going to go to Northwood college in Saginaw (or Sag-nasty as I like to put it), MI. It looked like a decent small college for me to attend. I never took my ACTs in high school because of conflicting events (which I'm sorry got in the way now) and things never took off for going away to college. It was almost for the better just due to the fact of the company my dad worked for went out of business and being there for my family.

After meeting this girl, it's made me think about rearranging my life and trying to make myself truely happy. It's not only in the sense that I would be closer to her, but the whole fact of me having a new job that I wouldn't be sick of and going away to school like I had originally planned. I just run into two problems. The first is with my schooling that isn't the best and I'd have to pray for NMU to accept me and the second being a way to pay for NMU and my car that I have payments for right now. All my classes have been paid in cash as of right now and I know I couldn't do that for NMU. I know I would have to get a student loan.

All thoughts on this will be considered and appreciated.

 

[Maleficus]

Not really sure if your looking for advice or anything but I do wish you the best of luck man.

 

[clamum]

what kind of grades did you get in high school/college? your GPA?
NMU isn't that hard of a school to get into, actually i live a little over an hour away from it.

 

[Corn]

The path to making yourself happy requires that you sell the Cavalier! 😉

 

[Corn]

I would also like to add that nothing good can come from rearranging your life to be closer to a girl you just met.

We all go through re-living our lives differently in our daydreams. Chances are that if you make a decision to go to NMU, at some point in your life you look back and feel regret that you went, or didn't go if you decided not to--ultimately it doesn't really matter what you choose to do we all end up wishing things went differently from time to time.

Just ask yourself this one question: If you had not met this girl, what would you be thinking today instead?

While going to college I also worked for the water dept for the City of Southfield. Whatever you do, you don't wanna be driving a Vactor Jet Rodder (yeah the name sounds cool, what it's used for, ick!).........talk about a sh1tty job! Literally!

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Corn
The path to making yourself happy requires that you sell the Cavalier! 😉

That is what I was going to suggest. Sell your car and buy a used car that is much cheaper for insurance and payments.

 

[Corn]

That is what I was going to suggest. Sell your car and buy a used car that is much cheaper for insurance and payments.

Perhaps a mid 90's Ford product with a V8? 🙂

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: Corn

That is what I was going to suggest. Sell your car and buy a used car that is much cheaper for insurance and payments.

Perhaps a mid 90's Ford product with a V8? 🙂

Well a few years ago yes. Now with gas prices so high... I was thinking 1.0 liter engine! 😉

 

[TrueBlueLS]

Originally posted by: Corn
Just ask yourself this one question: If you had not met this girl, what would you be thinking today instead?

I know that I would still be in the same position as far as wanting to be away at college and away from my crappy job. In regards to where I would go, it'd be someplace away from home whether it was NMU, Ferris State, or someplace that'd be a little ways away.

 

[TrueBlueLS]

Originally posted by: Corn
The path to making yourself happy requires that you sell the Cavalier! 😉

Oh yeah, the Cavalier would be staying no matter what. Come hell or high water will I get rid of it.

 

[godmare]

Peter Steel says 'Base not your joy upon the deeds of others, for what is given may be taken away.'
What I hear when I see that quote is if you're not happy with yourself, setting aside circumstances ike a job, and possibly school, then you're not going to become happy by complicating your situation with a romantic relationship and moving.
Try to take it just ome at a time: work on switching jobs first, perhaps.
Possibly, as has been suggested, consider switching to a less expensive vehicle. I don't know what your payments on your ride are, but Cavaliers plummet in value. If you can make any money on selling it, or even just break even, better do that now- otherwise you'll be in it for the long haul.
Obviously if you are interested in this girl, you're not going to just forget about her, but I don't think you want to get heavily involved like that until you've got your other ducks in a row, so to phrase.
EDIT:
Hmm, actually if you're making $37,000 a year as a bachelor student, maybe dumping the car won't be as important.