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I met my GF's brother 3 months ago. He's 3 years older than me and thankfully he's an awesome guy. Very kind to me, wants to hang out, and overall a very pleasant person. Due to his likability, he has lots of friends too.
But after few months of meeting him, I started to notice few things. He's not very good at life. I think this primarily comes from his parents doting him all his life as the firstborn son. All his life, he was given brand new clothes, brand new BMW (way above family's means), lump sum capital to start his own biz, and more.
He's 34 now and lives at home with his mom. Now I'll tell you this alone isn't so bad for an Asian. Lots of Asian kids live at home to save ridiculous money while working at good jobs then move out to buy homes outright. (I sort of wish I did this, my savings would be lot more by today).
After graduating college, he didn't really get any jobs. He tried his hand at starting an own business with lump sum help from his parents and failed. That's fine in itself. We all try and fail sometimes. But he also borrowed $30K from my GF that he has no intention of paying back (yes $30K lesson for my GF).
It's his ways that really bothers me. Now he's a sushi chef living with mom. He's a full adult and his small ass lawn needed mowing. He refuses to do it because he's never done it and is too busy to do so. I volunteered, no problem. But there's something wrong when GF's BF does the house work when the elder son is sitting pretty.
When GF was moving out to her dorm, a big chapter in her life, he stayed in his room and didn't lift a finger. He wasn't busy. He just did nothing. Poor girl moved all her belongings by herself in her beat up civic.
His room has its own bathroom. He NEVER cleans it. That room used to be my GF's before she moved out. It's become a filthy place and mom goes in there to clean his room and bathroom. I mean wtf man. You're 34, at least clean your own room.
He bought Mac Air for $1500 or 2000, god knows how much. All because Mac has iCloud or some crap (which PC can do). The notebook can't connect to his internet for some reason. Now the brand new notebook is sitting pretty in the retail box, past the refund date, just depreciating in value. He says he got the warranty from BB, so he'll just break it at the end of the cycle and get a brand new one. Uh, that means you're 2 grand out of pocket for no reason.
He's been seeing this girl in Korea who's 22. He also says when she comes to visit, he'll just impregnate her which will force them into marriage and live life from there. You can just see his crooked way of thinking in his life. Why would you do this?
GF is not in bad terms with family or her brother today. She has been terribly hurt because of blatant preferential treatment from parents and brother being immature. But she's gotten over it.
It's funny how the family doted him all his life to be the man of the family. And that did nothing but spoiling him. Rather the ignored daughter turned out to be the one making good money and traveling internationally. I mean shit, I'm the firstborn man in my family too. But they raised me doing fvcking yard work year-round and worked for myself since 16 doing busboying, burger flipping, etc.
For me, it just annoys me because I care about her.
But after few months of meeting him, I started to notice few things. He's not very good at life. I think this primarily comes from his parents doting him all his life as the firstborn son. All his life, he was given brand new clothes, brand new BMW (way above family's means), lump sum capital to start his own biz, and more.
He's 34 now and lives at home with his mom. Now I'll tell you this alone isn't so bad for an Asian. Lots of Asian kids live at home to save ridiculous money while working at good jobs then move out to buy homes outright. (I sort of wish I did this, my savings would be lot more by today).
After graduating college, he didn't really get any jobs. He tried his hand at starting an own business with lump sum help from his parents and failed. That's fine in itself. We all try and fail sometimes. But he also borrowed $30K from my GF that he has no intention of paying back (yes $30K lesson for my GF).
It's his ways that really bothers me. Now he's a sushi chef living with mom. He's a full adult and his small ass lawn needed mowing. He refuses to do it because he's never done it and is too busy to do so. I volunteered, no problem. But there's something wrong when GF's BF does the house work when the elder son is sitting pretty.
When GF was moving out to her dorm, a big chapter in her life, he stayed in his room and didn't lift a finger. He wasn't busy. He just did nothing. Poor girl moved all her belongings by herself in her beat up civic.
His room has its own bathroom. He NEVER cleans it. That room used to be my GF's before she moved out. It's become a filthy place and mom goes in there to clean his room and bathroom. I mean wtf man. You're 34, at least clean your own room.
He bought Mac Air for $1500 or 2000, god knows how much. All because Mac has iCloud or some crap (which PC can do). The notebook can't connect to his internet for some reason. Now the brand new notebook is sitting pretty in the retail box, past the refund date, just depreciating in value. He says he got the warranty from BB, so he'll just break it at the end of the cycle and get a brand new one. Uh, that means you're 2 grand out of pocket for no reason.
He's been seeing this girl in Korea who's 22. He also says when she comes to visit, he'll just impregnate her which will force them into marriage and live life from there. You can just see his crooked way of thinking in his life. Why would you do this?
GF is not in bad terms with family or her brother today. She has been terribly hurt because of blatant preferential treatment from parents and brother being immature. But she's gotten over it.
It's funny how the family doted him all his life to be the man of the family. And that did nothing but spoiling him. Rather the ignored daughter turned out to be the one making good money and traveling internationally. I mean shit, I'm the firstborn man in my family too. But they raised me doing fvcking yard work year-round and worked for myself since 16 doing busboying, burger flipping, etc.
For me, it just annoys me because I care about her.
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