The unwanted tickling uncle - weird?

[Markbnj]

who has a tendency to treat little girls like objects (like swarthy indian men do)

Wot?

 

[Printer Bandit]

somebody gonna get a hurt real bad...

 

[SagaLore]

kissing on, tickling, kissing the belly of my 12 year old niece.

Tickling a 3yo? Not weird. The above? Holy hell no way.

 

[Banana]

You should always trust family members no matter what

No.

. . . but then again would be a good idea to confirm any suspicions by buying a hidden camera.

?! You go from "always trust family members" to using a hidden camera?

 

[Blackjack200]

Yeah, my kids were crying all night after spending the day with them. To them, someone restricting their movement, picking them up, throwing them around, tickling them, kissing on them (after meeting them 4 or 5 times at family dinners? not camping trips or to hang out, I don't like him) - it's torture. And to mother fucking old school Indians, MY DAUGHTERS are rude for not being wanted to be treated as toys. I got a lecture about my kids being rude to family, I had to bite back re: my girls not being objects and no means no.

3 years old is plenty old enough to decide they don't want to be touched, tickled, or kissed.

I have a 2 year old niece that I love like my own child. If I'm ever holding her and she acts like she wants to be put back down, I do it. I mean, I rarely even pick her up at all unless she puts her arms out or something.

Honest to god, if I saw someone handling her after she asked to be put down (except for her parents of course) I'd make sure they did what she asked. That's fucking bullshit.

 

[skyking]

3 years old is plenty old enough to decide they don't want to be touched, tickled, or kissed.

I have a 2 year old niece that I love like my own child. If I'm ever holding her and she acts like she wants to be put back down, I do it. I mean, I rarely even pick her up at all unless she puts her arms out or something.

Honest to god, if I saw someone handling her after she asked to be put down (except for her parents of course) I'd make sure they did what she asked. That's fucking bullshit.

Just the same way that no matter how tough you are, if a toddler hands you a pink plastic toy phone, you take the call!

 

[Perknose]

Just the same way that no matter how tough you are, if a toddler hands you a pink plastic toy phone, you take the call!

:biggrin:

 

[bononos]

I have a relative, who moved to this country late in his life (so he didn't grow up with these kids), who has a tendency to treat little girls like objects (like swarthy indian men do). This goes from tickling my 3 year old daughter even when she screams "NO!" to kissing on, tickling, kissing the belly of my 12 year old niece.
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When I skimmed through your post yesterday I mis-read 2 yr old niece (12 yr old). Anyway even if she is a 2yr old, western culture places more respect for individual privacy and space. You have to explain the difference and ask him to stop.

 

[angminas]

Neither one of these scenarios is appropriate here in America. While it's most likely your uncle is not a pedophile, he must learn to curb his culturally inappropriate behavior. Take him aside and tell him so, in the most diplomatic, but firm, way you can.

Start out your conversation in an apologetic and deferential way, but end it by stating a firm, clear, "no possible exceptions ever" boundary. Then immediately keep conversing with him in a polite and friendly way on a neutral subject.

This way, you will have made your painful and awkard point crystal clear, but hopefully not left him feeling shamed or disrespected.

However, if the lesson doesn't take, stand up for your daughters!

As usual, Perk gets it right. (Except for misspelling "awkward". In his defense, squiggly red lines do get harder to see at that advanced age.)

Try and be smooth about it if you possibly can. There may be no bad intention there at all.

This guy, too.

soon he will be doing REDACTED Its a normal tradition.

This guy, however...what the fuck is wrong with you? That shit ain't funny.