"The Privilege of Being Beautiful" (article)

[Xstatic1]

Here are some key quotes/sentences from the article

• Pretty waitresses, for example, might be penalized with small tips.
  
  At New York's 205 Club, "If you didn't have the right look, you weren't getting in. The door staff picks and chooses who are the beautiful people and who is going to create the look for the night."
  
  We want to associate with beautiful people because we think their lives are so much better than ours.
  
  "When men take a look at a good-looking woman, all kinds of parts of the brain become active so that they can feel better. They want her."
  
  To confirm a hunch, he questioned jewelers, who told him that very beautiful women who wear diamond rings will almost always wear larger diamonds ? more than one carat ? than less attractive women who also wear diamond rings.
  
  "What's nice about it is that we live in a culture where you can begin to level the playing field. Where both men and women can actually make themselves better looking."
  
  "Men are more willing to move your furniture if you're a beautiful girl... They're more willing to donate blood to you. They're more willing to stop on the side of the road and help you change your tire."
  
  "People assume that a person who's very good looking is doing a better job than in fact they are doing. So they rise up in the company, and they have more status. They have more power."
  
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  Okay, so let's hear from ALL the beautiful people of ATOT...if you think being beautiful is a curse or a blessing. Also, anyone's who had cosmetic surgery to improve their looks, chime in. Anyone who intentionally uses their looks to their utmost advantage (& gets away with it), e.g. job promotions, dates, etc., do share! Anyone who's tired of being the "trophy" girlfriend/wife or boyfriend/husband and wants to vent!

 

[Dumac]

Blessing....

The benefits definately outweigh the problems associated with beauty.

 

[Xyo II]

"People are mean to me because of the way I look. People hate me because I'm beautiful," she said. "It's a curse as much as it is a blessing to be pretty."

waaaah I'm pretty waaaaah

More like, waaaaah I was spoiled waaaaaah

 

[Jeeebus]

Beauty is a curse on the world

So says I

 

[Hossenfeffer]

Truly a blessing and a curse. The curse part doesn't often get realized because we are focussed on the blessings of "beauty".

 

[Xstatic1]

Originally posted by: Xyo II

"People are mean to me because of the way I look. People hate me because I'm beautiful," she said. "It's a curse as much as it is a blessing to be pretty."

waaaah I'm pretty waaaaah

More like, waaaaah I was spoiled waaaaaah

are you saying it's not possible that beautiful people (let's just say women) are hated?

 

[FusionKnight]

I dunno about the rest of you guys, but typically I find beautiful women to be stuck up and full of themselves. Not that that's true in all cases - my gf for example - but these experiences lead my first impression of a beautiful woman to be stuck up as opposed to doing a good job at whatever they're doing. That is until they begin talking - basing this off first impressions tho

FK

 

[moshquerade]

beauty and humility are a winning combination.

 

[Lola]

In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

 

[z42]

Originally posted by: Xstatic1

Originally posted by: Xyo II

"People are mean to me because of the way I look. People hate me because I'm beautiful," she said. "It's a curse as much as it is a blessing to be pretty."

waaaah I'm pretty waaaaah

More like, waaaaah I was spoiled waaaaaah

are you saying it's not possible that beautiful people (let's just say women) are hated?

Most beautiful women who are hated have the same attitude of the person Xyo II quoted.

Beautiful people (of both sexes) have an advantage in our society. Their personality determines if they are loved or hated.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

Try being a guy with stunning good looks. Sometimes I dont even want to leave the house.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

Try being a guy with stunning good looks. Sometimes I dont even want to leave the house.

heh, you don't leave the house cause you have mastered the act of having sex with yourself. :laugh:

 

[Jeeebus]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

Have you ever thought it might have something to do with that second head protruding from the base of your neck?

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

Try being a guy with stunning good looks. Sometimes I dont even want to leave the house.

heh, you don't leave the house cause you have mastered the act of having sex with yourself. :laugh:

You have no idea. Here is a pic of my right hand.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
In NO way am i saying i am beautiful, however, i notice that women will not help me if i ask them something. They will give me piercing looks, they will ignore me.
That is why i do not have hardly ANY women friends. They might say they are your friend, but then they go and talk about you behind your back.

I worked at Hooters for a while, and even then, a good 75% of the other waitresses that worked that would not help me, they whispered about me, they were flat out rude to me.

I am ALWAYS nice to everyone... overly so most of the time, because some people think that even before talking with me that I am a bitch or stuck up.

Try being a guy with stunning good looks. Sometimes I dont even want to leave the house.

heh, you don't leave the house cause you have mastered the act of having sex with yourself. :laugh:

You have no idea. Here is a pic of my right hand.

and to think you're left handed!

 

[SagaLore]

I'm beautiful.

But I need to start working out again, because this blubber on my stomach isn't going away by itself.

 

[George P Burdell]

When in doubt, follow the money: Always seen ugly people paying to become beautiful, never seen beautiful people paying to be ugly. Ergo, beauty is more of a blessing than a curse.

 

[Sqube]

It's more of a blessing than a curse. I mean, sure, there are some people who are going to be jealous. Overall, though, it's like what George P Burdell said.

And also (to the OP), how could you say that you hit all the significant quotes and didn't mention this one?

"My relations with the opposite sex definitely changed. I got a lot of attention when I came home," she said. "I would go out to bars with my friends and have drinks bought for me."

I asked her, "You never had drinks bought for you before?"

Waghelstein said, "Not at 11 o'clock at night. At 3 o'clock at night, maybe I did, but there's a difference."

 

[amish]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
beauty and humility are a winning combination.

let me know where i can find her

 

[vi edit]

Pros far far far outweigh the cons.

People considered "the best" in any given field always have more expectations put on them. If Dwyane Wade only scored 2 points in a game people would freak out and want to know what the heck was going on.

If a company that paid $10 million for a CEO failed to turn a profit year after year he'd be fired.

If a highly paid football coach fails to take his team to the playoffs he is fired.

People in lesser positions have less to lose and aren't penalized as such.

That being said, being naturally beautiful will set you up with much better opportunities than being smashed in the face with the ugly club.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Hossenfeffer
Truly a blessing and a curse. The curse part doesn't often get realized because we are focussed on the blessings of "beauty".

Pretty much. I know some really beautiful girls, and it can be a curse sometimes.

-They are constantly pursued by guys that literally only like them for their looks.
-They aren't taken seriously when it comes to talking about intelligent issues.
-It is harder for them to find genuine people to hang out with because they are judged by their looks.
-People tend to be jealous of them, or put them on a pedestal, when in reality they only want to be treated like everyone else. It isn't like they chose to be this way.
- They can easily become stuck up.
- They tend to be too socially "normal" and it becomes a burden to keep up.

On the other hand,

-Guys tend to be willing to do anything for them.
-They can easily charm people just on looks.
- They can use that talent to be more successful.

(but it is all short sighted) any talent can be a blessing and a curse.

For example:
- An above average intelligent person will constantly be aware of situations and the environment, but many times too much information can be a burden because most of the time nothing can be done (ignorance is bliss).
- An above average intelligent person can be fascinated by things that many people do not or choose not to understand. This sets them apart from other people and even makes some people hate them because of their own insecurities.
- People tend to be jealous of them, or put them on a pedestal, when in reality they only want to be treated like everyone else. It isn't like they chose to be this way.
- They can easily become stuck up.

On the other hand,

- They understand concepts that bring them a lot of joy other people will never experience.
- They are aware enough of situations and the environment that sometimes they can actually do something about it.
- They can use that talent to be more successful.

I honestly catch myself wishing I was more normal and didn't have some talents that I have, because they can be a burden as well, but then I realize that most everyone really isn't normal and they have their own specific talents which can be a burden for them as well. Everyone in the end is pretty much the same in their potential if they choose to use their specific talents, but of course most people are too insecure or immature to actually do that.