You did a really great job here, spittledip, in my opinion and read carefully. I see you are still in doubt about some things, which is admirable too, but I would say you have very good instincts and would recommend you trust them.
I see the programmed and partisan as egotist stuffed full of opinions designed to fluff those egos into existence, that, lacking real self respect, we substitute the opinions of those we were told had earned respect. Then we defend that purported respect, no matter how wrong the thinking may be, because we aren't defending ideas but our own ego. Our motivations, thus, in case after case after case, are based on preventing a loss of self respect that we lost long ago and have filled in with belief in stupidity. But the folk who substitute ideological or any other external belief for real self respect and to acquire self respect, don't gain self respect at all. They gain the arrogance of ego, conceit vanity hubris, etc. and instead of defending their thinking rationally, they do it with contempt for the other, any who do not bolster the ego based beliefs. Those who are full of vanity and pride radiate hate for others, contempt and belittlement, because those are the very things they were subjected to that caused them to lose their own real self respect. So here we see them, bullies filled with self pride, putting anyone different than them down. So the damage you feel warfare brings was already done to them. They are asleep to what they feel and will remain asleep all their lives unless..... Well that is the question isn't it? So I do to them what they do to others who are different. I tell them that they are sick because they are. And of course that makes them go crazy because their sickness is what they think is their health, the thing that keeps their egos afloat. Well they ran into somebody who drowned and died to that delusion and it's a much better place to be. So I'll gladly kick them in the nuts if I can give it to them. And when they kick me in the nuts, I show it doesn't hurt because my nuts aren't between my ears.
They get so tired of hearing the truth, but think about me. Everywhere I go in this forum I have to listen to donkeys bray. Well, my good friend Mulla Nasruden taught me how to ride them.
Mulla Nasrudin was seen riding his donkey through town sitting backward. The people asked him, 'Mulla, why are you doing that?" He replied, "Has none of you considered the possibility that it's the donkey that's the wrong way round?" I bet you know the answer. Yup, not too very many.