For a moment I thought about quoting some of your statements from the Cobain thread...but just for a moment. Then I thought, "He may be heartless, but I don't want to be that way." Good luck to your wife. I truly hope everything goes ok and she has a fast recovery.
This has nothing to do with your situation but...
Sixteen years ago doctors gave my sister a maximum of 6 months to live due to colon cancer. They gave her a 5% chance of living that long. Since then the cancer has gone into remission, she's graduated from college, and had a baby girl.
Keep your chin up dude. She'll be ok.