You are attempting to put forth a truth on averages as a truth on a rule, and it doesn't hold.
The argument of the programs disproportionately employing females is ridiculous because both men and women are free to work in health care, so there is no 'forcible transfer of wealth from men to women' simply because you spend money in that industry. For example, you could choose to work in healthcare and then those programs now 'forcibly transfer' money from non-healthcare professional women to healthcare professional men. So a transfer from men to women. Do you believe investments in infrastructure (which create construction jobs) are a 'forcible transfer of wealth from women to men' simply because more men work in construction than women?
In terms of benefits, women get more simply because they live longer, on average. But both men and women have the same access to benefits, and many men will collect more benefits than women.
You may as well start complaining that the government is 'forcibly transferring wealth from smokers to non smokers', from diabetics to non diabetics, from blacks to whites etc.