Not trying to steal SVT Cobra's thunder, its a great guide.
This is what I use on my cars
Regular weekly wash
Meguiars Gold Class Car Shampoo - 1oz to 1 gallon of water and a good soft sheepskin wash mit.
Microfiber Drying Towels - Sonus has some good ones at Autopia-Carcare.com 2 for $20
Eagle One Aluminum Wash & Cleaner - claims its PH Balanced (not sure though). Spray on your wheels, let it sit for 30 seconds and hose off with a jet of water. it'll get most of your brake dust off. Heavier soiled wheels spray on, agitate with a soft brush, and hose off.
If you've got really expensive wheels you should wash, claybar, and wax/seal your wheels to protect and make it easier to clean in the future.
Stoner More Shine Less Time Wheel Shine - After your wheels have dried spray a coat on and let it dry. Add a second coat to make it ultra glossy. Let it dry before you drive or it'll splatter, you can also wipe off excessive shine with a towel if you're in a hurry.
Aerospace 303 - Best vinyl & plastic dash protection. I also use this on the black trim on my car. Vinylex also works very well.
Stoners Invisible Glass (Aerosol can) - Use a clean microfiber towel or newspaper
Tuff Stuff (Aerosol can) - Small spots and stains on the carpet and fabric.
Detail cleaning
Mothers Claybar Kit (Never seen Meguiars in stores until recently) - there are different grades of claybar (Mild, Medium) which you can use more or less frequently.
Porter Cable 7424 Random Orbit Buffer
3m Rubbing Compound fine cut - heavy oxidation spots, bad swirl, and scratches. Use a yellow foam heavy cutting pad
3m Swirl Mark Remover - medium to light swirls and light oxidiation. Use an orange light cutting pad
3m Finesse it II Machine Polish - Removes fine swirls and brings out the paints gloss. Use a white polishing pad
3m Liquid Wax - Apply in thin layers with a Grey or Red foam pad, buff off with a microfiber bonnet.
Good online stores to buy your product
Autogeek.net
Proper Auto Care
Autopia Car Care
Autopia Detailing Forum