Originally posted by: waggy
Originally posted by: miketheidiot
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: blackllotus
If the only reason your kid doesn't commit a crime is because he is scared of punishment then you really haven't taught him any values at all.
Here's what you don't get.
1. Student gets taught something
2. Student ignores teaching and does "something bad"
3. Student GETS NO REPERCUSSION FOR DOING "SOMETHING BAD"
4. STUDENT HAS LEARNED NOTHING
There must be a reaction for his/her action. "Oooooh! I got told don't eat this cookie. But I ate it!!! And nobody said anything!!! So, know I'll eat all the cookies anyway!!!" <--That's your line of thinking.
there are other punishments than beating the piss out of someone.
for most things you are right.
i have a system of punishment.
1)i ask her to stop.
2) if she does not i i say something like "full name" stop it right NOW!
3) if that does not work i put her in timeout (usually the end of it) and no TV, NO gameboy, no outside play (that is what gets her heh)
4)if it continues a smack on the ass and put in bed.
depending on what it is i skip a few steps. such as when she ran out into the parking lot. i grabed her and smacked her ass. she knew i was mad and has not done it agian.
IF a child curses at a parent its a smack right off the bat. etc.
there have to be levels of punishment. BUT do not be afraid to smack them in the ass if they need it.