YES!!!! After about 2 days of looking online I finally somehow got Power Strip to get it saved at 1280x1024@100hz or 1600x1200@85Hz. I might be wrong but I think Powerstrip works where all others failed because either it has a slightly different refresh timings or is at a deeper level in the OS. Anyways, I'm happy and can now finally enjoy Crysis for the first time
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Powerstrip seems to work but not at first, for example, i start the game running at 1280x1024 but it starts at 60hz, i change the resolution to 1600x1200, and it goes to the correct refresh rate 85hz, then i change it back to 1280x1024 and it "might" go to 100hz, if not i repeat the process until it does. seems to work after the 2nd or 3rd time, it sucks but its the only thing that has worked so far.