I was wondering how many of you have tried and successfully stayed friends with an ex-gf or bf. What are some of the pitfalls to look out for? I'm trying to make it work right now...
Staying friends with your ex?
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JohnAn2112
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It's a stupid, pointless, painful thing to do. Don't even try.
You realize the only reason you're trying to stay friends with her is because you want her back, right? You know where the whole "I want you, but you don't want me" thing leads, right?
You realize the only reason you're trying to stay friends with her is because you want her back, right? You know where the whole "I want you, but you don't want me" thing leads, right?
TuxDave
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One I'm still on friendly terms with both of them but I'm definitely not as close to them as I used to. It's mostly because there's just not that much to talk about and you eventually fall apart. I would like to point out that staying on friendly terms is really easy when both of you have new relationships. The only thing to worry about is to make sure you're not giving any wrong impressions for the sake of your current SO.
I think the thing is, she has already started dating others, which I'm ok with, but she's still emotionally attached to me and said it makes it hard for her to move on.
cKGunslinger
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My bro and his wife are separating/divorcing, but plan to still live together for awhile and still be friends - basically, just the same as they are now, but unmarried and free to date other people. 
BoomerD
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My wife & I were fairly good friends with my ex. Even though we never married, we did have a daughter together. Until one day, my wife asked her why she didn't have any more kids...The ex said she had considered it, but felt her kids should have the same father...WHOOSH! we were out of there! I told my wife that it was impolite to do that, and that I'd be happy to help her out with that...SMACK! she didn't see the humor in that comment...Only see the ex every few years since then...
I'm still friends with all my ex's, in fact I've only had one bad breakup that involved cheating and I'm now even friendly with her.
Not really a problem if there wasn't any deep emotion involved. I'm friends with most of my ex-girlfriends. The one I cheated on in high school; no. My ex-wife after all our issues; no. My last gf after how totally I fell for her; no. But pretty much all the others.
Yep. Been good friends with one of my ex's for years. She's like a sister now.
However, I loathe one of my other ex's, and I would say I'd like to see her run over by a Peterbilt - except she's a mother now. Glad I got off that train before it derailed.
- M4H
However, I loathe one of my other ex's, and I would say I'd like to see her run over by a Peterbilt - except she's a mother now. Glad I got off that train before it derailed.
- M4H
Well girls I used to have sex with are still good friends with me. I mean one is like a sister to me now.
but!
EX's can rott in hell.
I remember going out with this one Hotttt Ass chick on about 2 years. Well it failed miserably because she was a complete nut and had major emotional problems. This chick was extremely controlling and tried to dress me in cloths she wanted etc. Screw that, I don't conform to nobody's taste. Well she had about 5-6 boyfriends after me and they all still hang on her, each with hopes of patching things up. I remember one night being in a bar and talking to a friend. She came in and came over and asked my friend and I to join her. My friend asked her who all the guys at the table were, and she said, "ohhh haha, their all my ex's!". My friend and I laughed and told her to fvck off as it was so sad to see 5-6 guys she used to date sitting at a table with her all on leash and chain.
Moral of the story, stay away from Ex's only because subconsciously, your prolly still holding onto that feeling that one day things will right themselves and get better. In the end though, most of you will become miserable sons a bitches
but!
EX's can rott in hell.
I remember going out with this one Hotttt Ass chick on about 2 years. Well it failed miserably because she was a complete nut and had major emotional problems. This chick was extremely controlling and tried to dress me in cloths she wanted etc. Screw that, I don't conform to nobody's taste. Well she had about 5-6 boyfriends after me and they all still hang on her, each with hopes of patching things up. I remember one night being in a bar and talking to a friend. She came in and came over and asked my friend and I to join her. My friend asked her who all the guys at the table were, and she said, "ohhh haha, their all my ex's!". My friend and I laughed and told her to fvck off as it was so sad to see 5-6 guys she used to date sitting at a table with her all on leash and chain.
Moral of the story, stay away from Ex's only because subconsciously, your prolly still holding onto that feeling that one day things will right themselves and get better. In the end though, most of you will become miserable sons a bitches
FallenHero
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It CAN work...but you have to give each other plenty of time to heal and grow out of the relationship you once had. It took me 9 months of non-communication with my ex before I could talk to her again without letting my emotions get in the way, and it still is a bit trying at times.
Agreed but most of the time people do let their emotions get in the way and most guys arn't strong enough to deal with it.
My ex fiancee and I still work together and sit at the same lunch table every day, we get along very well.
My current GF understands that I have no feelings for the ex anymore and is fine with it also.
My current GF understands that I have no feelings for the ex anymore and is fine with it also.
Im still on good terms with them but only after a couple years of totally cut off ties and many bitter words. once that is all behind you and you are fully "over" each other you can be friends.
there is a distinct difference between chatting with an ex every few weeks on IM and hanging out with them a few times a week. One is acceptable and has very little drama attatched to it....the other is not acceptable and is asking for drama.
SP33Demon
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Agreed, there's a big difference. I have stayed friends with some exes just for some possible friends with bens action when I'm single. I've found that in many cases eventually the girl gets resentful of you for not getting back together and it does end badly (if you broke up with her case).
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