Bias by omission most of the times . . . but as you said, another topic.
I've been evolving on the concept of gays. Back when i was an early teenager, i thought it was the grossest thing possible. Looking back it's because that's what i was exposed to from my mother and other adults at the time. Also, having gone to church since i was two and the notion of man+woman is the end all be all.
Now, while I still think it's unnatural, not neccesarily WRONG, I support the right of anyone to have a legal civil union and be in a relationship with whomever they please. it's not my life, and as much as the guys on the 'right' try and say it's going to be the end of the world, i haven't yet seen anything concrete other than them sticking to what they grew up with.
On Prop 8 here in california i voted for gay marriage to be legal even though it is at odds with my own upbringing.
The worst thing to come about from the gay civil rights movement IMO is the intolerance and PC of HAVING TO BE PRO-GAY. For example, the founder/owner of the Chil-fil-a restaurant was under fire last year because he has an opinion. Yet his restaurants didn't discriminate in any way. . . Somehow people MUST accept the gay point of view or be attacked?
Listen, other people have opinions, just as you do and that's OK. . . . seems to me a lot of positions the left takes up has this issue. Then again I know for a long time those who are fighting for equal civil rights have had an uphill battle against the status quo and I understand the frustration. i just wish they'd be as open minded about other peoples opinoins as they want people to be about their preferences. . .
You aren't the only one who when young had the repulsion.
Two things I disagree with you about - but congrats on trying to be fair.
First, it is natural. I've reached that conclusion looking at the people and the science. It's not 'natural' for most people; it is for a minority of people and always has been.
It's often hidden because of the penalties and bigotry and people with those feelings not knowing what to do and wanitng to hide them. Look how many gays marry the opposite sex only to find themselves in unhappy marriages - it happens many, many times (ask Arriana Huffington).
Yet in societies historically you find a similar percentage of people again and again and again. I haven't found an exception. Even in, say, the middle east - or Uganda - where the pressure is massive and can carry prison and worse, you still find people who are gay dealing with it. Talk to them - the didn't choose it.
Another thing is how people have the feelings from young ages just like heterosexuals do about the opposite sex.
It's not scientificaly simple because sexuality isn't simple - look at the passions, the compulsions, the perversions - people get out of control and warped. Molest a child and he's far more likely to grow up to molest children himself, not because he was 'born that way' but because of the way sexuality and people work. There's no simple 'gay gene'. But it's pretty clear that for whatever reason, there is a big biological factor.
Look at identical twins - they're far more likely to both be gay - but it's not 100% either. Showing genetic influence - but not simply determining it.
It is 'natural'. The reason to have an opinion should not be based on saying it isn't.
Second, the PC issue. We disagree there, but not maybe as much as you think.
If you meet someone who just HATES blacks or women or Jews or whatever group, how do you react?
Probably, hopefully, you don't think they have a good reason but you understand they feel the way they do. You might respect their freedom but oppose their hurting others over it.
It's important for it not to be 'socially acceptable'. Walking into work in your KKK hood should not just be 'personal choice'. It's good for society to take a position on the bigotry.
It's ok to have some sympathy and understanding for the person - it's normal, you can related as I can how people 'go through change' in getting over bigotry. You don't need to 'hate the bigot' and 'think they're evil'. But it's not just 'one person's valid opinion as good as anyone else's.'. It's ultimate wrong and harmful.
Now the problem with the Chik Fil A guy isn't so much for his opinion. It'd for his being a public advocate for his discriminating against others and giving millions of dollars to fund people who are politically active to tell people who love each other that they should not be able to get married and should have their equal rights denied. That is HARMFUL.
It's absolutely ok to oppose and condemn that harmful, bigoted behavior. For it to not be socially acceptable - any more than wearing a KKK hood - even if it is his 'right'.
People used to think it was ok to ignore the law to discriminate against blacks riding busses equally - which is why the freedom riders did it to draw out the bigotry instead of allowing it to silently continue, even though it meant as they'd arrive in a city the police would stay for a mob of bigots to beat the people expressing their bigotry. That confrontation brought the issue more in the open and better exposed the injustice. Confronting the guy donating millions to get the rights of people denied is ok, confronting the bigotry.
Why would it ok for him to spend millions to deny you the right to marry but it's not ok for you to say he's wrong and organize a boycott of his business that gives him the millions?
The guy needs to be shamed for bigotry.
Not doing so makes you a sort of accomplice, just as would if you tolerated the KKK denying marriage to blacks and said 'oh don't criticize them, that's PC'.
This idea of society having to take a stand or be an accomplice goes way back - the founding fathers had a 'gentlemans's agreement' not to talk about the uncomfortable topic of slavery in the middle of trying to reach agreement to form a society celebrating freedom, between those who supported and opposed slavery. That worked out well.