Something really bug me about my relationship

imported_Goo

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First this is not a troll thread.

Long story short.
I am an atheism(sp?) and my gf was a Christian and she is really into it. We have been together for 2-3yrs and we have discuss about this a few time in the past. Of course she tried to talk me into in and I always reject it with the paceful manner. She is really into it and involve in alot of the activity like church every Sunday, dinner with her group at least once a week, study every couple weeks....etc. I believe in freedom of choice so I never say a single word about her belief. Since I am an atheism she never introduce me to her group of church friends and I have never ask for either.
Other than that we don't have other "major issues" between us, but I don't think this is a healthy relationship. And I can forsee one day we will run into a major conflict.

I don't want to give up but it really bug me.
 

swimscubasteve

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Originally posted by: Goo
First this is not a troll thread.

Long story short.
I am an atheism(sp?) and my gf was a Christian and she is really into it. We have been together for 2-3yrs and we have discuss about this a few time in the past. Of course she tried to talk me into in and I always reject it with the paceful manner. She is really into it and involve in alot of the activity like church every Sunday, dinner with her group at least once a week, study every couple weeks....etc. I believe in freedom of choice so I never say a single word about her belief. Since I am an atheism she never introduce me to her group of church friends and I have never ask for either.
Other than that we don't have other "major issues" between us, but I don't think this is a healthy relationship. And I can forsee one day we will run into a major conflict.

I don't want to give up but it really bug me.


I guess no poon for you!
 

alien42

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i couldnt be in a relationship with a christian, especially one who "is really into it", for a week let alone a few years.
 

sixone

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Originally posted by: Goo
First this is not a troll thread.

Long story short.
I am an atheism(sp?) and my gf was a Christian and she is really into it. We have been together for 2-3yrs and we have discuss about this a few time in the past. Of course she tried to talk me into in and I always reject it with the paceful manner. She is really into it and involve in alot of the activity like church every Sunday, dinner with her group at least once a week, study every couple weeks....etc. I believe in freedom of choice so I never say a single word about her belief. Since I am an atheism she never introduce me to her group of church friends and I have never ask for either.
Other than that we don't have other "major issues" between us, but I don't think this is a healthy relationship. And I can forsee one day we will run into a major conflict.

I don't want to give up but it really bug me.

What happens when you have a child? Will you allow it to be brought up with her beliefs, and support those beliefs even if you don't share them? How do you explain your beliefs to a child without denigrating hers? Have you discussed this with her?

 

HN

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if she holds back poon BECAUSE of it, then leave. if you're still tappin' that, then it doesn't really matter, does it?
 

Hyperblaze

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Originally posted by: HN
if she holds back poon BECAUSE of it, then leave. if you're still tappin' that, then it doesn't really matter, does it?


are you implying he is only with her for the sex?

 

robothouse77

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sounds like it is only bugging YOU and not your SO. so what matters more, YOU, or your relationship?
 
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Originally posted by: Goo
First this is not a troll thread.

Long story short.
I am an atheism(sp?) and my gf was a Christian and she is really into it. We have been together for 2-3yrs and we have discuss about this a few time in the past. Of course she tried to talk me into in and I always reject it with the paceful manner. She is really into it and involve in alot of the activity like church every Sunday, dinner with her group at least once a week, study every couple weeks....etc. I believe in freedom of choice so I never say a single word about her belief. Since I am an atheism she never introduce me to her group of church friends and I have never ask for either.
Other than that we don't have other "major issues" between us, but I don't think this is a healthy relationship. And I can forsee one day we will run into a major conflict.

I don't want to give up but it really bug me.

What exactly is bugging you? The fact that she tries to talk you into it, or the fact that she's so into it?

If it's the latter, your "I believe in freedom of choice" statement is contradictory.
 

pontifex

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Originally posted by: HN
if she holds back poon BECAUSE of it, then leave. if you're still tappin' that, then it doesn't really matter, does it?

don't christians hold back poon until marriage anyway? or is that catholics or both?
 

Hyperblaze

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Originally posted by: pontifex
Originally posted by: HN
if she holds back poon BECAUSE of it, then leave. if you're still tappin' that, then it doesn't really matter, does it?

don't christians hold back poon until marriage anyway? or is that catholics or both?

were you aware that about 75 percent of chistians have sex before they get married?

edit: you can still love God and have sex.

Also, just because you love God and go to Church, does not necasarily mean you agree with all Church teachings.
 

Ryan

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I don't believe people who have such contradictory beliefs on the fundamentals of life should be in a relationship together.
 

Gerbil333

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Originally posted by: pontifex
don't christians hold back poon until marriage anyway? or is that catholics or both?

More or less. My roommate is a very conservative Christian and he gets poon all the time.
 

Ryan

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Originally posted by: Gerbil333
Originally posted by: pontifex
don't christians hold back poon until marriage anyway? or is that catholics or both?

More or less. My roommate is a very most conservative Christian and he gets poon all the time.

Then he's not really conservative is he?
 
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An "atheism" sounds kinda like a micro-organism... like an amoeba or something. No wonder your GF goes to church instead of spending time with you.
 

cKGunslinger

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Originally posted by: alien42
i couldnt be in a relationship with a christian, especially one who "is really into it", for a week let alone a few years.
Congratulations? :confused:
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: Ryan
I don't believe people who have such contradictory beliefs on the fundamentals of life should be in a relationship together.

I agree.

In this case, the differences in beliefs do form a wedge between the two in the relationship, and the OP is right in stating that this is an unhealthy condition.