Some words of wisdom for all you Romeos

[CichliSuite]

I feel that much of this needs to be said, not because I have an anger towards you all, or because I am jealous (god knows I'm not), but because I think this place breeds a warped sense of reality.

Some Things to Know about Girls and Dating

1. Just because you ask a girl to have coffee, doesn't mean you are dating. She MIGHT NOT EVEN REALIZE WHAT YOU MEANT by asking her to coffee.
2. Asking ANY girl out is not that diffcult. Once you ask out one girl, askign out ANY GIRL is easy. The worst that can happen is a "I have a boyfriend" or a "I am not really ready for someone" type answer. Granted, I have always been given a yes, but then again, I am not trying to ask out shallow girls who are on the shallow, my-looks-are-my-personality wagon.
3. Women are not another race or species. Realizing this, you'll have an easier time (as well as comfoirting the girl) when you act your self. If you don't believe me, try asking a girl out to a coffee in the same manner that you would ask a friend. You'll be surprised!
4. Don't subscribe to the MTV version of beauty. Everytime I log on here, I see a hundred and one losers on this board profess their undying love to some TV celeb that gets posted up. Are you that much of a media whore? Do you not realize that people will drool over any goddamn girl that makes it on TV, and that furthermore, the girls on TV are not unique, and no more different than some girl on your block? Is it that hard to keep your composure, or to maintain some sense of taste? You all act like Jennifer Love Hewitt or Reese Witherspoon ISN'T like A THOUSAND other bimbos walking the streets of your town, let alone America.
5. If you aren't the best looking kid, do you really think you have the license to be a picky sumbitch? Get over it. I've been told that I'm attractive, but I also know that I'm not model material - SOOOO I don't try to hunt for trophies, only to end up masturbating to a webcam mpeg. I can only imagine how many of you I have just described....

Anyhow, I'll end it here. Please people. Chill. Relax. There is a girl out there for you. realize though, that YOU are the girl for them. Noone better and noone worse. Recogniz yourself. Be proud. And then you'll be able to make a real experience of the world.

 

[MrHappyMonkey]

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[NFG]

absolute pearls.

 

[beatniks3]

There is a girl out there for you. realize though, that YOU are the girl for them

<--looks around the room to see if anyone else is confused!

 

[yobarman]

I sure wish Brooke Burke would return my phone calls...

 

[SuperGroove]

okay okay okay. Onto the subject of asking girls to lunch, or some small step.

What if, and I have a whole bunch of "what if's":

I am butt ugly.


Damn I thought I had more than that.

 

[Peetoeng]

<< realize though, that YOU are the girl for them. >>



That's why I have been waiting for her to ask me out. But she hasn't; so where do I do wrong?

 

[lawaris]

NOW !!!!!!! Just what do u wanna say ??

 

[Cheese78CA]

<< 2. Asking ANY girl out is not that diffcult. Once you ask out one girl, askign out ANY GIRL is easy. >>



I've asked a girl that I didn't know at all for the first girl (stranger) I've asked out last year and it hasn't been any easier since. Perhaps it's due to the overall bad experience I had. It took running into her 3 times the first day I met her before I asked her out the next day. The third time was intentional although it took much prodding and encouragement by friends. Asking to go to a dorm dance the next day was very bad day due to the short notice and she had planned a prior engagement. She looked like she tried to change her plans though which I didn't allow for it would be rude of me. I left her my number so she can call me so we can hangout later or something and she offered me her number. She never called and I called her about once a week. Shortly thereafter, I tried asking her out to lunch. First time she stood me up and the second time she made good on the date. I had a really good time and I thought she enjoyed it as we talked quite a bit and I even made her laugh. However, the call never came and I continued to call about once a week. Needless to say, eventually, I gave up.

The beginning of this year, she came in the gym while I was working out near the entrance. I saw her, but I shyed away from even saying Hi to her as I've been known to do. Sometimes I'll avoid saying Hi to girls I like even if I know then because I get a bit anxious, but in her case, she just gives me unnessary anxiety which I was afraid to deal with. Surprisingly, she started talking to me! It was brief though and we hardly ever talk since. Just a simple greeting when we run into each other.

I find I have very little to say to girls I don't know and so I don't even try with the aforementioned exception. Once I get to know a girl, I will talk to them like any friend. However, I get a little nervous even talking to some of my guy friends sometimes because I don't have much more to say to them than the girls I don't know. I've had a couple girls shown their interest in me either physically, personality-wise, or both, but they were never what I want.

I'm not sure how my problem can be fixed. I think I'm humorous, but not funny where I can crack jokes left and right. I do have many friends. More friends than most of my engineering buddies, but then I'm not as good in engineering as them. However, I don't feel like I'm really close, like a bestfriend, to any of my friends. I've never had someone who turned to me for the majority of his/her problems lest talk about a girlfriend. I wish I can be more expressive and express myself better.

 

[Burnt]

hmmm...at first I thought this was a girl giving this advice...until I read further.