Some people just can't take a hint

[MichaelD]

*sigh*

A couple of months ago, I was on an extended business trip...seminar type deal. I met a woman, we hit it off, we spent two great weeks together and have kept in touch.

We live almost 2K miles apart. She's essentially unemployed right now...company has since laid her off and she's living with friends. Not so stable. She smokes; I hate smokers.

She has been planning on coming down to see me...she invited herself for a two-week stay. AFTER I agreed that "Yeah, it would be nice to see you." :roll:

I have had reservations about the whole deal...she's a very nice person and all, but at this point in my life, I'm not "settling" for anything. Not in the job department, the looks department...anything.

I emailed her today and put the kabosh on it. Told her please not to bother coming to see me since we really don't have a future anyway. She's dumbfounded. She claims to understand that we don't have a future anyway, but still wants to come see me anyway, just to have fun.

I'll be blunt...internet anonyminity is a beautiful thing. She's not on the pill and rubbers have been known to break...I already have one child support payment and don't want another.

While it's true that any woman I date could get knocked up, I want it to be on my terms.

I.E. if I'm dating someone who has a future, so be it. It hurts me to have to cut her off at the knees like this, but there's no other way.

Thanks for listening.

Cliff Notes
I don't want to knock up an unemployed smoker that lives two thousand miles away, but she won't take the hint.

What to do? I could easily have her fly down next week and roll the dice, but I'm not a gambling man.

 

[Jhill]

parody?

 

[SmoochyTX]

Start smoking?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Jhill
parody?

No, unfortunately, it's my fcked-up life biting me in the ass again.

 

[sonambulo]

stay away. she sounds like the type of girl who would do anything for one last lay and then poke holes in the rubber.



approach with caution.

 

[Argo]

I wish I had that problem... J/k, but if she doesn't know where you live just put her on ignore.

 

[Yossarian]

while it is kinda weak to do that by email, at least you were honest with her.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: sonambulo
stay away. she sounds like the type of girl who would do anything for one last lay and then poke holes in the rubber.



approach with caution.

I see I'm not the only one that is paranoid as hell. Thank you. I needed that. :thumbsup:

It WAS weak of me to do it by email...but I really don't owe her squat at this point and that's the way I want it.

 

[cronos]

Originally posted by: MichaelD
We live almost 2K miles apart. She's essentially unemployed right now...company has since laid her off and she's living with friends. Not so stable.

that should be the red flag for you.

 

[gtsukada]

so honest i love it

 

[shimsham]

thats exactly what any mature adult should have done. why waste your time or hers?

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: shimsham
thats exactly what any mature adult should have done. why waste your time or hers?

Thank you. She just emailed me a frickin' BOOK as to how unfair to her this is, blah, blah, blah. Makes it all that much easier for me. I hate nags.

 

[TitanDiddly]

Does she know where you live? You could always give her an address half a state away...

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: PhasmatisNox
Does she know where you live? You could always give her an address half a state away...

I'm not that type of person. Right now, at this point in her life, she has nothing to offer me. That doesn't mean I'd shiit on her though.

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: shimsham
thats exactly what any mature adult should have done. why waste your time or hers?

Thank you. She just emailed me a frickin' BOOK as to how unfair to her this is, blah, blah, blah. Makes it all that much easier for me. I hate nags.

I would definitely ignore her. She sounds like a real case.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: shimsham
thats exactly what any mature adult should have done. why waste your time or hers?

Thank you. She just emailed me a frickin' BOOK as to how unfair to her this is, blah, blah, blah. Makes it all that much easier for me. I hate nags.

Just hang tough; short term pain, long term gain Actually by her reaction you are probably even more glad that you turned her away.

 

[Kyle]

dude- just keep your zipper up...geez...your not locked in to having sex w/her....

 

[BlueWeasel]

I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, that's for sure. You handled it right in a mature manner.

She'll quickly move on.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: MichaelD
She just emailed me a frickin' BOOK as to how unfair to her this is, blah, blah, blah.

So post it already.

- M4H

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: MichaelD
She just emailed me a frickin' BOOK as to how unfair to her this is, blah, blah, blah.

So post it already.

- M4H

Hell NO. You little code monkeys will find someway to extract her name, address and SSN out of a snippet of the email that I cut and paste. NO WAY.

 

[BlamoHammer]

Just double bag it. Granted there are never any guarantees when it comes to that wonders of pregnancy, you can make it so that the odds of putting the biscuit in the basket are virtually nil.

Hit it, and hit it hard.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

It's good you stopped it before anything could have made this situation worse

:beer: for being a man

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: BlamoHammer
Just double bag it. Granted there are never any guarantees when it comes to that wonders of pregnancy, you can make it so that the odds of putting the biscuit in the basket are virtually nil.

Hit it, and hit it hard.

Heheh, spoken like I'd say it. However, my little sperms have Nike Running Shoes and could survive liquid nitrogen, fire and an ammonia bath and STILL get a rock pregnant. :roll:

 

[Kadarin]

Heh.. you did the right thing. Sounds like she's either grasping at straws, or feeling the acute ticking of her biological clock, and you really don't want a part of either one.

:beer:

 

Pull out. Give her a pearl necklace.