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Some kinda friend.

Dulanic

Dulanic

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What a great friend I have. I was told he was getting married, not by him but through another friend. I then find out his best man is someone hes only known for a year, instead of me or one of his other friends who hes known for 20 years. Then I find out TODAY his wedding is saturday, thats right I find out less then ONE week ahead of time, and of corse it wasn't him to tell me, it was again through another friend. I moved earlier this year so I'm 1200 miles away, no way I could ever make it now. Neither can a few of my other friends, who are also his friends, all because he never let us know when it was. They can't go because they can't get off work, because we got all of one week warning. I am so pissed off right now, we have all been friends for 20 years and he doesn't even have the respect to let us know when his wedding is. Some kinda friend.
 
Don't tell me you're gonna go to his wedding. If I have a friend like that and he doesn't personnally invite me, the fcuk if I would go to his wedding.
 
Originally posted by: cr4zymofo
Don't tell me you're gonna go to his wedding. If I have a friend like that and he doesn't personnally invite me, the fcuk if I would go to his wedding.
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No, none of us are going. I couldn't go even if I wanted to, it's THIS saturday and I'm in TX, the wedding is in OH.
 
Originally posted by: Dulanic
What a great friend I have. I was told he was getting married, not by him but through another friend. I then find out his best man is someone hes only known for a year, instead of me or one of his other friends who hes known for 20 years. Then I find out TODAY his wedding is saturday, thats right I find out less then ONE week ahead of time, and of corse it wasn't him to tell me, it was again through another friend. I moved earlier this year so I'm 1200 miles away, no way I could ever make it now. Neither can a few of my other friends, who are also his friends, all because he never let us know when it was. They can't go because they can't get off work, because we got all of one week warning. I am so pissed off right now, we have all been friends for 20 years and he doesn't even have the respect to let us know when his wedding is. Some kinda friend.
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Yep, such things happen, unfortunately. That's why I don't believe in all of this friendship stuff. It's all good, but it also ends sometime just like everything else so you gotta be prepared it will hurt that much.
 
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
He was ashamed to tell you his fiancee is a guy. He'll tell you....eventually.
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No we all hate his fiance, shes a b1tch but we also support him because he WAS our friend. If he cares for her then I hope it works out for him. But I'll never call him my friend again.
 
Originally posted by: Booster
Originally posted by: Dulanic
What a great friend I have. I was told he was getting married, not by him but through another friend. I then find out his best man is someone hes only known for a year, instead of me or one of his other friends who hes known for 20 years. Then I find out TODAY his wedding is saturday, thats right I find out less then ONE week ahead of time, and of corse it wasn't him to tell me, it was again through another friend. I moved earlier this year so I'm 1200 miles away, no way I could ever make it now. Neither can a few of my other friends, who are also his friends, all because he never let us know when it was. They can't go because they can't get off work, because we got all of one week warning. I am so pissed off right now, we have all been friends for 20 years and he doesn't even have the respect to let us know when his wedding is. Some kinda friend.
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Yep, such things happen, unfortunately. That's why I don't believe in all of this friendship stuff. It's all good, but it also ends sometime just like everything else so you gotta be prepared it will hurt that much.
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Maybe but we are all friends from CHILDHOOD, weve known each other since like we were 5.
 
Well, at least it's a "friend". I have an uncle that I didn't know when he got married, when his wife had their kids, or how old his kid is. I stopped visiting him after a while.
 
Originally posted by: maziwanka
maybe he's embarassed?

OR, his fiance knows u hate her so she made the dude purposely not invite you guys....
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No she doesn't know, he doesn't even know. We were all close friends, so we never showed our feelings towards her, we treated her nicely, and we supported him, because it doesn't matter what we think of her, it's what he feels for her.
 
My Analysis:

maybe his fiance knows you hate her..... and she hates you too.... thus the lack of wedding invitation.
I hope that all of her "assets" make up for her character...
I'm betting 3 years before the divorce... keep us posted.
 
id ask him wtf is going just before i tell him to fvck off...for closure know what i mean.....eaither that or he is marryign your ex gf or wife or something.

kinda odd he is dissign you and his other 'freinds'
 
Originally posted by: DrPizza
My Analysis:

maybe his fiance knows you hate her..... and she hates you too.... thus the lack of wedding invitation.
I hope that all of her "assets" make up for her character...
I'm betting 3 years before the divorce... keep us posted.
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I agree, I know WHY he is with her, it's because he has always been a secluded guy, he never really had any girlfriends, and hes afraid he can't get better. I also know the house he was raised in, his mom was a psycho. It will last I think but only because he was raised to put up with a girl's sh*t, because his mom taught them females are better, always right, and guys are morons who are always wrong. She is going to school to be a doctor so it wouldnt suprise me if thats part of the reason.

But trust me his fiance doesn't have a clue we hate her, we treated her VERY nicely.
 
Originally posted by: BooGiMaN
id ask him wtf is going just before i tell him to fvck off...for closure know what i mean.....eaither that or he is marryign your ex gf or wife or something.

kinda odd he is dissign you and his other 'freinds'
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At this point I don't give a fvck one way or the other. We've always been supportive of him, he has alot of problems and weve always helped him as much as we could and this is the thanks weve all gotten.... I hope he ends up happy, and I wish nothing bad to come to him, but if it does.. hes alone next time, cause none of us will be around anymore for him.
 
Maybe he A) couldn't afford to invite you because he obviously isn't all that close to you anymore or B) assumed you wouldn't come considering you live 1200 miles away and you obviously aren't all that close to him anymore.

Nonetheless, I'd say with your presumption that he should have invited you and/or made you or one of your other friends the best man and your reaction to it not happening, he made the right choice -- your true colors are showing clearly.
 
Maybe he is just an utter bast*rd with no sense of loyalty. Perhaps now that you are so far away, you cannot do anything for him anymore so he has surrounded himseld with new people he has a use for and can get over on.

🙂
 
I went through this with my sister... she gave us about 3 weeks to make plans for her wedding, get plane tickets, everything. This was right before my summer finals, too. I was not happy about it.

Let it go... if he's changed, he's an ungrateful bastage, etc, that's his choice. It hurts, I am sure, but what can you do about it?
 
Originally posted by: Jzero
Maybe he A) couldn't afford to invite you because he obviously isn't all that close to you anymore or B) assumed you wouldn't come considering you live 1200 miles away and you obviously aren't all that close to him anymore.

Nonetheless, I'd say with your presumption that he should have invited you and/or made you or one of your other friends the best man and your reaction to it not happening, he made the right choice -- your true colors are showing clearly.
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It wasn't just me he didn't invite, we ARE invited, he just didn't let us know that. Infact only reason we found out when the wedding was is because his brother told us today. And my true colors are showing? Of corse his best man should have been one of his long time good friends over someone hes known less then one year. I never ever said it had to be me, infact I would have been a bad choice considering I live so far away now. And my presumption he should have invited me? OF CORSE HE SHOULD HAVE! We've known each other for twenty freakin years! Not to mention before they finalized this all he said he wanted all of us at his wedding. I think I am not wrong here by feeling this way.
 
Originally posted by: deerslayer
Originally posted by: Maleficus
Are you sure he is your friend...?
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Obviously he isn't. He lost alot of friends today. The whole group of us have been friends for ages, and not one of us are going, mostly because noone can with such short notice.
 
when did he decide to get married? if he has no time to plan, maybe it just slipped his mind since hes too busy dealing with situations that are right in front of his face. hell, maybe he thought she mailed invitations to you, and she didnt. either way, dont write it off until you talk to him directly about it, then go from there.

life-long friends are hard to come by. people make mistakes, at least find out whats going on before you toss him.

good luck.

edit: this sounds like something my best friend would do. hes the most absent minded fvcker ive met. ive gotten many last minute invites to parties, camping trips, and casino trips. hmmm....maybe he keeps forgetting he doesnt like me.
 
Originally posted by: Dulanic
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
He was ashamed to tell you his fiancee is a guy. He'll tell you....eventually.
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No we all hate his fiance, shes a b1tch but we also support him because he WAS our friend. If he cares for her then I hope it works out for him. But I'll never call him my friend again.
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The b1tch probably told him not to invite you
 
Originally posted by: shimsham
when did he decide to get married? if he has no time to plan, maybe it just slipped his mind since hes too busy dealing with situations that are right in front of his face. hell, maybe he thought she mailed invitations to you, and she didnt. either way, dont write it off until you talk to him directly about it, then go from there.

life-long friends are hard to come by. people make mistakes, at least find out whats going on before you toss him.

good luck.
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You are right, there may be some excuse, but I don't think so. It has been in planning for months.
 
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