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So what would you do - parenting question

episodic

episodic

Lifer
My son, a sixth grader, was pushed down in the mud by another student today. When hitting the ground he uttered a cuss word. He admitted to doing it and apologized. Immediatly other kids 'told' on him - he gets sent to the office and tells what the other kid did to him. His story is discounted and they give him 5 days of detention for the 'cuss' word.

Now I admit he should not have cussed BUT the other kid should be in much more trouble for laying a hand on my son.

I'm thinking of going tommorow and raising a stink.


This isn't the first time - a few weeks ago he got in trouble cause he got his feet wet at recess. He says he went through a puddle to get away from some kids hassling him.

Fight, don't fight - it don't matter you still seem to get in trouble just trying to avoice things. I know he has a hard time because he is in resource English for dyslexia/dygraphia. He goes for an hour a day, and I know he is getting griefed over this.

So should I ask about it?
 
I would probably request a meeting, but I also have to make sure I know the real facts about what happened, not to call your son a liar, but you never know...
 
Originally posted by: Eghck
I would probably request a meeting, but I also have to make sure I know the real facts about what happened, not to call your son a liar, but you never know...
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He usually is very truthful. I've raised him since a baby with the strictness that telling me the truth = good thing and telling me a lie = very bad.

He knows if he lies he gets pretty much everything taken away. He loves his gadgets and sports.

With that said, I know there could be more. He hasn't hid anything from me yet, though.
 
Originally posted by: episodic
Originally posted by: Eghck
I would probably request a meeting, but I also have to make sure I know the real facts about what happened, not to call your son a liar, but you never know...
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He usually is very truthful. I've raised him since a baby with the strictness that telling me the truth = good thing and telling me a lie = very bad.

He knows if he lies he gets pretty much everything taken away. He loves his gadgets and sports.
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alright yeah, if you have confidence in his story, Id go see the administrators, if anything the bully should get punished for instigating...
 
they should give those kids that told on him detention for being narcs. kids need to learn to stick together.
 
If it was on school property, you can file charges against the school.

But certainly do go have a chat with the principal.
 
the least you should do is request a conference and find out whats going on.


and enroll jr in some kick boxing classes.😛
 
Ah, I hated middle school partly for things like that. Back in 6th grade I was given 3 days of ISS for DEFENDING myself. One other kid always hated me for some reason and one day I guess he snapped, I was at my locker at the end of the day and he pushes me. I come back at him and some pushing happens with a punch or two, forget exactly what though since it's been a long time. He got a few days of OSS and I got ISS.

I told my parents and they didn't care at all and supported my moves. If I was in that situation I would have defended myself, what else was I supposed to do?!

I think they're just trying to set an example by punishing kids for something like this....
 
Originally posted by: TheSiege
they should give those kids that told on him detention for being narcs. kids need to learn to stick together.
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As I said unfortuantly he is having a hardtime with alot of guys right now as he is in resource for writing problems for an hour a day. Kids are pretty cruel. They are playing those mindgames now where they are his friend one moment and then snitching the next. My son has wised up to it and pretty much avoids all but 1 or 2 ppl. He is stoked about not going back to resource next year, maybe it'll get better then.
 
Originally posted by: shimsham
the least you should do is request a conference and find out whats going on.


and enroll jr in some kick boxing classes.😛
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He is active in the summers in Karate. He is a very solid yellow belt advanced to one black bar (like a 2nd degree yellow). He will easily make green this summer.

That said, he has an excellent very peaceful instructor who teaches alot of the philosophy behind defence rather than offense. The only reason this kid pushed him in the mud was his back was turned. My son is very good and quick. He just believe in harming none (partly our faith too). . .unless it is an extreme circumstance.

I think some of the eastern philosophy I've taught him and that he has learned has helped him to be very mature in his circumstance.
 
heck i would cuss to if that happened to me I would give that kid pat on the head and talk some sense into the admin.
 
Everytime my daughter was hurt in thos school years, the first statement invariably was "it was not a racial incidentz"

Although first time bb threw pencil in her eye

BB hit her

HB kicked her

HG and GB pushed her down.

And we werent worried about the ethnicity of alleged attacker. Just that they were duly reprimanded.

NEVER. WE CANNOT DUE TO THE RACIAL OVERTONES AFFECT (other students psyche), per the SCHOOL BORED. Oh, its ok to teach your kids to abuse white girls?

I wanted to lay the board of education smartly against the seat of learning...
 
Definatly do something about it. I am sick and tired of people not doing anything about these kinds of things.

Example: I had a friend from Lebanon about 2 years ago. At school, he did not stand up for the pledge. Teacher went up to him and said "If you are not going to stand up, go back to where you came from." He bitched about it to me, but didn't do a damn thing.
 
If he was pushed in the mud, clearly he should have had mud on him. This should have at least given some validity to his claim.
 
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