So TIRED of crap that my parents do *massive rant*

Mill

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RANT

It all started like this. They wanted me to cancel my Spring Break Trip(which was planned 6 months ahead of time) because they finally found someone to sell their house to. They wanted me to come get all my stuff during Spring Break, instead of when I got back. This past week or so I have been loading up crap and bringing to my house. Of course my mother doesn't give a flying fvck about her dead husband so she tells me that I should take his army fatigues and some of his other stuff. Well ok. I would LOVE to have a lot of his stuff but I find it sad she wants to give it to my now that she is moving. She is so enamored with my step-dad that she doesn't give a flippity fvck about my dead father anymore. Yeah just give all his sh!t to the fvcking thrift store. No one in my family cares anymore except me and my grandparents(my father's parents). My brother is such a negative and demanding jackass that no one wants to be around him. I am the only one that turned out with some sense of normalcy so I have to deal with all their petty crap.

The thing that set me off today was a table and chairs. I had been up ALL night writing a philosophy paper and then had to take my brother out to my parents old house. Of course by their rules I HAVE to do all this stuff because I am the YOUNGER one. Anyways, he was being an ass all morning because he wanted me to take him RIGHT then and there. No matter I was DOING something. He wanted to be there at 7AM to fvck with stuff even though everything was packed and the truck wouldn't be there to 10. Once I got home I fell asleep on my floor. I incoherently moved to my bed sometimes during this. My parents arrived at my house around 2:30 and starting ringing the doorbell. I was so tired that I told them to put the table and chairs anywhere. Of course I meant a RATIONAL anywhere. They put the goddamn things in the middle of the fvcking hallway. What MORON does that? I have a nice big garage! I called her up and got into an argument. She said they didn't have time to put it in a proper place. Would it have been that much harder to put it in the garage? I mean after all I am taking this table and chair set because YOU were going to THROW it away.

We get into an argument how she hasn't done anything but be my step-father's sidekick since my father died and it turned pretty heated. She was being so fvcking stubborn and hard headed that I finally just hung up. Listen to some of the crap I have to put up with: Don't call during 5:30 to 7:00 because that is when they eat. EVEN IF I HAVE SOMETHING IMPORTANT it has to WAIT while they EAT? As if it is that much problem to listen for 5 goddamn seconds about something that is not even my problem to begin with. No calling after 10PM. See I have this theory... they are aliens. Why else no calls after 10PM? Seriously, my mother said even if I was hurt NOT to call after 10. She said they could be called in the morning.

I am so fvcking tired of their inconsiderate asses that I REFUSE to ever talk to them again. Ever. Fvck it. I am done.


Edit- Did I mention the fact that they don't talk to my Grandparents anymore? There was a big fight about a bunch of crap and my parents told them they have no right to interfere with my life. Well guess what? They do because I WANT them to have a right to interfere with my life. Thank you very much may I be in charge for a while?!
 

Phuz

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Ouch. :(

Does your mom just finds it easier to forget, easier to let go, and pretend it never happened?... I'm not saying thats the right thing to do, because if she avoids coping with it then it'll come back and hit her hard later down the road... thats sad...
 

BooGiMaN

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Dude you have soem messed up family issues there....i dont see how your mom can be acting so disrespectful to your dads memory..thats just sad....hope things go better for you ..but at least ur out on your own
 

T2T III

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Oct 9, 1999
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Those rules are sick (in regards to the calling restrictions.) Unfortunately, your mother doesn't have more respect for your deceased father. :( :(

 

Zugzwang152

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Oct 30, 2001
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yeah, theres something wrong with your mother imo, and with your step-father for not recognizing it. my dad was in the army, and i know my mom would likely be crushed if he were to die, even though they're divorced now.
 

Mill

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The thing that really made me mad was that I was having a good day. I wrote a good essay and went by my Grandparent's house. I went to the store for them and helped cook breakfast. After breakfast we sat around drinking coffee and talking. I nearly fell asleep on my drive home but I made. All I wanted was a little sleep before class and then a good night's rest tonight. My day was ruined once again because my mother is SO wrapped around my step-father.
 

Fausto

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My advice to you would be this: Wait until you've cooled off. Then get together with your mom (or call if she's not nearby) and relate all the stuff that's bothering you in as mature and concise a manner as you can. Tell her how you feel about your dad, your perception of how you're being treated, everything. The key thing is to keep it a civil as you can. Put your anger and resentment in the cookie jar in order to not put your mom on the defensive and you might actually make some headway with the issues. I had to do this with my dad over Xmas; it was really painful to listen to him rant and say horrible things to me while angry, but eventually he calmed down and we actually made some sense to one another. PM me for details if you think it might help.

Fausto
 

Ultima

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reminds me a bit of the crap with my parents.. although that was different and a lot worse in many ways.
 

wnied

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Take as much of your fathers things you can, store them someplace safe. Once all this crap cools down, and a couple months or years go by, someone else is going to ask you if you have your fathers "X" (Where X = whatever the hell they ask for.) Unfortuneatly its not until many years later that people realize the pettiness of their actions at the time of an incident or situation. Just know that you had the brains to see the situation and evaluate the stuff for the true value it held at that particular time.

Sometimes people try to prove the theory right, that we are now known as the throw-away generation. Anything thats usefullness is in question, gets tossed regardless of any sentimental value it may hold.
~wnied~
 

amdskip

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Yeah, try to keep the stuff because someone will want it. I'm not trying to be too personal but how long of a time period has it been since your father passed away and your mom met your stepdad? Sounds like things might of happened too quickly and your stepdad has your mom worshiping him like a king.

Jeff
 

Linux23

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Dude, how old are you?

Anyway, the thing that really got me was the Call Restrictions they put on you. I mean, yeah, my parents have a don't call after 10PM thing as well, however if i'm hurt they would never be upset at me for calling them. What is she thinking?
 

Mill

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Originally posted by: amdskip
Yeah, try to keep the stuff because someone will want it. I'm not trying to be too personal but how long of a time period has it been since your father passed away and your mom met your stepdad? Sounds like things might of happened too quickly and your stepdad has your mom worshiping him like a king.

Jeff

My father died 12-11-91. My mother married my stepfather 08-14-93. Yeah I think it was WAY too fast as well.
 

Mill

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Originally posted by: Linux23
Dude, how old are you?

Anyway, the thing that really got me was the Call Restrictions they put on you. I mean, yeah, my parents have a don't call after 10PM thing as well, however if i'm hurt they would never be upset at me for calling them. What is she thinking?

20. I was exaggerating a little bit, but basically unless it was a VERY SERIOUS emergency I am not supposed to call. So if it could wait unil morning to call I should wait. That is just a tad bit too much for me.
 

iamme

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Jul 21, 2001
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i can't really offer any words of wisdom, but i hope things get better for you.