So the girlfriend took me out for my birthday dinner last night...

[Shadowknight]

You should always pay what you ate, not what the other person ate. The OCCASIONALY treat is okay... providing they reciprocate. Do NOT pay for her food until the next time she picks up the entire bill. Always make sure she and the waiter hear you say "separate tabs please". If she finally pays for dinner once, then you can buy her dinner (once). There's a difference between dating and being a doormat. Just because she expects you to pay the bill doesn't mean she should. If she's too selfish to bring her own cash or credit cards with her, let her deal with the resteraunt while you go on your merry way. Time for some tough love if you want an equal relationship, methinks.

 

[jtusa]

Originally posted by: EGGO
Don't feel bad OP. My ex and I went to dinner one night (day before my birthday) to tell me whether or not she wanted to stay with me, as we were going through troubles at the time. At the end, she said no, I paid for the dinner.

Needless to say, I hope she dies a very painful death now.

Lol!

I didn't think I was being unreasonable by being a little turned off by this and most of the replies confirm it. Just have to figure out what I'm going to do about it.

 

[preslove]

Originally posted by: jtusa

Originally posted by: compnovice
The real question is what happened after dinner 😉

Absolutely nothing, but that's something out of her control, so those festivities are supposedly postponed.

Dump her.

 

[astrocase]

In all honesty, if you've been paying for everything all the time then it might just have been an oversight on her part that she let you pay the bill. That's one issue you have to deal with. She really should be paying for something at some point. Even if it's only a token gesture that she cares. However to have you both pay for your own birthday dinner and then get no action is just crappy. Did you get a present at all?

 

[jtusa]

Originally posted by: astrocase
In all honesty, if you've been paying for everything all the time then it might just have been an oversight on her part that she let you pay the bill. That's one issue you have to deal with. She really should be paying for something at some point. Even if it's only a token gesture that she cares. However to have you both pay for your own birthday dinner and then get no action is just crappy. Did you get a present at all?

A few shirts.

 

[Geekbabe]

She invited you out to dinner on your birthday, she should be footing the bill. I would start off by plsaying dumb and casually asking "honey,I'm reconciling my Checkbook/CC statement, do you think you can write me a check now for the birthday dinner you invited me out to? "

Her answer will speak volumes to you about her character

 

[l Xes l]

wow dude... use that girl for what's she's worth and find a nice girl while you are at it....

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: jtusa

Originally posted by: astrocase
In all honesty, if you've been paying for everything all the time then it might just have been an oversight on her part that she let you pay the bill. That's one issue you have to deal with. She really should be paying for something at some point. Even if it's only a token gesture that she cares. However to have you both pay for your own birthday dinner and then get no action is just crappy. Did you get a present at all?

A few shirts.

Gee, she sounds like a keeper.

Also:

Originally posted by: jtusa

Originally posted by: compnovice
The real question is what happened after dinner 😉

Absolutely nothing, but that's something out of her control, so those festivities are supposedly postponed.

"Supposedly" postponed sounds like you're not sure they will happen at all. So... Why are you with this girl in the first place?

It would be interesting to hear her point of view on this, because based on what I've seen in this thread, the evidence is pretty damning against her.

 

[Vinfinite]

wow that totally sucks, and no dessert either? Wow...

did she at least give you a great present? or did you get shafted on that too?

 

[dmw16]

Weak. In my opinion, birthdays are 0ral occasions.