So I want a social life

Woosta

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I'm kinda getting tired of the internet. Tired of downloading porn. Tired of usenet/torrents. Tired of coding. Tired of IM'ing. I want to get back into real life yet I work full time (9-6) come home usually at 7:40 pm. Hmm?

Any tips?

Plus, I still have college to look forward to since I graduated HS recently.
Oh and did I forgot to mention I have social anxiety. Well I've been doing some weight lifting and volleyball/basketball/racquetball to feel a little more confident.. that's currently what I'm doing but I'm not doing anything socially.
 

Kaolccips

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Originally posted by: Woosta
I'm kinda getting tired of the internet. Tired of downloading porn. Tired of usenet/torrents. Tired of coding. Tired of IM'ing. I want to get back into real life yet I work full time (9-6) come home usually at 7:40 pm. Hmm?

Any tips?

Plus, I still have college to look forward to since I graduated HS recently.
Oh and did I forgot to mention I have social anxiety. Well I've been doing some weight lifting and volleyball/basketball/racquetball to feel a little more confident.. that's currently what I'm doing but I'm not doing anything socially.

Geez..

Yeah just start working out to boost your confidence.. Don't you have any friends you can hang out with?
College should help.. just remember to not try to hard. Play it cool. Parties help because of the alcohol so be sure to check out those.. though don't go not knowing a single person there, make sure you actually know someone.

I don't know what to say really.. that's all I got.


edit: Try myspace :D
 

Woosta

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I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.
 

olds

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...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.
 

Kaolccips

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Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

Hmm.. I'm not really sure.. maybe someone who has been in the situation you're in can give some insight of how they met new people. I've never moved.. so.. never really had to meet new people. I have social anxiety too.. so I can understand how hard it will be.

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.

Written by a person who obviously has never had social anxiety. It doesn't have anything to do with those things, sure they contribute.. but anxiety is more being afraid of everything that could happen.. you imagine things 10000x worse than they really are in your mind.

Best advice I can give is just suck it up, and do/say it without thinking of it too much. If you let yourself start thinking, it'll make it wayy harder to say. And you'll probably seem super nervous. Which.. if you're attractive, girls actually can find that really cute :)

I'd say your best bet is college. Or just try to talk to people around your area on myspace that seem to have the same interests. Eventually you might convince a girl to meet you for some coffee or something like that.
 

Fayd

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stand outside the aerobics room at your local gym and stare inside while classes are going on.

this is of course assuming that your local gym has glass walls around the aerobics room. if it doesnt, find one that does.








sorry if i'm not any help.
 

xanis

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when you get to college just start talking to people. get involved in social activities and join a club or a frat or something. you'll get more comfortable with being around groups of people and you'll soon get over your social anxiety.
 

olds

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Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

Hmm.. I'm not really sure.. maybe someone who has been in the situation you're in can give some insight of how they met new people. I've never moved.. so.. never really had to meet new people. I have social anxiety too.. so I can understand how hard it will be.

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.

Written by a person who obviously has never had social anxiety. It doesn't have anything to do with those things, sure they contribute.. but anxiety is more being afraid of everything that could happen.. you imagine things 10000x worse than they really are in your mind.

Best advice I can give is just suck it up, and do/say it without thinking of it too much. If you let yourself start thinking, it'll make it wayy harder to say. And you'll probably seem super nervous. Which.. if you're attractive, girls actually can find that really cute :)

I'd say your best bet is college.
Uh, I've been to college and I suffered from anxiety. Can't you tell I am over compensating now? Some psychologist you'd make.

 

illusion88

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Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

et out and start talking to people. Seriously. It may be awkward at first but you will get better at it. People aren't as judgmental as you think.
 

Kaolccips

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Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

Hmm.. I'm not really sure.. maybe someone who has been in the situation you're in can give some insight of how they met new people. I've never moved.. so.. never really had to meet new people. I have social anxiety too.. so I can understand how hard it will be.

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.

Written by a person who obviously has never had social anxiety. It doesn't have anything to do with those things, sure they contribute.. but anxiety is more being afraid of everything that could happen.. you imagine things 10000x worse than they really are in your mind.

Best advice I can give is just suck it up, and do/say it without thinking of it too much. If you let yourself start thinking, it'll make it wayy harder to say. And you'll probably seem super nervous. Which.. if you're attractive, girls actually can find that really cute :)

I'd say your best bet is college.
Uh, I've been to college and I suffered from anxiety. Can't you tell I am over compensating now? Some psychologist you'd make.

How can I tell anything, this isn't real life.

Yeah and your advice to just follow people around is much better. What will he do when he has to talk one on one?

Though
Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.
That is good advice. You might want to believe people are judging every word you say, but they aren't. Just try to not think so much.. if you catch yourself overthinking, dont. Try to stay chill.
 

olds

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Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

Hmm.. I'm not really sure.. maybe someone who has been in the situation you're in can give some insight of how they met new people. I've never moved.. so.. never really had to meet new people. I have social anxiety too.. so I can understand how hard it will be.

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.

Written by a person who obviously has never had social anxiety. It doesn't have anything to do with those things, sure they contribute.. but anxiety is more being afraid of everything that could happen.. you imagine things 10000x worse than they really are in your mind.

Best advice I can give is just suck it up, and do/say it without thinking of it too much. If you let yourself start thinking, it'll make it wayy harder to say. And you'll probably seem super nervous. Which.. if you're attractive, girls actually can find that really cute :)

I'd say your best bet is college.
Uh, I've been to college and I suffered from anxiety. Can't you tell I am over compensating now? Some psychologist you'd make.

How can I tell anything, this isn't real life.

Yeah and your advice to just follow people around is much better. What will he do when he has to talk one on one?

Though
Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.
That is good advice. You might want to believe people are judging every word you say, but they aren't. Just try to not think so much.. if you catch yourself overthinking, dont. Try to stay chill.

Gee, why didn't I say that? :roll:
 

Kaolccips

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Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Originally posted by: Kaolccips
Originally posted by: Woosta
I've moved around so often (I'm still in my late teens) and all the good friends I knew are no longer near me.

Hmm.. I'm not really sure.. maybe someone who has been in the situation you're in can give some insight of how they met new people. I've never moved.. so.. never really had to meet new people. I have social anxiety too.. so I can understand how hard it will be.

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
...I forgot to mention I have social anxiety...
Get over it.
You need to figure out why you have it/what bothers you and meet it head on.
If it's because you feel awkward and don't know what to say, be more of a wall flower and follow other people's lead. Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.

Written by a person who obviously has never had social anxiety. It doesn't have anything to do with those things, sure they contribute.. but anxiety is more being afraid of everything that could happen.. you imagine things 10000x worse than they really are in your mind.

Best advice I can give is just suck it up, and do/say it without thinking of it too much. If you let yourself start thinking, it'll make it wayy harder to say. And you'll probably seem super nervous. Which.. if you're attractive, girls actually can find that really cute :)

I'd say your best bet is college.
Uh, I've been to college and I suffered from anxiety. Can't you tell I am over compensating now? Some psychologist you'd make.

How can I tell anything, this isn't real life.

Yeah and your advice to just follow people around is much better. What will he do when he has to talk one on one?

Though
Don't feel that everyone is hanging on your every word. They aren't.
That is good advice. You might want to believe people are judging every word you say, but they aren't. Just try to not think so much.. if you catch yourself overthinking, dont. Try to stay chill.

Gee, why didn't I say that? :roll:

.. Why do you think it is in quotes?:confused:
 

miri

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Originally posted by: newb111
That leaves you plenty of time for a social life (8pm-2am)

Aye, especially since he most likely has weekends off as well.
 

Jeff7

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First RightIsWrong ditches the porn, now someone else does.

Don't worry, porn, you just sit tight! Daddy's a'comin'!


Dammit that sounds dirty.


 

Baked

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Delete your WoW toons in full T6 gear. Don't cut yourself if regret creeps in though.
 

NanoStuff

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Originally posted by: Woosta
I'm kinda getting tired of the internet. Tired of downloading porn. Tired of usenet/torrents. Tired of coding. Tired of IM'ing.

Wow, you have all the best things in the world and you want to drop them for what?
 

videogames101

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Originally posted by: Woosta
I'm kinda getting tired of the internet. Tired of downloading porn. Tired of usenet/torrents. Tired of coding. Tired of IM'ing. I want to get back into real life yet I work full time (9-6) come home usually at 7:40 pm. Hmm?

Any tips?

Plus, I still have college to look forward to since I graduated HS recently.
Oh and did I forgot to mention I have social anxiety. Well I've been doing some weight lifting and volleyball/basketball/racquetball to feel a little more confident.. that's currently what I'm doing but I'm not doing anything socially.

WHAT? GTFO!

You don't what you have 'till it's gone!
 

Q

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You'll get one with college, even if it's with a few people. Living in a dorm guarantees you to at least talk with your hallmates daily.