So, how does one get over a good relationship?

[TripleJ]

2 days ago my girl and I broke up. We were together for over a year. She just said it was over and that's it. I asked for a good reason and she couldn't. So I didn't harp on about it and told myself that sh!t happens and I may as well look forward to the silly season. Yesterday, I was going well. Today, it's hit me like a ton of bricks. I saw her photo on the table and felt like I had a mini heart-attack. I didn't want to get out of bed, my right eye seemed to leak constantly, and I feel sick in the stomach. I went for a bicycle ride to wake myself up and the damn gears kept changing on their own and the tyres were flat and I couldn't find the bike pump. Basically, I'm having a sh!t of a day.
A lot of people seem to be having similar probs at the moment around here. Why me as well?

So, what else is their besides getting inebriated?

 

[Random Variable]

time heals

 

[TallBill]

eh.. well.. if my relationship right now fell apart.. so would i.... i'd probably sell everything and move to cali... i dunno... it better not end

 

[Czar]

Been through that, its horrible, one of the worst moments of my life and I dont think I´ll ever heal.

My advice to you is find something to do, be around people, do NOT start dating again untill you are 100% ready, thats all.

Time will only help you to deal with this

 

[punkrawket]

go out get majorly plastered............ you'll forget all about this relationship and worry more about barfing/walking/waking up/getting rid of your hangover

but seriously.... try not to think about it... take your mind off it and as Vespasian said... time heals

 

[AdamDuritz99]

<< time heals >>



Been there, done that and basically time heals. This christmas i'm really lonely, but it's nothing compared to what i went through in february and nothing like you are dealing with. Just let the time heal, and hang with friends.

peace
sean

 

[Rent]

Time does heal.

Unfortunately, its moving at a snails pace for me.

 

[b0mbrman]

do NOT start dating again untill you are 100% ready, thats all.

I don't know...the first time I felt that way, the *only* thing that fixed me was dating again. It all depends on you, buddy

And in the short term, grabbing a few drinks with friends wouldn't hurt

 

[RGN]

It was 3 and a helf years ago... Sometimes I still don't feel ready...

 

[TripleJ]

Time is going real slow.
I never thought it was going to get serious.
And you're right Czar, this relationship biso is taking a backseat for a while.
Damn it, I wanna see her again.

Why the f*ck am I carrying on like this? This isn't me. I never thought I'd be feeling like this. So silly, so stupid.

 

[Czar]

b0mbrman
I don't know...the first time I felt that way, the *only* thing that fixed me was dating again. It all depends on you, buddy
I did that, I thought I was ready and I started dating. I agree it helped me get over the other girl. I dated the new one for 2 months and she fell so in love with me and I didnt because I wasnt ready, having to dumb her knowing how much I had hurt her was the most horrible thing I have ever done. It actually felt worse then when I broke up with the other girl, but the pain didnt last as long.

TripleJ,
The only good thing I can say about this is that now you know what a relationship is supposed to "feel" like, and your goal now is just top that but only when you are ready

 

[thomsbrain]

you and me both, buddy. 3 years and all of the sudden, she says she moving out.

 

[thomsbrain]

we should have a freaking cry party or something. damn.

 

[yoda291]

actually, I don't think you ever 100% get over a GOOD relationship. You just kinda fuddle your way into the next good one, but it's still there. It's part of your history and who you are. Don't worry tho, you'll always have your friends and a computer to help.

 

[Daniel]

Generally a "good relationship" doesn't just end, there has to be something wrong at least for one of you but i'm sure that's obvious.

I'm in the camp of don't jump back in until you are totally ready, if it was something on your part then try to fix that instead of thinking that finding
someone else will make it better cause then you will have the same problems as before.

Lastly as everyone else said, go out with your friends, keep busy, if not you will just sit around and sulk and it will drive you insane.
good luck.