Singles of ATOT...do you use your cellphone while on a date with someone?

[Rumpltzer]

Originally posted by: sniperruff
no unless it's a call from my mom.

If it's your mom, do you put it on speakerphone?

 

[gotsmack]

yea, but I keep it short. Sometimes its an important call. Last month I went out on a first date and an hour in my boss called me to tell me to bring something to with me for travel on Monday. I excused myself and took it without even checking the number first.

My date didn't seem to mind. She most likely didn't like it, but I'm going to see her again this weekend.

 

[kami333]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: sniperruff
no unless it's a call from my mom.

 

[maddogchen]

if i'm on call, i tell them i have to take it. i'm pretty sure they'll understand.

Otherwise if the phone goes off, i take it out and put it on busy and then silent, to show that I'm putting her first. If they call again like right after...then it must be something urgent and I do excuse myself to pick it up.

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

Everything is not always equal. People did not formerly pull out books and start reading while on the date. Yet those same people that recognize the rudeness of that action will pull out a cell phone and read text messages and reply to them. Many people simply do not recognize that there's an etiquette to using cell phones.

Before cell phones, you could only have a conversation with the person you were with, there simply were no other options. The cell phone is not taking the place of any other device.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

but people WERE more courteous and DID have better interpersonal skills before the internet and cellphones' advent. There's actually a mountain of studies attesting to the latter. And you're right, prior they could stare at a menu or something, but that doesn't eliminate the chance for interaction. Talking to someone else on your phone, that does.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: yowolabi

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

Everything is not always equal. People did not formerly pull out books and start reading while on the date. Yet those same people that recognize the rudeness of that action will pull out a cell phone and read text messages and reply to them. Many people simply do not recognize that there's an etiquette to using cell phones.

Before cell phones, you could only have a conversation with the person you were with, there simply were no other options. The cell phone is not taking the place of any other device.

exactly, it was like a captive audience. People had to TALK to someone even if they didn't completely like them. I think that's the reason for conversational skills being horse ****** now. We only know how to civilly interact with people that we entirely LIKE.

 

[Vegitto]

I don't have a cell phone.

 

[DougK62]

They're both rude. Your phone shouldn't even be ringing when you're on a date because it should be turned off.

 

[kami333]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

but people WERE more courteous and DID have better interpersonal skills before the internet and cellphones' advent. There's actually a mountain of studies attesting to the latter. And you're right, prior they could stare at a menu or something, but that doesn't eliminate the chance for interaction. Talking to someone else on your phone, that does.

I've actually heard that from a number of friends but none has ever actually come up with the references.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

well if it is a more formal date (food drinks etc...) no cell phone. If it is a casual hanging out.....like she is tagging along with you somewhere shopping etc.... then its acceptable for a brief convo or 2.

 

[kami333]

Originally posted by: yowolabi

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

Everything is not always equal. People did not formerly pull out books and start reading while on the date. Yet those same people that recognize the rudeness of that action will pull out a cell phone and read text messages and reply to them. Many people simply do not recognize that there's an etiquette to using cell phones.

Before cell phones, you could only have a conversation with the person you were with, there simply were no other options. The cell phone is not taking the place of any other device.

But if the oppurtunity existed, they would have. And since it didn't, they were stuck talking to someone that didn't interest them, making uninteresting idle talk with half their brain. Basically the same thing.

Are there any studies that show that dates have become less successful than before cell phones became common place?

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: kami333
Yes. The rest of my life does not suddenly go on hold just because I'm spending time with someone, I won't have an extended conversation though. Answer the phone, deal with the issue or tell them you'll call them later and resume date.

The one time I wasn't answering my phone was when I was in a hurry to get stuff done at work so I could leave early to see Harry Potter, later I found out that my father had been trying to reach me to tell me that my grandmother dying in the hospital. I was 10,000miles away so there was nothing I could do but I felt crappy about it.

I understand what you're saying...but before cell phones what did people do? they had to interact with each other without some crutch to lean on if it wasn't going well

There was always a crutch. Maybe they stared at the menu or newspaper?

I always find it funny when people bring up the good ol' days before cell phones became common place, when people were curteous, the lawns were nicely trimmed and the paperboy delivered on time. Yeah, right. Human nature is human nature, rude and obnoxious people will be rude and obnixious in any era, it's just that their tool to be rude and obnoxious with will be different.

but people WERE more courteous and DID have better interpersonal skills before the internet and cellphones' advent. There's actually a mountain of studies attesting to the latter. And you're right, prior they could stare at a menu or something, but that doesn't eliminate the chance for interaction. Talking to someone else on your phone, that does.

I've actually heard that from a number of friends but none has ever actually come up with the references.

I've actually read the stories in one of my psych courses, I'll grab some references after a final I have today

 

[thomsbrain]

HELL NO. at least not when you're still trying to woo her. and even after she's wooed, you better have a damn good reason to be on the phone.

 

[slpaulson]

I wouldn't answer it, but if they left a voice mail, depending on who it is, I'd probably listen to it when I get a chance.

 

[George P Burdell]

I ignore the phone unless somebody calls repeatedly.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

No, because the most important call I'm likely to get is,

"Dude, 'ssup?"
"Uh, I'm on a date."
"Cool. Squeeze 'em nice."
*click*

 

[Bill Brasky]

<--Cell phone on vibrate, lets it go to voicemail. If important I'll make a quick callback during bathroom break.

 

[Cabages]

Dont have a cell phone, dont go on dates.

 

[OVerLoRDI]

Honestly I think our society was better without cell phones. Especially in regards to women, women have this strange ability to think that everyone who talks to them is their bestest friend in the whole worlds! So cell phone communication or someone being in their phone book constitutes a friendship. Without cell phones it forces people to actually put effort into relationships, every proper relationship requires a certain level of intimacy be it secret holding, physical attraction, love, or sex.